and the drame starts

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Yes oh yes, I to have those lovely girls who think that they are better than everyone else(or maybe they dont and thats why they pick on certain people)in some of my classes right now. School has just begun and yes, so have their mouths. Why is it impoosible for a group of girls bettering themselves to be kind to one another? This program means so much to me but I have to hear a bunch of gabby girls being mean....talking in code, so yes, it could be about me and i just dont know!...Its like, why are you here?REALLY? because im sure when you had begun the whole application process, this is not what you thought of when you thought "Nursing School"! I just dont know what to do. I try and stay clear of them while they are gabbing, but there are so many of them, like they are a majority of the class....so theres kne always by. And I even ride to school with one- shes a very nice girl- but who knows, they have there own lingo, so when I am in there work group, i cant tell what is up!!!Its very frustrating! It makes me very self concious!...what should I do?(and no, unless they say my name specific i dont want to become the girl every one picks on because i am the one who stood up and said soemthing- Oh they even talk about eachother, but obviously, anyone who talks about someone to you, is talking about you to someone!!!! :down:

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I'm a little confused. You think they're talking about people but you're not sure because you don't understand "the code?"

Who gives a flying fadoo? Do your work and ignore it.

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Yeah...obviously you dont pick up on your surroundings but i have been around on this planet much to long to go on not noticing a bunch of teeny boppers talking about PEOPLE, not just me-although I dont know. Its the glances from one girl to another that really irks me. I do do my work, I do pay attention and I do try to keep to myself when it comes to my personnal/student life. But I am not gonna be the person who has to have these girls glance and snicker and snare everytime I walk by and laugh and joke at my expense for the next 8 months. I think its really aweful, they talk about anyone for any minute imperfection or for being who themselves. Code words are words that they share with eachother, and I know they do it, Im not paranoid, I have been around them when they were talking about what the word should be for "Stanky" for example....so yes I will continue to do my work and study and pass but I was asking for constructive feedback and am greatful for anyone elses story on how they dealt with it!THANKS

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No, I pick up on my surroundings. I do, however, ignore that which irks me.

Carry on.

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No, I pick up on my surroundings. I do, however, ignore that which irks me.

Carry on.

Thanks for the input!

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

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I would like one flying fadoo, please. I'd like to see what one looks like. :roll

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FWIW, my class has been going on for only 3 weeks now, and while we started out with the cliques, its becoming obvious who is going to be around for awhile and who is not, and the cliques are starting to fall apart. I think that it may have been more a defense mechanism than intentional malice. We do still have those that group off on their own, but not in any way that harms the classroom environment.

Also, keep in mind that not only is it very hard to talk about non-related stuff and study at the same time, but nursing schools generally have a 50% attrition rate in the first semester, so maybe they won't be bothering you for long. :)

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Honestly, the percentage that make it to the end isn't incredibly huge, so ignore it the best you can and do your best to pass. Before you know it, the ones who aren't paying attention aren't there and you are getting your diploma.

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No offense, but are you in kindergarten or nursing school? There are going to be people throughout your life and career that you don't jive with, you need to get over it. You are in school to learn to be a nurse. You should give a rat's a** what girls like that think of you; they sound like COMPLETE MORONS.

One more thing: Only you have the power to make YOURSELF feel selfconscious.

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I graduated and passed nclex three weeks later. the girls' gabby fab click? none yet tested after three months.....stupid girls and we all knew it, all on every public aid they could find......thought they were all so witty, but they were dumb as rocks..

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You have to look at the long term here. Yes, it hurts when people treat you that way. But they haven't gotten into your home yet. They aren't a supervisor that's holding your job over your head, they haven't raped you...they aren't affecting your quality of life whatsoever, unless you allow them to.

They're idiots. BOTTOM LINE. They aren't going to get you to where you need to be in life and yes, it's annoying. But, whatever your faith is..pray for them according to the precepts of said. Feel bad for them. But if that kind of mess causes you to not finish school, it's only because you allowed it to.

They don't exist unless you let them. I swear, and I promise that this is the truth. They just don't exist.

We have like, 2 people like that in my class of 70. They don't exist to any of us. We're all too busy learning and encouraging each other to give them the attention they appear to be desperate for. lol they wear sunglasses even in class it's hilarious. Super catty, but it's too funny to matter. You have to adopt that attitude. They JUST DON'T EXIST, that's the absolute best way to deal with it. They have no fodder to fuel their fire unless you give it to them.

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I graduated and passed nclex three weeks later. the girls' gabby fab click? none yet tested after three months.....stupid girls and we all knew it, all on every public aid they could find......thought they were all so witty, but they were dumb as rocks..

While I'm definitely not one of those types of girls that never matured past high school (actually I'm often the topic of their conversation and couldn't care less), I am on public aid. I fail to see the correlation. Just because I'm a single mother trying to do something for my daughter and I doesn't mean I'm low class.

Just my :twocents:.

And PS I'm acing my course. Just further evidence that being low-income doesn't mean low intelligence or low class.

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