Nurse Manager is a Bully - page 3

On Tuesday, I received a call at home from my nurse manager (who barely accepted this position 3 weeks ago). She stated, "I found some things on your hall over the weekend, and I need you to come in... Read More

  1. by   vamedic4
    Hey Commuter...I'm so very sorry this happened to you. I agree with others who say to RUN...the market here in DFW is great for LVNs, and I'm sure you could find gainful employment elsewhere and NOT have to work with people who do such a disservice to nursing and healthcare in general. Funny how s&%t floats to the top.

    Good luck.

    vamedic4

    You know it's gonna be 35 degrees on Saturday right?? UGH.
  2. by   linzz
    I am with regulating and loving it. We need to find a way to stand up and fight this nonsense that makes it impossible to just simply do our jobs. I am sure that we are all very tired of the same old nonsense.:angryfire
  3. by   sayitgirl
    Quote from TheCommuter
    On Tuesday, I received a call at home from my nurse manager (who barely accepted this position 3 weeks ago). She stated, "I found some things on your hall over the weekend, and I need you to come in this week so I can counsel you in the presence of the DON."

    I was straightforward and asked her, "Are y'all planning to terminate my employment? This is the second or third call I have received since you took over a few weeks ago." She said that they weren't planning to fire me, but wanted to counsel me in the presence of the DON.

    We agreed to meet Friday, but I telephoned her this morning and said, "I cannot meet tomorrow, so we'll have to reschedule for next week." She was imperative that I talk to her in person before the weekend arrived, but I made up excuses and refused to do so. She finally said, "I guess I'll counsel you over the phone, since the DON is standing next to me. You're on your last straw. On Monday morning we saw that you didn't do a dressing change, so I have the choice of either counseling you or terminating your employment. I choose to simply counsel you, because we'd like to keep you around. But you're on your last straw here, and I'll fire you for anything else."

    I honestly did not see an order for a dressing change for this particular patient, but I digress. Here's my point: if this issue was so important and consequential to this nurse manager, she would have handled it on Monday. However, she just wanted the opportunity to accumulate brownie points in front of her DON at my expense, by attempting to meet conspicuously on a Friday morning.

    Thanks for putting up with my rant. This is a thankless job. If I am fired, I'll just bounce to another facility.
    Why not just meet with the manager and DON and discuss the issue?
    "I honestly did not see an order for a dressing change for this particular patient, "
    You have a valid point. If you leave you will not resolve the issue mentally, always remember out of every negative incident, something positive does happen.
  4. by   bethin
    Quote from TheCommuter
    I didn't whine or complain about the staffing issues. However, I mentioned that it is difficult when 4 CNAs (aides) on my unit have to shower, feed, dress, and toilet 80 patients. When the unit is fully staffed, we have 6 aides helping us. When we are understaffed with aides, I am stressed because I have to toilet patients and help with feedings in addition to med pass, treatments, wound care, ostomies, tube feedings, etc.
    If I do my math correctly, that's 20 residents to an aide. I don't see how all these residents get fed in a reasonable amt of time.

    I've read alot of your posts and you sound like a great, thorough, caring nurse. You made a mistake, but guess what? Everyone does. Nursing is a 24/7 job. If it isn't done on your shift then it falls to next shift. They may not like it, but as long as you are not routinely leaving work for them I don't see how it's a problem for them to do a dressing change.

    Do you alone have to pass meds, do dressing changes, etc on these 80 residents? If it's that busy the DON needs to get her butt on the floor and help with some of these dressing changes, tx, etc. She is a nurse afterall and just because she sits behind a desk doesn't mean she suddenly forgot how to apply some gauze and tape to a wound.
  5. by   bethin
    Quote from TheCommuter
    I forgot to mention a very important fact. This particular nurse manager used to work at my facility one year ago while pregnant, but was escorted to the parking lot by this same DON in April 2006 and told to not return. Back then, she was the facility staff developer. Therefore, she was actually a victim of this DON in the recent past. The company called her back to work a few weeks ago because none of the current floor nurses wanted or accepted the nurse manager position.
    Red flag. She's scoring brownie points and trying to look important to the DON that escorted her off.

    Get out while you can.
  6. by   sayitgirl
    Quote from TheCommuter
    I forgot to mention a very important fact. This particular nurse manager used to work at my facility one year ago while pregnant, but was escorted to the parking lot by this same DON in April 2006 and told to not return. Back then, she was the facility staff developer. Therefore, she was actually a victim of this DON in the recent past. The company called her back to work a few weeks ago because none of the current floor nurses wanted or accepted the nurse manager position.
    There's probably a lot of things you are leaving out about your story, I would just leave. They are digging a hole for you to fall in. Some nurses are vindictive enough to report things to the nursing board, get out while you can, some things you can not change.
  7. by   TheCommuter
    Quote from bethin
    Do you alone have to pass meds, do dressing changes, etc on these 80 residents?
    No, the 80 residents on this particular long term care unit are split between 4 nurses.

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