I currently have a family member who is impossible to please. No matter what I or the other nurses do, we are always questioned. Not only are we questioned, she drills nurses about what other nurses have done and why. When most nurses answers match the other shifts answers, she seems miffed that we all are on the same page with his care. All of the teaching that is done to her falls on deaf ears. Her "assessment" differs from yours at every turn, and you are wrong. You're interventions are ineffective. You're not doing enough. Never mind that the Ativan she requested we give was dosed less than 10 minutes ago. It's not working! No kidding...She doesn't want him sedated, but the non-narcotic pain reliever he was given isn't working according to her, what about morphine sulfate? This as he looks at me and states he's not having pain. The nasal stuffiness with cough (LCTA) is pneumonia or bronchitis please and thank you. NOT the URI he was diagnosed with. She maintains contact with "a friend that works at another nursing home" who tells her we are not providing adequate care in so many words. She also constantly texts his hospice nurse with her "assessment", which interestingly enough, doesn't match mine. She yells for us from the hall for assistance because it takes us too long to answer the light. I know. Less than 5 minutes is an eternity, especially when it's to tell us he's cold. She monopolizes not only the nurse's time, but the CNA's as well. Statements always made of "I know I'm a pain...I know you're busy but..." This resident is fairly easy to care for when she isn't there. When she arrives, suddenly he's "dying". What do you do in these situations? I have depleted my aresenal of tactics that work on most needy residents/family members. My first instinct is to hide under the desk and pray she goes away, but I'm fairly certain she would camp out and wait for me. She is the same with the other nurse's as well. Please advise.