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I missed two days of clinical due to stress, job obligations and just plain feeling like I wanted to withdraw. I emailed my professor on the day of clinicals (about two hours prior to start of class) to speak to her. Long story short, I only received the chance to speak to her the next day in the afternoon. I also emailed her a vague reason for not coming in, but like I said she only contacted me the second day in the afternoon.

So anyway, of course now the head of the nursing school is urging me to withdraw. I tried every avenue to have them reconsider explaining that I would do anything to make up the labs and even do more than that, but to no avail. They say there are no more labs available to make up and they also referenced their guidelines which clearly state "two labs missed and you can be terminated from the program."

I am now so incredibly sorry for what I did and want so much to finish the program, but it doesn't seem like they will give me the chance. Is there any other option? (I know every school has their own set of rules and guidelines, but maybe another avenue to state my case.) Did this ever happen to anyone? Also I want to state that I was doing well in both lecture and lab.

Specializes in ICU/ER, Maternal, Psych.
Here is the thing. You knew the requirements before hand and you did Not showing up for work or clinicals...is totally unacceptable...

especially when there are so many other people who WERENT accepted and would like to DESPERATELY be in YOUR nursing program.

Specializes in Oncology/hematology.

Take the withdrawal and learn from it. And, no more excuses. You either do the work or don't join the program the second time (if your school allows that). If you feel that you will be the same type of student, with the same work ethic, don't take a spot away from someone who will put in the effort.

Specializes in ICU.

If we miss clinicals there is no making it up. You have to have so many clinical hours to sit for the NCLEX and I know my instructors have full schedules themselves teaching other classes and doing other clinicals there is no way to make it up. We were told to save our absense for a dire emergency. We get 1 a semester.

Specializes in Medical Surgical/Addiction/Mental Health.

I would not harp over this. While it is frustrating and emotional, this is a great opportunity to reassess your life situation and to determine if there is anything that can be removed from your plate. Nursing school is incredibly demanding and rigorous as you already know. In this situation, I would take the W on my transcript rather than an F. I think you will find it easier to get into another program- perhaps the same one at a later date. It will be much easier to gain acceptance with a grade of W versus a failing grade of F.

I wish you the very best!

Specializes in School Nursing.

How far into the program are you? This is definitely a live and learn situation- never miss clinical unless a true medical issue or emergency is occurring. Nursing school is stressful even under the most ideal circumstance- Good luck to you!

I was in a similar situation when I withdrew from nursing school a few years ago. Your best option is to take the withdrawal, use the time to get some rest, and re-examine whether nursing is what you really want to do. Talk with your school. Be honest with them. They'll probably give you another chance in a future class. If they do, learn from this situation. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Good luck!

Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
I missed two days of clinical due to stress, job obligations and just plain feeling like I wanted to withdraw. I emailed my professor on the day of clinicals (about two hours prior to start of class) to speak to her. Long story short, I only received the chance to speak to her the next day in the afternoon. I also emailed her a vague reason for not coming in, but like I said she only contacted me the second day in the afternoon.

So anyway, of course now the head of the nursing school is urging me to withdraw. I tried every avenue to have them reconsider explaining that I would do anything to make up the labs and even do more than that, but to no avail. They say there are no more labs available to make up and they also referenced their guidelines which clearly state "two labs missed and you can be terminated from the program."

I am now so incredibly sorry for what I did and want so much to finish the program, but it doesn't seem like they will give me the chance. Is there any other option? (I know every school has their own set of rules and guidelines, but maybe another avenue to state my case.) Did this ever happen to anyone? Also I want to state that I was doing well in both lecture and lab.

First I want to commend you on taking responsibility for your actions (instead of blaming the instructors) Many people work full time and manage school and life responsibilities and many don't have a support system. My class graduated several single mothers and widows who managed it. A classmate of mine had an abusive husband who was knocking the snot out of her on a regular basis. Another had a husband on dialysis,another's husband was waiting for a liver transplant. Another young woman lost her 3 month old baby to SIDS a few weeks after class started. Only one of those women dropped out (and did go on to finish later)

If you plan on trying to go back you need to set yourself up to succeed. I worked as much over time as I could get the year before I started and during breaks to enable me to work part time during school sessions.

My own mother told ne the day of graduation how surprised she was since "you never once finished any thing you started" .She was right,I never had .Don't let that be YOU.

Specializes in Neuro, Telemetry.

Maybe withdrawing and taking some you time is needed before trying to readmit or apply elsewhere. We are all stressed. The reason you are not getting super supportive responses as to your reasons for missing is because we all know the feeling well. You have your reasons fro stress, but just about every student has a back story. The school just doesnt care. They cant. There are too many people who would do almost anything for your seat. Also, they need to know they are preparing a nurse that will be accountable when working. If being down about yourself caused a knee jerk reaction to just ditch clinical or lab, then what's to say that wont happen again in the future. Thats how they will see it unless you can figure out how to prevent this and present that to them with an action plan. Sure, I have had times I just wanted to pull my hair out and throw away all my nursing books and quit. In fact, last week I woke up and just really did NOT want to go to clinical. I was tired, I'm feeling a but burnt out. Im stressed about personal stuff. I would have loved nothing more then to just call out. I even would have still passed because I have only missed one theory class due to sickness in the last year and no labs or clinicals. But you want to know what I did? I picked myself out of bed, got ready, and went to clinical. Sometimes you just have to peel yourself off the floor and get it done.

Basically, take some time to figure out how to prevent this from happening again, maybe see a counselor, or get with family and find some support, make a study/support group with some school friends. Whatever it takes to get you motivated to complete school. Then reattempt to finish. IF you dont make some changes, you are just going to skip class and fail again. Because, yes, we all "know how it is," most of us just know how to get passed that and get the job done. You can figure it out too if you really want to. GL because there are NO excuses.

I hear your pain and I understand your struggles. I am a single mother who works full time and I don't have a huge family support system. There have been times where I didn't want to get out of bed, not because I'm lazy but because I'm so tired. But I always did. Mainly because I don't have anymore times for make up labs/clinicals/classes. I pushed forward.

If you can handle going another year take the withdrawal. Try again. You learned a lesson already without all of us telling you what you should or should not have done. Best of luck to you. It takes a strong person to go through nursing school whether they decide to go back or not!!

Specializes in N/A.

I just want to encourage you and wish you good luck. I am about to begin school and I know that moment is going to come for me when I just don't want to go on. I read your story because I wanted to remind myself what would happen if I had a bad day. I don't have a great support system either-I actually chose to move back in with my parents so that I wouldn't have any bills at all while in nursing school. I can not imagine how hard it must be to juggle a family and/or a job while in school. I do not think that I would even take on nursing school if I had to support myself with a full time job or take care of other people. My hat is so off to people who are able to do it. You live and you learn-don't let it get you down. As people said, take your W, take a deep breath, assess what went wrong, fix it and try try again! If this is meant to be your path-it will be!

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