This is not silly at all. I just got out of cna school,and I am taking some nursing prerequisites now. I think we have all felt embarrassed and weird doing pericare to a member of the opposite sex or even the same sex.
I have always been uncomfortable around naked people. I used to get so embarrassed when my best friend would go to the bathroom (#1) in front of me if we had been out partying. I kept thinking if I am so embarrassed by naked people how can I possibly clean someone?
My first day at clinicals for my cna class I was petrified of giving a bed bath for this very reason. Well my first hour there, the cna said I was going to give this old man a bath. I was really hoping for someone who had alzheimer's so they wouldn't be "there". I went in and asked a few questionsabout how to do things (we hadn't gotten a chance to practice on the dummies at school). So she said she would do the older man and I would do the next person.
We go into the next room so I can do my bed bath and laying there was a 38 year old quadriplegic. All I could think is, "Ugh, I got a young guy." I was sooooo emabarrassed. :imbar I wanted to just die. But I thought to myself you have to be professional, and he is probably more embarrassed than you, just pretend you know what you are doing.
I lucked out, he had been hurt 18 years ago, so he was used to people doing things to him. He joked around. He told me exactly what to do. He liked using his shampoo, didn't like too much lotion, move his leg etc . Alot of cna's hated him because he was such a control freak, but for me it was good because I didn't fumble. I made small talk with him. I pretended to myself I had done this a hundred times. I got through it. I wasn't embarrassed after that.
Once you do it once it winds up being no big deal. I try and think about what a good thing I am doing when I have to do icky things or embarrassing things. By doing them I have made the patient feel clean and comfortable. For some people their quality of life is so poor that being clean is the only thing that makes them feel good anymore, I am glad to be able to help them.