Start a family VS nursing school - page 2

Hi everyone, I am new here. What a great forum!! I am thinking of going to nursing school but know little about it. Hubby and I want to start a family in a year or 2 and I will probably be in the... Read More

  1. by   KrisRNwannabe
    I nearly died last february when my period was late. i thought i am not going to able to start the nursing program in august. thankfully it was a false alarm!!! a girl in my class is a surragate (sp?) for her friend (she is just the oven, totaly their bun) she had a c-section on a thursday after class, got 1 week off and goes back monday (we have a test that day also). i don't how she is going to do it. to me it just doesn't secan't wait to have them but.....I already spent 4 years in college getting BS degree. after i finsih nursing school then babies. I don't want too seem self-fish. i want a career. I am not a sty at home mom and never will be. my mom worked full-time a job while we were we here growing up and we tunred out more reponsible, more hard working and more full of heart. you can be good mom and have a career. but nursing school is awhole different beast. wait untill school is over. you will want to enjoy being pregnant and not worrying about your next exam. good luck in whatever you decide.

    Kris
  2. by   e_pigpig
    Quote from kesneysmom
    Well this is what I did, I have had my LPN for 8 years my little girl is now 3. I work as a school nurse so my hours are great. I am currently doing excelsior college to get my RN and I don't feel like I am sacrificing anything. I study when I can and it works well. I dont know your age, that may be a factor for you. Just way the pro's and con's, realize what kind of support system you have and you and your husband make a joint desicion together you know your family and limits best. Good Luck in whatever you do!!

    Another twist to think about. I know alot of women that once they have a baby, the want to be stay-at- home moms. I don't know if that is an option for you but some women take one look and will do and sacrifice everything to stay home.
    Actually I am very young, turning 22 this year, Dh is turning 31 and has a stable job. So, he thinks that he is ready to start a family. He didnt push me to have one, in fact, he cant!


    I love kids a lot. When I look around of my friends who have kids, I know it is not easy to raise them, expecially before they go to school for a whole day. They need a lot of care and attention. so, maybe we should wait until I finish school. :stone
  3. by   e_pigpig
    Quote from bean 76
    I wish I could add my $.02 cents in here but I'm afraid I can't. I'm currently in my 6th month of pregnancy and am supposed to start my final semester of an ADN program. I only have to finish Critical Care, Psych, and Role Synthesis. Instead of graduating this May, I will have my baby, wait a year and finish next May. When DH and I started, we went in with the idea that I may have to postpone graduation by a year but to me, it was worth it. I'm thrilled that I'm expecting. To me, a family has always been more important than my career. I'm not saying it will be easy when I go back to school...but it will only be for a short time.

    Nursing school will always be there...the opportunity to have a child will not. I don't know your financial situation, age, or medical hx, so I cannot say what I would do in your situation...I made my decision and I have no regrets. Every time I feel my little girl wriggle around, I know I made a great decision and I can't wait till May to finally meet her! Good luck with your decision! It's the most important one you'll ever make!!!

    ~Bean
    Hey, Bean 76, thanks for sharing your experience. I do want to hear opinions from different sides. You know, my Dh nickname is Bean too. It's interesting. :chuckle

    I have been thinking if I could get a nanny for my kids but it is kind of unfair for them. I do want to bring them up by myself. That experience is invaluable.
  4. by   LeashRN
    Got married 1 month after turning 19, had a child just before I turned 22. Now 38, still married (happily - my daughter is 16) and in nursing school...........

    My advice, finish school first - plain and simple.

    Love and luck, Alisha
  5. by   smk1
    5 yrs ago i was just starting the prereqs for nursing school and i got through the first semester and then the beginning of the second semester we got pregnant (was not planned) I thought i would stay in to finish a few more classes until the baby was born, i ened up horribly sick for the first 5 months and it was all i could do to go to my part time job, let alone attend school or study, so i dropped out. I also couldn't bring myself to return to work after she was born, (cried everytime i thought about it and ended up quitting). I just started back to school 1 yr ago when my daughter ws about to turn 3 after being a stay at home mom all that time. It is precious and goes by fast. My advice is to get school out of the way first, it will be cheaper, easier and faster this way. good luck no matter what you decide.

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