Soooooooooo frustrated with my classmate!!

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Just started LPN school last week. There are 26 students in my class. We have the same classes with everyone, same classroom. The woman who sat beside me on the first day is an ESL student (English as a Second Language). Now, she would have had to pass an English proficiency test to get into the program, but she is struggling with both the regular English conversation in lectures and definately with A + P.

I'm already quite proficient in medical terminology and A + P. She interupts me AT LEAST 3-4 times per lecture to ask what word was just said, or what page the instructor is referring to, or the meaning of a word etc. She is a very nice person and I do feel for her situation, but I am there to become a nurse, not be her translator!!!!!

I find it soooooooooo distracting and frustrating to be interrupted so much when all I want to do is listen and take notes. She will often ask to borrow my notes at the end of class since she didn't catch half of what was said.

I called an instructor today to talk about the situation, but wasn't called back. I guess she had already left for the weekend.

I don't want to change seats as I'm right at the front. It's not even that I don't want to sit beside this woman, but how do I approach this without coming accross like an insenstive jerk? If this was an English speaking student doing this, I would have no problem telling them to stop interrupting me so much.

But because she is ethnic and ESL, I feel like I would be discriminatory or really mean by telling her STOP INTERUPTING ME ALL DAY TO ASK FOR CLARIFICATION OF ENGLISH WORDS AND INSTRUCTIONS!!

I don't want the instructor to single her out and make her feel uncomfortable. Perhaps the instructor would be willing to make a general class announcement like "we've noticed some whispering going on during lectures. Please refrain from interuppting classmates during lectures and save your questions for the end of class" or something like that.

Any words of wisdom for me?

You could arrive in class later then her, so you can choose NOT to sit near her.

Of course that's a very passive agressive way of dealing with the situation.

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That's a positive spin...telling her to get over it because it will be happening when she graduates? How is that so positive?

Hey I just wanted to say that nearly 8 months later I still think you are wrong. I have people asking me stupid questions all the time, and I've been an RN for a year. My position still stands to the original question: GET USED TO IT

To me, this is a simple case of Darwinism...

If she can't pass the classes, she shouldn't be a nurse.

If she doesn't know enough English to pass the classes, then she shouldn't be working in a hospital where listening and understanding is a critical skill

Well, I'm sure there are more than 2 front row seats. I'd just move.

Yes, we have a few in our class that do that as well, everyone is going to know someone who had a similar illness/experience, but if everyone interrupted to tell their story it would take forever and we would never learn anything. As for the original poster, I agree with the earlier poster to suggest that she get a recorder and record the lectures, and explain as nicely as possible that you are in the same boat trying to learn as well and you lose your train of thought when you are interrupted. If she asks "what did she just say?" you can just shrug and say "I don't know". A few times of this and hopefully she will stop asking you. I know I would feel like I was being mean too, but nursing school is challenging enough without having to learn and teach simultaneously.

Good luck to you.

Best regards,

Jean

Specializes in 5th Semester - Graduation Dec '09!.
I seond the suggestion for the voice recorder. This would help her, and save your sanity.

This is what I was thinking as I am reading this!

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Hey I just wanted to say that nearly 8 months later I still think you are wrong. I have people asking me stupid questions all the time, and I've been an RN for a year. My position still stands to the original question: GET USED TO IT

Oh wow thanks for letting me know.

FYI...people ask stupid questions all the time but it doesn't mean you need to stay in a situation like the original poster. Sometimes you don't need to get used to things. Sometimes you need to stand up for what is in your best interest. But if you want to roll over and "get used to it" rather then doing what is best for you then so be it.

I'm glad you are an RN. That's really exciting.

Oh wow, I guess I didn't even notice the age of this posting and that it has since been resolved. So disregard my earlier post. Doh! I think the original poster handled it appropriately, and really that is what you need to do as a nurse, not just learn to "live with it", but to be assertive enough to make it work out postively for both sides.

Best regards,

Jean

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