Don't let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do. Only you know yourself - how easily do you absorb new information? How much time do you have to spend studying/reading to "get" something? How old are your kids and how self sufficient are they? How flexible is your job?
I was told by more people than I could count that there was ZERO way I could manage to work full time and go to nursing school. Much less be a single mom to boot.
I am a "non traditional" student going back to school in my early 40's to become a nurse. Scratch that, I'm no longer a student, I graduated in December.
I am a single mom of a teenager who's pretty self sufficient.
I have to work 40-50 hours a week as a computer programmer, however my company is very flexible with my hours with some work from home options and was willing to flex around my lecture/clinical schedule as long as I got in my hours and got my work done. Also, the nature of my job gives me repeated 10-20 minute stretches of time when I'm waiting on something to run, that I can use to study or go over flashcards or whatever.
I'm lucky that I have a background in medicine (was a Paramedic 20 years ago) so a lot of the content wasn't completely new, and I also learn new material quickly without having to read it more than once plus lecture and clinical.
In addition to all that, I was dealing with horrible symptoms my first semester that got diagnosed during my required summer session in nursing school as sleep apnea, then that fall had a massive exacerbation of my irritable bowel syndrome. Then in the Spring of my 2nd year in nursing school, I had an adverse reaction to a medication prescribed, which caused lesions to form in my heart causing 40+ PVC's a minute with malignant symptoms and I dealt with it for 8 weeks to get through the semester until I could have a heart procedure done during summer break.
Was it easy? Heck no. Would I take on all of this if I had any choice? Resoundingly heck no. Did I make it? Yep. I'm a GN waiting to take the NCLEX as soon as I can schedule it (they haven't released our ATT's yet). Now, I couldn't manage straight A's, even had to live with a couple of C's. But my overall GPA is 3.37 and I have my ASN. I'll be starting my online bridge program for my BSN in the fall.
I will say, if you have any options to cut back hours, take out **minimal** loans, apply for grants, get family to help out with kids, use EVERY advantage you can to lessen your load. Be VERY realistic about what you can and cannot do, and what your time constraints are.
But don't let someone else determine what you can and cannot do.
Best of luck to you!!