Positive Thinking Is Useless By Itself - page 3
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According to San (2006), positive thinking can be described as the practice of embracing the affirmative in our thoughts, our feelings, our actions, our reactions and our speech. Positive thinkers are usually brimming with... Read More
- 1Jul 25, '12 by ImKosherQuote from Tragically HipI think your talking about "procrastination" rather then positive attitude.
Some behavioral researchers think that can-do positive attitude can lead to inaction by giving the person a psychological sense of accomplishment, as if he's accomplished something concrete, even before he acts. The pleasure is awarded prematurely.
My thought about this topic is that one can have positive thoughts, but without action it's useless. Sure enough, I would not work if I "prayed" for someone to come out and "bless" me with house payments for the month. Even better, I could pray to win the lottery.
This psychological method has its benefits and negatives, we can't just state that positive thinking is bad or good. It's a balance that comes complete with action and wisdom for example.
- 0Jul 25, '12 by tothepointeLVNQuote from decembergrad2011I think in that regard we are what we are. I wax and wane between optimistic and pessimistic but that's more to do with BP than anything else. It does mean though I have to be able to function in both states and for the most part I do. So I can see both sides of the coin.
I'm perfectly okay with being an optimistic person. It's brought some great things to me, and allowed me to deal alright with the hardships. I probably could have still accomplished what I have being pessimistic, but I'm not sure I could have dealt with the hardships. The bad times are when positive thinking has been the most helpful for me.
- 2Jul 25, '12 by dee78I am a firm believer in positive thinking. My husband calls me a hopeless optimist. This coming from a "negative Nancy". I just choose to find the positive in a situation, sometimes it is much harder to find than in other situations but there usually is a silver lining. I don't think that those positive thoughts are what will get me closer to my goal but I do believe that they get me in the mindset to make things happen.
For instance, I have been applying for job all over since before graduation. Seriously hunting consistently and have received countless rejection emails or nothing at all. My classmate has been doing the same thing but she let it get her down and stopped applying a month or so ago. I let it get me down for a day or two but then picked myself back up and applied for more. I have a nursing job now and she doesn't. So my positive thinking kept me going.
But I do agree with you, positive thinking alone does not accomplish anything. I have no idea what "The Secret" is but I have never heard a motivational speaker say that positive affirmations alone were enough. It is just a way to get people in the right mindset to accomplish their goals.
- 2Jul 25, '12 by amzyRNI agree that positive thinking or "everything will be okay" does not always translate into positive outcomes. I think there is an element of denial in just thinking and saying "this will be okay", "you can do it", failure is not an option" etc., Like the OP said above sometimes failure is an option and it happens. Sometimes we won't be good at everything and might not be able to do other things, no matter how hard we try. I think seeing our failures in a more positive way is what positive thinking will help with. If I can feel good about my failures and mistakes and translate that into lessons learned and personal growth, then I will have transformed my failures into something positive.
- 0Jul 25, '12 by Tragically HipQuote from ImKosherI'm talking how self-help techniques in general sometimes itself leads to a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, even though nothing useful has been done. It's not a matter of putting things off (procrastination), but rather, lacking the drive to follow through with constructive action. It has the effect of a drug.I think your talking about "procrastination" rather then positive attitude.
Quote from dee78If you read The Secret, or see the flashy movie, they will tell you that having the right thoughts will attract the right people, the right opportunities, and the right stuff. I shook the DVD box thinking that the action plan/execution part may have been on the second disc, but there was no second disc.But I do agree with you, positive thinking alone does not accomplish anything. I have no idea what "The Secret" is but I have never heard a motivational speaker say that positive affirmations alone were enough. It is just a way to get people in the right mindset to accomplish their goals.
- 3Jul 25, '12 by greenjungleReality is a cold science of numbers. What is needed would be guarded/realistic optimism or defensive pessimism. There are just so many factors in human existence that are beyond our control, and no amount of prayers, positive thinking can bend reality. Action is needed within the spheres of control that we have influence over. As the late Stephen Covey explained, there are things within our control, events partially under our sway and the rest are totally beyond our grasp to change. We can only adapt to survive in every situation that we meet.