Nursing Student needing ADVICE! - page 4
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Hello. This problem I am having may need quite a long introduction, but I will summarize as best as I can. What I need is genuine advice. Last year I was a very hard working student and I got a 4.0 GPA and go accepted into my... Read More
- 0Okay thanks I appreciate that advice. I will do that then. I will stop using my ear plugs and then just put on my headphones which are these: http://www.howardleight.com/images/m...jpg?1345620849 to cancel out some sounds without having to worry about it giving me swimmer's ear. I will put ear pods in with white noise too to see if that works for me. Are you guys able to say.. read a completley new reading in the textbook that you really need to understand WHILE listening to music or white noise? I just am so accustomed to needing complete silent when doing things like that, but I do not know if many others are able to have music while doing so - just wanting to see if it is worth giving a try or if it will end up being a mistake because I won't comprehend anything. I kind of just want to "train" myself to be able to study and read with music because I feel it may help my scenario a lot.
- 1Dec 2, '12 by CT PixieI am a married woman with 2 kids (LOUD kids..haha), a husband, 2 dogs and 2 cats..needless to say my house is never quiet. I study better with a little background noise. If its totally silent I can't seem to concentrate on what I'm reading. So, to answer your question, I prefer a little background noise, whether that be music playing lowly in the room just the general noise in the house.
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Do you think this could help me study? Or is it more distracting?
- 2Dec 2, '12 by pecanpiesI am not a counselor, psychiatrist, therapist, etc. and even if I were, that would in no way qualify me to offer any sort of diagnosis or advice over the internet. That being said...I sense a lot of anxiety in your post. You obsess about very normal everyday noises (shuffling papers, opening drawers, etc.) and it clearly is a source of intense stress for you. You obsess about the quality of your sleep, to the point where sleep is actually becoming more difficult. From what you have written, I get the feeling that you are experiencing the sense that the world is against you - you lost your old roommate, didn't get the single room, don't have a car, etc. You're focusing entirely on the negatives in your life, to the point that it is now affecting your sleep and health. You don't want to go to the library because it takes 10 minutes to walk there, but how much time have you spent worrying about this? I bet it's more than 10 minutes.
Does your school have a counseling center for students? It might be helpful to talk some of this out, in person, with someone there. I am in no way suggesting that there is something "wrong" with you. We all go through stressful times in life and sometimes, the stress becomes too much. Do NOT let this hinder your path to becoming a nurse. A counselor can give you some strategies and coping mechanisms for dealing with this stress. If you don't have a counseling center, do you have health insurance? Many health insurance plans offer a limited number of counseling sessions via telephone, for free. It's worth looking in to. Good luck to you, and remember - this will pass! You can get through this.
- 0Pecanpies - I appreciate your post. Hearing from all of you on this site has made me realize that I really need to be more optimistic about things. Earlier in the year, I was actually able to deal with these things and just shrug them off, but as you know, they have now become essentially the "end of the world" for me. Last night I turned around from my desk and told my roommate that I do not want to have this odd tension between us because it makes me being in the room feel really uncomfortable and I just want there to be nothing weird in between us. I believe that helped a little. I still cannot control her ever move, but I feel that my room in this dorm is probably quieter than a lot of the ones I could get stuck moving in to - so I will keep reminding myself that. Do you, pecanpies, think that I should spend the majority of my time studying in there? I am doing it right now and I am not having too many issues or stressful bouts, so I am hoping that maybe I am on the road back to my old self. I do only have one more semester left of this, and I guess it is not going to be perfect, but I will have to make use of a lot of stress-reduction techniques and make use of my alternative sites to study such as the study room in my dorm or my library, no matter how not so "ideal" they are in my mind.
In addition, yes, I have visited the counseling center. To be honest, it was kind of "lame." They gave me a sheet with muscle relaxation techniques and told me to get an apartment off campus after I had told the woman three times I did not have a car.. haha, so it was not the best experience.
- 0Dec 2, '12 by pecanpiesSorry the counseling center was so unhelpful. =( That's frustrating. At least you gave it a shot!
I spent a ton of time studying in the library when I was in school, both the first time around and when I went back for my BSN. When I was in school the first time (and living on campus with no car), the library was a 10 minute walk from my dorm room. When I went back for my BSN, the library was about 10 minutes away from the commuter parking lot. I walked to and from the library in rain, sleet, snow, you name it. Twenty minutes was a small price to pay for a quiet, calm study environment. Since you asked, I think you should give the library a try. At the school where I got my BSN, our library had about 10 "quiet rooms" - small rooms off one of the main levels with a door and a small desk. Those were REALLY quiet - and no distractions! There was nothing on the walls, no clocks, etc. They were the perfect place for someone (like me) who is very easily distracted by any level of noise or conversation. Maybe your library has something similar?
- 2Dec 3, '12 by PRICHARILLAisMISSEDYou just happened to get lucky with that first roommate. No disrespect intended OP, but you have to understand that the room you share belongs to your roommate just as much as it does to you. While common courtesy should be given, I don't think you should expect her to tip toe around her own room just because slight noises bother you. How fair is that to her? I really mean no offense here, and what I'm about to say next may be taken harshly but know that I'm really not trying to upset you. Here it goes:
Your last roommate spoiled you. Also, I find it crazy that you don't want to take a 10 minute walk to a quiet study hall. That blows my mind. Wow. Seriously, it blows my mind. I'm wondering whether this post is real because it's not like you said your new roommate is disrespectful, just that the noises that accompany normal day to day life is preventing you from studying. I mean, opening and closing drawers... Really!!!???!! She even agreed to wear head phones while she watches TV! I might do that once in a while if you had a mid term or something, but not all the time lol.
But if you want a solution, go get a pair of those BOSE Quiet Comfort headphones. They're supposed to work like a condom. They're a bit expensive new, but if you check craigslist I'm sure you can find a pair at a reasonable price.
Good luck with your studies. And again, I know the tone of this post may come off a bit stern, and I don't mean to upset you. But come on, you have to know that you're being just a tiny smidgen unreasonable...just a bit, maybe?
- 1Dec 3, '12 by grpmanGo to the library and understand that if this is the worst thing you are coping with then all will be well. There are many here who are getting divorced, single with kids, have ill loved ones, work 2 jobs, etc,. and still manage to make it. Some people have a combination of what I just mentioned. I am saying all this to help put your problem in perspective, not to dismiss it. You do have a problem, but it is highly fixable.
- 4Dec 3, '12 by x_factorI really wish having a roommate that opens a drawer and flips the page of a book too loudly was my biggest concern in college.
OP, you are being extremely unreasonable, I'll just say it. A dorm is a HOME for college students, it's where they live while in college. It's where they hang out with a friend, watch a good movie, relax, sleep, and yes, sometimes study. But like any home, if you can't study, there are many places on campus designed for studying. If I was your roommate, I would not watch tv with earphones on for your convenience, unless you were studying for a mid-term or final. Otherwise, that's her home too, and she shouldn't have to go to those extremes.
I live at home while in school and my house is FULL of noise. People talking, dog barking, tv blaring, you name it. If I have an exam coming up, I DRIVE 45 minutes to school, even on my days off (!!) just to go sit in the school library a few hours to study. It doesn't bother me any to do so, the library is big, spacious, quiet, and full of books if I need to reference them. Not to mention, free school wi-fi for any research I need to do on my computer. On days where I am in school, I still spend 2-3 hours studying after my classes before driving home, just to make sure my work gets done. I actually prefer to study in the school library, less distractions and I get more done.
A 10 minute walk to the library? Yes, walk to the library and do your studying there. It's not unreasonable. For most students it's actually normal.