I graduated nursing school just a few weeks ago and preparing for my NCLEX. I've spent a lot of time wondering what my preceptor will be like when I am hired and have an opportunity to be a real nurse. I have seen all sides good nurses, bad nurses, good students as well as bad. And I very much hope, I'm not unlucky enough to be stuck with someone who takes joy in the pain and humiliation of others.
It is my job to work hard, be prepared, and absorb as much information as possible while being oriented. It is my preceptor's job to teach me the ropes and help me learn. Yes, I do understand that not all nurses want preceptees...but I'm also thinking that those nurses don't want to work extra hours or have poor patient loads because they bullied the new grads into quitting. Sounds a lot like shooting yourself in the foot... That being said, I want to be told, clearly, if I'm about to do something unsafe. I want to know if there is a better, safer way to complete a task. I want to be a good nurse! You don't need to humiliate me to make that happen. Most times, I'll know I've made a mistake the moment I've made it, but not always, as I haven't gained the experience to make that judgement in all cases. Instead of talking behind my back and ridiculing me, ask me why I chose to do that, ask me what my thinking was and correct it. Use this moment to teach me a better way. Yelling at me won't teach me anything. Humiliating me, will only show others that you are a bully. Talking about me behind my back will damage my reputation, but eventually, it will speak more about your character than mine. You can't make me give up on being a nurse. You can, however, make me get my experience and get the heck off of the unit, leaving you with YET ANOTHER preceptee to teach and an increase in your work load....so yea...bully me. Seems like it hurts you more that it hurts me. Sad really, because with just a little common decency you could have helped made your unit a better and less stressful place to work.