This is a little long ....
I reentered a program for the last two classes I need to graduate for my RN. I need to only complete the last 16 weeks then I can graduate. Problem is I have a nursing lab preceptor that I had difficulty with during my previous time in the program and it doesn't appear to have improved this time around. I went back in with the attitude, "do whatever it takes to graduate" but there are only so many things I can do. I have smiled, bit my tongue while she makes stupid comments, answered her questions to the best of my ability, put up with her snide comments and rude attitude. But I am at my wit's end. The final straw came today when I received an email stating that she would not sign off on my skills list if I didn't purchase a nursing packet of equipment (i.e. foley, dressing kits, etc.). On the list I have completed all my skills on the list that require any equipment because I had some of my old equipment from my previous time in school or I borrowed from other students to save on the cost since I have only 1 semester til graduation.
Problem: The dean and her are thiscloseoffriends and the dean tends to believe whatever this lady has to say. My problem I need her signature on my sheet in order to complete all requirements of program. I have cut my hours at work to complete therefore my money is tight. The packet is close to $100. I don't feel that I need to purchase a packet that I don't have a use for. Any comments how to handle this situation? Also she makes my life very difficult (taking extra time to get to me, asking tons of questions while other students don't have this treatment, nasty comments about my personal life, etc.) when I am practicing skills or taking quizzes/test in lab. I just want to finish the RN program but she is making my life He**!!!!!
I am not scared nor intimated by her I have been a practicing LPN for 6 years now I do know a little bit of something. WHAT DO I DO? HELP!!!!!! She is an evil woman.
Sorry for the length.
Jun 22, '08
I first want to extend my empathy and admiration to all of you who have experienced unfair treatment from someone in authority during school – it is a horrible experience because these people should be mature and fair and there should not be abuse of power issues in a school – that doesn’t bode well for the future of nursing.
[FONT='Arial','sans-serif']I visited this website and have been reading a lot because I encountered a similar situation this past Friday and feel upset and very worried and my mind is racing so that I can’t study. I’m in an accelerated program and have to constantly study and write assignments and participate in clinical or class so being upset is a handicap.
I have a leadership class and the professor is awful. She gave us no guidance or support with the clinical requirement – we had to find a preceptor we could follow around for a total of 30 hours in 5 weeks on top of a full summer semester credit load. She wouldn’t even give us the list of outside facilities we have a contract with – she read it to us in class so fast no one had time to write them down. We have to keep and submit journals with directions for what has to be in them. We have to write a ridiculous final paper and use theory and a whole list of requirements about management, leadership using a theory model and it is such a boring and unwieldy assignment I dread it. We had to get a contract signed and have the preceptor agree to all these pain in the ass things they had to provide access to and take us to meetings and it is endless – for 1 credit!
I made the mistake of winding up with a preceptor in an outside facility who I don’t know. Everything was fine except that she is a head nurse and busy and seems sometimes to not want me around but her staff all seem to like me and I help them out a lot with tasks they don’t want to do and I have been having a positive time.
[FONT='Arial','sans-serif']I had to give the preceptor an evaluation for me and she gave it back and I looked at it when I left and she gave me 1 – on absolutely everything. – The grading is 1 through 5 points with 1 being the worst.
She has never let me help her – I took the initiative to write a note (not meant to be a nurses note) because after she left one day something occurred with fighting family members of a patient and one family member came to me and asked if her sister was allowed to ban her from seeing her aunt. I told her I would let the staff know and have them call her and I handled it perfectly.
Anyway – the preceptor did say when I said I would be back next week – rolling her eyes – are you learning anything here?! She never asked me to do anything or gave me any direction on what I should be doing there – never gave me an indication I wasn’t doing well in this clinical. I did feed difficult residents and did spent time with them and talked to them and walked with them and the patients hug me and kiss me – so I can’t be all that terrible. I have a problem with being “too nice”, a non-threatening person and on-confrontational. A lot of nurse managers seem to be bullies – am I wrong in that assumption?
I wondered if they think I am planning to pursue a job there after graduation. I am not but they never asked. The director of nursing there asked me when I graduate and I am wondering if my preceptor is jealous and spiteful – I can’t tell.
I want to ask you all…should I…Go back and speak to this woman? I really REALLY do not want to cause she is closed and stubborn and I have already put up with too much.
Should I go to the student counseling office at school? They’ll give me some counseling ******** but they can’t and won’t get involved. My professor for this course would be more than happy to blame this on me and fail me – she is a mean person.
I am tempted to fake the evaluation form and hand in a forged signature copy and that thought scares me – why should I be dishonest and risk being thrown out of school and ruining everything because I have too many hurdles to deal with?! I am graduating this summer and this is really upsetting. Help! And Thanks Nurses! And best wishes to all of you who are suffering with professors and preceptors from Hell
Last edit by hardworking woman on Jun 22, '08