Need advice about school issues..

Scrubz · Feb 18, 2007

She's my girlfriend..

momx4 · Feb 18, 2007

That still doesnt change my answer. If she was my girlfriend I would insist on her seeking medical first.

OnTheRoad · Feb 18, 2007

If your friend is on Toprol and having tachycardia she should be seeing her doc regularly anyway. Does her doc not think she is ok to be in school? Why can't she get a release from her doctor? Being in nursing school I am sure that both of you know that a heart condition and beta blocker usage need to be monitored. If she is being moitored then shouldn't she be able to satisfy the school's requirements? The doctor maybe doesn't yet know what is causing the problem, but I would hope he is trying to find out... done haltar monitoring, checked her chem 12 maybe? Echocardiogram? He should be able to make at least some type of decision of her limitations at this point.

Unless she hasn't been regularly seeing her doctor that is? I know my doc would give me a letter in a minute to keep me in school. I have been seeing him regularly and taking my meds and being tested constantly to try to find where the problem came from.

JaxiaKiley · Feb 20, 2007

I'd definitely have your friend get the letter from her dr. It seems like that will make a big difference.

As for people in the school not being nice -- I think it happens everywhere. School, work, life. It's just the way it goes. It really sucks, but we have to deal with it. I realize that may not seem very comforting, but it was to me once I accepted it. Best of luck to both of you.

Scrubz · Feb 20, 2007

That still doesnt change my answer. If she was my girlfriend I would insist on her seeking medical first.

I'm trying to do the best I can. I know it's stressing her out but it's stressing her family out and me out. I'm not trying to sound selfish but I can't help but to think it.

I'm trying to give her good advice in all this. Girls are weird. If it were a guy I'd just say suck it up, but I can't do that with her.

Jules A, MSN · Feb 20, 2007

Girls are weird. If it were a guy I'd just say suck it up, but I can't do that with her.

Yeah that probably wouldn't be the most effective way to approach it. :wink2:

It sounds like you are doing the best you can and being very supportive. Just keep on top of your studies etc. Has she spoken to her doctor about getting a note so that she can continue in school? Keep us posted, Jules

fleur-de-lis, BSN, RN · Feb 20, 2007

I don't have any advice. Just wanted to say you're a good guy for sticking by her, even though this is probably driving you just as crazy as it is her. My husband always gets really frustrated when he can't fix things for me, or make me not be upset anymore, and it sounds like you might be going through something similar. Hang in there - even if it seems she is being a PIA now, she will appreciate it later.

supermom27 · Feb 27, 2007

Tell your friend that it is against the American Disabilities Act for the dean to discriminate against her for health issues. She does not have to submit any personal information to this Dean....I would like to add that as a Dean of a NURSING SCHOOL she should also have a FIRM UNDERSTANDING of the Privacy Act, as well, in reference to medical conditions. If you would like to PM me I have alot of advice for your friend on how to shut this Dean down and professionally remind her of Federal laws which protect your friend. Hope all is well.

lisanursingstudent · Feb 28, 2007

Here's my 2 cents, as somebody with a very similar condition. I have to keep mine controlled so that i can work with my clients uninterrupted. That means that i have to avoid certain jobs (i will never be capable or OR work). If i start getting dizzy, i have to find a way out without interrupting patient care. Most of the time, i can do this plain and simple. But while helping with a dressing change and holding the leg, i did have to kneel to keep from passing out. This of course, freaked out the charge nurse, taking her away from patient care as well. The people around me know what's up, but i have to be the one to know my limitations and how to get around those limitations. Same with your friend.

And yes, i was fired from a job for this. It sucks, but it's reality. Patient care comes first and when the nurse suddenly becomes the patient, then there's problems.

I know this sounds harsh, but it's reality. She needs to prove that this is under control.