Nasty classmate rant

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Sep 13, 2005

Insecurity, heck yes.

She'll be a real peach to work if this is how she is NOW.

I'd avoid her as much as possible. If she corners you, or acts the way you descibed as a response, i would simply say "sorry, i made an agreement with myself to eliminate as much negativity from my life as possible."

loriangel14, RN · Sep 13, 2005

I think that many people in the class already do avoid her. One classmate was very sick and missed some school, but managed to hand in all her assignments and passed all of her tests.This totally unhinged her.She thought they were being too soft on her. I mean come on, she had devasting around-the-clock morning sickness so they gave her a break.

The last time she cornered me I had not much of a response...I was to stunned by her vitriolic attack on people.Like you said, she'd be a real doll to work with.

NurseBranch · Sep 13, 2005

I would like to hear from other students that may have had a person in their class like this.She isn't really very friendly to anyone and complains about anyone that she perceives as getting "special" treatment. She has no tolerance for anything. She does hang around with a couple of girls and barely says a word to me at all. BUT if I run into her somewhere away from school she talks my ear off. The whole gist of what she has to say is that she thinks everyone in class is an idiot, she can't believe that so-and-so hasn't been booted out of the program yet and just thinks that it is shocking that they are offering extra help to girls that are struggling with math.She never has a good word to say about anyone and always is bragging about her marks, which are very good, but are no proof that she will be a good nurse. I believe that it also takes compassion, caring and empathy for others,not just gonzo math skills.She also puts down the girls that she is "friends" with behind their backs,and tells endless stories from clinicals that have her as the hero ( of course).She was hostile the last time I talked to her towards a girl in our class and I couldn't figure out what she had against her. But then I remembered that about a month ago she found out that this 20 year old girls mother is 42, same age as her. She told me after class that this really upset her (why I'm not sure).Does anyone think this is just insecurity?

We have a girl like that in my class. She thinks that she is still in high school and everything is everyone elses fault. If she fails a test it is because the teacher did not explain the material or when she didn't have her physical for clinicals it was because she didn't have enough time. She had almost five months to do it. Anyway..I also love the girls who say they would never do cna work for cna pay ,but would do it for rn pay. These same girls were like oh my god! This girl had to suction a trach. If I have to do that I am so totally going to vomit, or collect a sputum sample.

Thank you for that vent. I feel better. :rolleyes:

loriangel14, RN · Sep 13, 2005

What would someone in HR think if they saw the attitudes of these girls before they applied for jobs? This girl would not be a good team member.

Another thing that is irritating about her is that she has a son that has peanut allergy and is a "gifted" child. If I hear one more story about how smart he is or how she can't let him have any social life because of his allergy I WILL SCREAM.

Nat_gagui · Sep 13, 2005

I Know what you mean, it just like a person is sucking all the energy of all people when they walk into the room, i call them black hole of the universe. my advise don't spend your time with those individual, focus on your strength that will bring good result.

Nat

loriangel14, RN · Sep 13, 2005

You are so right. Just talking to this person makes you feel drained.

nurse2be2007 · Sep 13, 2005

I Know what you mean, it just like a person is sucking all the energy of all people when they walk into the room, i call them black hole of the universe. my advise don't spend your time with those individual, focus on your strength that will bring good result.
Nat

LOL I call them Psychic Vampires. Yes I have known a few in my time. I stop it dead in its tracks. I am drained enough without having someone else drain the life out of me. I feel for you OP and I agree with the others, stay as far away form her as possible. Good luck!

mom2michael, MSN, RN, NP · Sep 13, 2005

Every program has to have at least one of these.... :wink2:

People who act like this are so terribly insecure it's not even funny. Breaking people down and tearing them apart are the only ways to bring these types of people back up. Also, keep in mind that when she is dogging this person for "this" and another person for "that", more than likely those are the same exact things she either does not know how to do or is scared to do them. She justifies this to herself because if she is busy pointing out all the bad in every classmate, maybe no one will notice that she herself does not know how to do it or doesn't understand it.

People like this drive me nuts!!!

mariedoreen · Sep 13, 2005

I usually avoid people like this for one simple fact: if they're talking about other people like that behind their backs chances are extremely high that they're talking about me like that behind my back too. Recognize that people seldom change this kind of behavior and that you're only wasting precious moments of your own life when caught in their social sewer.

I learned this lesson the hard way through 18 years of observing my MIL do this to every member of our family. I now see her only when socially compelled to do so. Turn tail and run girl. Fast.

Sue7573 · Sep 13, 2005

That I know of there isn't a "black hole" person in our class we do however have a couple of ding bats that are more comical than anything else. For instance the other day in class we had a girl that experinced the very same thing the teacher was lecturing on, -giving meds and making sure the patient takes them- this girl was in the hospital with a friend or family member and the nurse came in and handed the drugs to the pt. and left the room the nurse didn't make sure he took them. So the student just kept holding the class up talking about it, commenting that she understood what the teacher was saying BUT this nurse was SOOOO STRAPPPPEDDDD for time that she didn't have the time to watch. I mean she went on and on. The teacher would say well if you get in a situation like that talk to supervisor, and then the student will say something else and stress how strapped the nurse was I mean this went on for 5-10 min. I got tickeled at her and the teacher. This is the first time I saw this behavior in this student but my friend had a class with her last semester and said that she did stuff like that all the time. My friend commented "she is fired up now" any way I wasn't mad about it I just thought it was funny expecially the perplexed look the teacher was trying to hide.

**RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN** · Sep 13, 2005

I have met many insecure people like her. The world is just a big stink ball to them. They are usually perfect and the best. There should be no consideration for anyone because they are just not worth it. No one deserves this as much as them, and the same thing they tell you about others they say About YOU to others. :rotfl:

The only way to make themselves look better is to put others down. I avoid these types of people. They are so miserable in their own skin it is nothing but pittyful :stone

Stay away and concentrate on your studies and that is it. Good luck :)