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Today I went to open my emails, and was surprised to actually receive an email that one instructor accidently sent to me, that was meant for my other instructor that was written about me. I am really affended and insulted. Please read and advise what you would do in this situation.

This is the email that came to me.........................

To instructor so and so,

The Jane Doe saga starts already. She is very upset that she has not received her package yet, although she hadn't given her new address to you, or the secretary. Look at her reply below and it will already make you start thinking we ave a long year ahead of us!!!

Happy Times!!!

Instructor so and so:)

Ps

I did tell my one instructor my new adress. Instead of her jumping to conclusions shouldn't she have verified this?

This is the message that I sent to her, I am assuming that perhaps I did not make it for the second year, as I don't understand why it is taking so long to know anything. Thanks for everything

Take care

Jane Doe

I inquired when I was going to be doing my practicum days for evenings, because all my classmates knew 2 weeks before myself. I feel that she being my instructor for the practicum would know whether or not I was going to be doing it days or evenings. Don't I have the right to ask such questions.

I fear because she has judged me unfairly that it will have a impact on how well I do for the rest of the time at school. It seems as though she has labelled me and I am thinking that she is going to give me a hard time the rest of the year that we have.

Please advise me.:(

The reason I was feeling anxiety is because it seemed like everything seemed to be like a big run around for me, why would she judge me so harshly and not even know me? She taught us one class in 3 months time. And if she only took the time to know me she would know that I am a quiet sensitive person that sticks to herself and does not like to cause problems for anyone.

Please I really need your advice

Thank you

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Specializes in med-surg.

I would make sure that you provide the correct address to the department if you have not done so.

As far as the email, I would reply nicely, "Sorry, but I think you sent this to the wrong person". Nothing more, nothing less.

But keep a copy of all the emails involved!!

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oh dear this is how I replied,

Hi Instructor so and so

I did not have any intentions to make yours or Instructor so and so's year longer. I am

sorry. I don't understand why you would say the Jane Doe Saga? I am quite

affended with this statement. I am not very upset. I was just inquiring

that is all.

Thanks for the nice message that was meant for Instructor so and so.

Take care

Jane Doe

here is another one....................

Instructor so and so,

Oh to set the record straight I did indeed update my address with instructor so and so.

Take care

And do have a nice summer

Jane Doe

and to my other instructor I left this message

Instructor so and so this email was obviously meant for you.

If I have been that much of a headache to both you and Instructor so and so. I am sorry that was not my intentions. I do feel that being a student I do have rights to, and should feel like I can inquire about my education when appropriate, I feel that I have not been unreasonable in any way.

I do want to apologize if I made your year terrible. Sorry.

Have a wonderful summer

Jane Doe

This is the message that Instructor so and so sent to you

HI instructor so and so,

The Jane Doe Saga starts already. She is very upset that she hasn't recieved her pakcgae yet, although she hadn't given her new address to you or the secretary. Look at her reply below and it will already make you start thinking we ave a long year ahead of us!!!

Happy Times

Instructor so and so :)

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Specializes in med-surg.

Ouch.

Yes, you are a student and you do have rights. The flip side of the coin is that you are in a professional program and they are teaching you thier trade. That means playing department politics. Sometimes you just have to bite your tongue. Its called learning to BE a professional.

I do not reply to upsetting emails for 24-48 hours. That gives one time to think of the best response. Once sent, they usually cannot be unsent.

Good luck with everything. bec

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do you think I should discuss her email with the students advocate at school?

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Specializes in med-surg.

Did you already send out those responses to the professors that you cited in your previous post?

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yes I did, I was just so affended and I wanted her to know that, I was not meaning anything harsh or anything but it really did hurt

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Specializes in med-surg.
do you think I should discuss her email with the students advocate at school?

If you had simply returned the message to Professor A pointing out that she had sent the wrong person the email, you would have most likely received an apology. You would have also shown her a level of maturity that she may not have been aware of in you.

With the reply to Professor A and the forward to Professor B, you have opened up a whole new can of worms by:

1) Involving Professor B into a situation that she did not need to be in.

2) Showing poor impulse control to your upcoming practicum professor. I see you are in Canada; in the States, your clinical (or practicum) professor can make or break you in a nursing program.

3) Proving Professor A correct in her assessment of the "Jane Doe saga".

At this point, I would wait and see what responses you get and then consult someone you can trust to advise you on the next step. The student advocate might be a good place to start or a trusted faculty member. If you receive no replies, then they may have chosen to ignore the situation and you might be wise to do the same. I would physically go up to the office or call the secretary and verify your address if you still have not received your package.

In this life, not everyone is going to like you and you are not going to like everyone. What other people think of you may hurt, but its thier problem and thier business, not yours.

Good Luck!

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I agree with oooooo. This is a different situation than that which you would have with a classmate, in that it really DOES matter how you present yourself to them. Be the bigger person and let this go and stay below radar and focus on your program and not on the drama and politics.

Venting at your professors really doesn't get you anywhere (and thats what your complaint in the original post seems to me). You also have to realize that emails are a lot harder to read and easier to read INTO than swinging by the office and asking the same question with a smile on your face.

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I see your point, I wish I had waited to let off some steam first. I hope I am not going to regret my actions.

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do you think it would be a wise idea to apologize for over-reacting?

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If it was me, I would swing by and talk to them in person, and say something like "hey I just wanted to apologize for over reacting the other day... I had not meant the email the way it sounded, and then when I saw the response I over reacted. I love being here and can't wait to dive right back in." or something like that...very very low key and casual. You don't want to blow this up any more than it already is by making a big production of it, you know?

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