Help! I may have to miss two days of school...

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the very first week :no: NS starts for me Mon. Aug 18th. On the 21 and 22nd I have a visitation hearing with my xh. It's been over a year in preparing. He was abusive to me, and I have full custody but he's trying to get our judge to allow him more visitation with our ds, including taking him out of state. Due to all the harassment and continued verbal abuse toward me, I now have a restraining order against him. Needless to say it's a very stressful situation. I tried to get a court date that was before school started, but the system isn't very flexible :banghead:

Anyway, my school's orientation isn't until the first week of classes, but from what I've read here many schools only allow two absences all year no matter what! Do you think they'll make an exception for something like this? I know we don't start any type of clinical rotation until about 4wks in, but still :madface: I'm so ****** that my xh has ruined so many parts of my life, and even now, when I'm working so hard to make a fresh start, and really better our lives, he's got to mess things up :banghead: If it were anything other than this, I'd skip it, but this is my ds wellbeing we're talking about, and I don't want anything to jeapordize the situation.

Ideally, we'll only need the first day for court (we have two scheduled because his side asked for that) but xh is now representing himself :bugeyes: and so I can see him intentionally dragging things out as long as possible. What do you all think? Should I call my advisor before we even start? I hate, hate, hate to get started out on this foot. I don't want to be seen as the one with the drama right of the bat, kwim?

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Specializes in dreams of the future.

Well, from what I have read and understood, planning and organization is what helps get us NS through this. So deffinantly contact your advisor. If you are concerned about how you may be perceived, keep it non-dramatic as you said. Inform your advisor that you have an important matter in family court. They need info but not details. On your first days get in gear and communicate with your profs. inform them in the same manner if you need to. See if you can get any handouts, info in advance, or show up late or whatever... If you will miss a first lab day, see if you can resched it and show up on another class' time to make up for it.

Next make sure you show up completely prepared for court so you can try you best to nip it. Bring extra copies of your own evidence in case something important gets lost. Also show up prepared for the bad, if the ex can manage to sway the judge to continue (drag things on to make it hard for you), then have a school sched ready to see if you can inform the judge of your situation to try and have the next court date fall durring time off of school. Sometimes they are continued months away. I wish you all the best :redpinkhe.

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Isnt that what your lawyer is for? :)

Seriously, once you have your class schedule, see if he can manipulate dates to fit you in so its best for you.

I would however, give them a heads up ASAP at the school so that they are aware.

Best of luck!

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It is always better to speak to your course co-ordinator or the lecturer of the classes you will be missing beforehand. Most nursing schools are particular about absences only for clinicals in order to ensure that the hours are met and for lecture if it is excessive and habitual. I missed one day of class every semester that I was at nursing school but it was all for health reasons. As long as you have a legitimate reason I am sure they will understand. The most important factor in nursing school absence is make sure it is not on a day that there is an exam scheduled, do not miss any clinicals if you can help, always inform the lecturer(s) ahead of time, and stay current with the reading if you do have to miss school.

Good luck with the hearing.

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I am so glad that you got yourself and your son out of that situation and I, as a mom, can understand the importance of protecting your child...

With that said, I would contact the school and ask them what their view on that is...I know our Nursing Department is pretty understanding (but I agree...you hate to start out that way, but this is where priorities come in). And secondly, talk to your lawyer and see if there is anything he can do...

Best of luck with this and I will pray that there is no increased visitations for him!

Lori

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Thanks, I guess I will call the coordinator :down: I was really hoping to avoid that, but I don't know what else to do :sniff:.

Really, the lawyer have little to no say in the court dates, we got a range of dates the judge was able to hear our case (it's already had to be rescheduled because of an illness the judge had) but his schedule is insane. We set the dates back in Dec. of last year, and the earliest he would hear our case was this summer :eek: Its amazing how full their dockets are! At this point I hope that we can just go in and get it all done with in one day. I'm doing LPN this year, and RN next, so my LPN program typically has 1 or more exams/quizzes per day, so hopefully I can make them up:banghead: I just hate, hate, hate to start off school on this note :imbar

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Let your instructor know the days you will miss. Maybe it won't take up the whole day. Many times instructors will work with you if they know well in advance. I understand courts will issue a time and thats it, there is no room to maneuver with that schedule. I'm a student, but if I were an instructor I would work with you as you would know in advance. I'll cross my fingers that you get an understanding instructor.

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