Friends dump me

  1. I have had two friends that have had two years of college with me and they now take nursing classes together and I have one class with them. I still had some pre rec's to take and I'll start in the fall 03.
    We are supposed to do a presentation together next month and had already signed up for it so there is no changing it now, but they have dumped me. We always set together and when we had a test last week they sat in the back, and then they sat behind me again the very next class. I didn't do anything to them but I am alot older then them but thqat did not seem to matter before. I was so embarrased last week because it was noticable since we always sat together before. The one is getting married and I wonder if she just doesn't want me at the wedding for fear she will be embarrased to have a fat friend. I am alot more overweight then they are so that is why I think this because I haven't done anything for them to treat me like this. I don't want to say anything to them because I don't want to get a bad grade on the presentation.
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  2. 9 Comments

  3. by   canoehead
    Ask them!!!
  4. by   nursing 101
    Well, if your weight wasn't a problem before why would it be a problem now? Assuming that is the case why would you want freinds like them anyway?
    Good friend tell you when something is wrong in a friendship. They don't leave you "hanging" wondering what you did to them. When I moved to where I am now. My closest friend never called me. I got tired of always calling her. I called her one day and she gave me a whole speech about friendship but never really told me what was wrong with ours. It]s been about 2 years and I really don't regret not having her in my life. Because a true friend will let you know what's wrong.
  5. by   Rapheal
    Gordi24,
    I hope you don't continue to be embarrased. Nursing school is easier when you have some good friends, but the most important thing is to complete your program. You will make more friends when you are in the program. I was dumped by a friend during my first year. This was good for me because I sought out other people and made friendships that have continued after graduation. Oh, and the girl that dumped me-flunked out.
  6. by   CountrifiedRN
    Why don't you try asking them what is going on, and see what the response is. Just a thought, but you mentioned a group project that you all were working on, and I know those types of assignments can cause conflict even between the best of friends. Maybe it has something to do with that?

    Anyway, if they don't give you a reason, or continue to snub you, then move on and make some new friends. IMO, they don't sound like great friends to begin with if they just avoid you rather than be up front about what is bothering them.
  7. by   Disablednurse
    Gordi24, I can feel your pain because I have been thru the same thing. I am also overweight, a lot. I always felt that if someone stopped being my friend then it was because of my weight. I had this happen to me in nursing school. I did not question anyone why they did not want to be my friend or what had I done. I just did my thing. If this is bothering you, please ask them. Be prepared for what they might tell you. If they are not going to be your friend because of your weight, you don't need them for friends anyway. Just continue to be yourself and do not let this interfere with your grades or schoolwork. You will be in my prayers.
  8. by   renerian
    Focus on school my dear. Your not there to make friends, which they sound a little petty to me, but your there to become a nurse. Don't waste your energy.

    renerian
  9. by   GPatty
    I know how you feel. Only my friendship ended after I graduated and she didn't (had to go back again-failed a class). After a while, she came to work where I did, as a CNA. Apparently that took it's toll, cause things just weren't the same. When I told her to do something and she didn't, I ended up getting written up for it, and she was fired (wasn't a very good CNA to begin with). Las time I heard from her...
    But that's ok with me..she was one of those "friends" who could never pick up the phone either...it was always me calling her.
    But like renerian said...you aren't in school to make friends, you are there to learn. Do it. For yourself...make your own dream come true. You don't need them to do it!
    God bless and take care....
    Julie
  10. by   emily_mom
    Originally posted by renerian
    Focus on school my dear. Your not there to make friends, which they sound a little petty to me, but your there to become a nurse. Don't waste your energy.

    renerian
    Totally agree. You will make new friends, and they will be caught in their little circle of two. I have made so many new friends at school, and they are my support (along with everyone here).

    They sound VERY immature to me. If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time fretting over it. I would act like I didn't care. You will all move and at least you will be a better person for it.

    Good luck on your presentation. Do that, be civil, and then go on with your nursing school life. There's more to life than fighting battles with those too stupid to live.

    :kiss
  11. by   Mimi Wheeze
    Sounds high-schoolish. Just get through your presentation with them, and forget about it. Don't let people like that hurt your feelings.

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