Discussing Grades with Other Students

[anewday]

Hello everyone. I am in my first semester. How do you guys feel about sharing your grades with other students? In my class it seems like eveyones grades are open for sharing/discussions. Some students are so nosy. They have no issues with asking you specifically what you got. I am soo annoyed with this I am a private person. And quite frankly I don't think it's anyones business. Why is saying that " I passed, or did ok" not good enough. I think grades should be a private matter between the individual student and the instructor. I already hear others backbiting others from who is lying about their grades, to who has no kids or job so they can study all day and make good grades...ugggg I am so annoyed. I think folks need to focus on them and what they need to do to get through instead of worrying about what everyone else is doing.

[DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP]

I don't, that's why I just let it be common knowledge. But the fact is people do speculate, they think (at my school at least) that if you don't want to share your grades, there must be a reason.

There is no reason for your grades to be common knowledge, to anyone but YOU.

Why do you feel you need to share? Again, who cares what 'they think?'

Set your boundaries with your fellow students and if they don't like your new boundaries, then oh well.

Spend your precious time and energy learning as much as you can. You deserve it. You've gotten this far.

Best,

Diane

[spongebob6286, BSN, RN]

I don't also want to tell my grades to others even if its a good grade and especially when its really bad. its like you're comparing your performance with others. and seems your competing with them. my point is, it will just make me feel depress when one grade is better than mine and that I gave my best to that exam,had sleepless nights,yet a fair gradE only.

[rotteluvr31, ADN, RN]

I really prefer NOT to tell others my grades. I am not a top student, but I am a passing student, which is a rarity in a couple of my classes. Lately, some of the ribbing I have received from a few individuals about being "so smart" has taken on a nasty tone.

However, I am much older then everyone else in my class, and I don't really give a poop what they say. I DO remind them all the time that nursing school is my top priority. Yes, I work 24 hrs a week (2 12's), yes I have teenagers at home, a house, husband... blah blah blah. We all have something, but all I spend my time doing is school. Unless, of course, I am reading/writing the allnurses boards. :)

Grades are personal, share them if you like, but once you put them out there, you have no control over how others will respond to them.

[Sk8ermomRN]

This is a hot topic in my program for all the reasons already pointed out. I only share my grades with the two people I study and practice clinical skills with. There is a lot of speculation and gossip, especially before the scores are known, about who made an A, etc.

Everyone stands around in the hall, waiting and complaining about how hard the test was. Comparing responses to certain questions and worrying over who was right. I no longer participate in any of this. I bring a novel and read while I wait.