Are You In A Click Or A Loner???

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I was just wondering how many of you in School has found a click and how many people are loners.. Do you think it is normal and ok to be a loner or do you feel that since you spend most of your time with the students that you have at least one person you can click with...

When I took my Chemistry class, I didn'y really want to speak to anyone in there. I was a loner and had tutoring. I was doing great on exams, but having diffuculty in the lab, because we had take home assignments that we had to figure out and turn in for the lab grade. What we did in the lab was just practice for our asignments. My professor told me that I needed to get with the people in my lab and discuss my assignments since they all seemed to be doing better than me. This was great advice, I began to be more social and go over my assignments with the people in my class. We all found that where one of us may have missed a certain point, the other may have gotten it and so on. I made alot of friends and we all even went out for dinner and drinks after the two hour and ten page (front and back) final. The best part is that alot of these people will also be starting the nursing program with me this fall. I found that I am an only child and have always been a loner. I have the same friends now that I had in grade school, but it didn't kill me to mingle with my classmates. I was better for it, and the best thing was that most of these people had the same values as myself so I didn't have to worry about them copying my work which I think was my biggest concern. You will find that most nursing students are there to learn and have the same values as you, so give them a chance, I did and I'm very happy about that.

I am definitely a loner. I am my own clique and I don't care what others think or what they do, as long as I do my job and take care of my patients to the best of my ability.

I had a friend in school, but after school, we drifted apart, due to extreme circumstances (she failed in nursing school and came to work where I was as a CNA, so I was technically her boss....that didn't go over well).

Neat Post!

I'm in LPN school. So there are/were 32 of us to start..and we are in one classroom all day. I found it pretty amazing out the group split up. Its almost like being back in high school. VERY dissapointing.

We have the designated "latin corner"..as everyone calls it. All of the folks from mexico, Cuba, PR, and I think 1 from columbia. They all sit together in a group and don't really talk to the rest. A few do. And they are REALLY nice.

Then we have the group of people from Haiti. They sit together, study together and don't really talk to the rest either. Of course, there is one or two that do...

Then there is the study-a-holic. Mad at herself if she gets a 98 on a test. Goes to school, comes home and studies, studies on break. She's hard to talk to because she's so worked up about studying.

The typical wierdo in every class that no one understands why he is the way he is..says odd things in class, makes unappropriate comments adn the like.

And then theres the rest of us. We all talk to eachother, we have the table at lunch that there is barely any room at because we cram about 12 people into a table for 6.

But the girl I sit next to, I knew in high school. We do things on the weekends, double date, things like that. I study alone. If I study with other people, I tend to get off topic and we end up chatting for 3 hours..lol

So I must say its pretty sad that the class kinda ended up in cliques by race. But it is very nice to see that some of the folks talk to everyone. Our "clique" if you want to call it that....we have a little bit of everyone. Most of us are white, but I guess we are the group of people that don't have a group to latch on to.

Our group has an asian woman, an african american woman, and a gay man...love em all! But we also have a woman in her 50s, a girl fresh out of high school, and guy in his 40s...From all different walks of life, at different points of life. I love it. I'd rather hang out with a variety of people rather than 1 defined group.

But I wouldn't be able to make it through class with out my one real friend. We keep eachother entertained during the boring lectures..=0)

Jules

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

"Then there is the study-a-holic. Mad at herself if she gets a 98 on a test. Goes to school, comes home and studies, studies on break. She's hard to talk to because she's so worked up about studying."

That's me. I want the A average. My employers will be looking at my grades once i graduate, and i want to show off my hard work. I spend about 24 hrs a week studying outside of school, and this is why i have never made below a 96 on any tests.

I'm only hard to talk to because the majority (not all) in my class are so wrapped up in boys, clothes and makeup that i'd rather be the loner than mess with that crap. I did that crap in high school, have no desire to repeat it. I also have no desire to hang out with people that i'm around for 30 hours total in a week. I like my school life and personal life separated.

I work 3 jobs, i live on my own, and mommy and daddy are not supporting me as i pay my rent, bills, and tuition, therefore i don't have the time or the desire to go out and blow my charge card at Expess, or get blitzed at the local bar trying to live "the student life". I think this has a lot to do with why the majority of my friends are also male.

I sit with two other females in my class that are as dedicated as i am. We share any new resources that we find that might help in studying and if we run copies of something from a book, we make 2 extras for each other. If one of us misses a day, the other two are dependable to be able to catch the other one up. This is why we have excellent grades.

Jules,

You sound like a kind, open hearted, "true" AMERICAN!!

Whoah!! LPN to be....don't jump all over me!!

Just for your information, I also have a 98 average after my first semester.

And my mommy and daddy aren't supporting me either. But when a person flips out in the middle of class, and shakes like a nervous wreck before a test, its a little...wierd. She has no personal life...that was my point. I spoke with her at the beginning of class before all the hard stuff was brought on. She has had a hard life....but she's gotten so into school she doesn't hardly speak to anyone unless its school related.

I study until I'm sure I have the information down pat...no more..no less. When I am confident that I have the material in my head, I move on.

But geez, don't jump all over my back! Kinda funny if you think about it...you just proved my own statement....

Not trying to be rude....but I gotta defend myself too ya know.

Jules

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Good Lord, wasn't "JUMPING" on anyone, I simply used one line that described me to a tee, then gave MY personal opinion on why i am a loner, and like it that way. You take that as jumping on your back, then i apologize, that was not the reason why i said what i did. I never attack anyone on these boards because everyone's situation is different.

Never said mommy and daddy were supporting ANYONE ON HERE. That is in reference to a few in MY class who seem to think money grows on trees, NOT the entire population of student nurses in this country/world. I am well aware there are plenty of people who get nothing from no one to help with school.

And i never jumped on YOU or anyone else for that matter on this thread. I gave my opinion on MY school life, and why I'M feeling that way, which is NOT to mean that anyone else is WRONG. Jeez!!! Enough said. Moving on.

Well...just as my opinion, it felt that you were attacking me personally. It seemed that everyone in your class was like that, and that I was to be assumed the same way as well.

But I stand by my opinions, and as you should too. My intention wasn't to "attack" back. It was to post my reply to yours.

::virtual handshake::

Good luck in school!

4 days to go!! WOOHOO

Jules

Marieeee

I didn't think that your post was offensive. I think it may have been misunderstood. I am in the same situation as you, and don't qualify for a pell grant because "I make too much money." Like you I feel very strongly about how some of the people in my class spend money like water, but it's not in reference to anyone on this board, because I don't know them on a personal basis. Because I have such a strong opinion on this, I may have a tendacy to appear irritated or rude at times, but it's not a personal attack, just a very strong opinion. I think it's wonderful if people have financial support from family, but for those of us who don't get that luxury it's tough. I just hope that all my struggles will make me a better nurse and appreciate it more.

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.
Originally posted by Jen2

Marieeee

I didn't think that your post was offensive. I think it may have been misunderstood. I am in the same situation as you, and don't qualify for a pell grant because "I make too much money." Like you I feel very strongly about how some of the people in my class spend money like water, but it's not in reference to anyone on this board, because I don't know them on a personal basis. Because I have such a strong opinion on this, I may have a tendacy to appear irritated or rude at times, but it's not a personal attack, just a very strong opinion. I think it's wonderful if people have financial support from family, but for those of us who don't get that luxury it's tough. I just hope that all my struggles will make me a better nurse and appreciate it more.

Thank you, I feel the same way you do.

I like how the reply from Pell grants are "you make too much money". I'd like to reply with "you'd never know it from my end".

Yeah!! I want to see the cars they drive, the houses they live in, and then hand them $75.00 and tell them, "O.K. you have this $75.00 to last you until you get paid again in two weeks and you must use it for gas, food, and buy a pair of nursing shoes for clinicals." Then when they asked if they could borrow a little, I would tell them, "But whatever for, you already make too much money." That would be a complete dream come true.

There are several groups of people that hang around with each other at my school..but wouldn't call them clicks...they are all open to everyone and are willing to help with whatever is needed. I am in a group that all sit together. We have study groups and such, but always will include others. I think in nusring school you need to have a group of people that you can count on for whatever. We help each other out if one doesn't understand a concept..stuff like that.

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