Are You In A Click Or A Loner??? - page 4

I was just wondering how many of you in School has found a click and how many people are loners.. Do you think it is normal and ok to be a loner or do you feel that since you spend most of your time... Read More

  1. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    "Then there is the study-a-holic. Mad at herself if she gets a 98 on a test. Goes to school, comes home and studies, studies on break. She's hard to talk to because she's so worked up about studying."

    That's me. I want the A average. My employers will be looking at my grades once i graduate, and i want to show off my hard work. I spend about 24 hrs a week studying outside of school, and this is why i have never made below a 96 on any tests.

    I'm only hard to talk to because the majority (not all) in my class are so wrapped up in boys, clothes and makeup that i'd rather be the loner than mess with that crap. I did that crap in high school, have no desire to repeat it. I also have no desire to hang out with people that i'm around for 30 hours total in a week. I like my school life and personal life separated.

    I work 3 jobs, i live on my own, and mommy and daddy are not supporting me as i pay my rent, bills, and tuition, therefore i don't have the time or the desire to go out and blow my charge card at Expess, or get blitzed at the local bar trying to live "the student life". I think this has a lot to do with why the majority of my friends are also male.

    I sit with two other females in my class that are as dedicated as i am. We share any new resources that we find that might help in studying and if we run copies of something from a book, we make 2 extras for each other. If one of us misses a day, the other two are dependable to be able to catch the other one up. This is why we have excellent grades.
  2. by   ST_NURSE_MLD
    Jules,
    You sound like a kind, open hearted, "true" AMERICAN!!
  3. by   JnJTyson
    Whoah!! LPN to be....don't jump all over me!!

    Just for your information, I also have a 98 average after my first semester.

    And my mommy and daddy aren't supporting me either. But when a person flips out in the middle of class, and shakes like a nervous wreck before a test, its a little...wierd. She has no personal life...that was my point. I spoke with her at the beginning of class before all the hard stuff was brought on. She has had a hard life....but she's gotten so into school she doesn't hardly speak to anyone unless its school related.

    I study until I'm sure I have the information down pat...no more..no less. When I am confident that I have the material in my head, I move on.

    But geez, don't jump all over my back! Kinda funny if you think about it...you just proved my own statement....

    Not trying to be rude....but I gotta defend myself too ya know.

    Jules
  4. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Good Lord, wasn't "JUMPING" on anyone, I simply used one line that described me to a tee, then gave MY personal opinion on why i am a loner, and like it that way. You take that as jumping on your back, then i apologize, that was not the reason why i said what i did. I never attack anyone on these boards because everyone's situation is different.

    Never said mommy and daddy were supporting ANYONE ON HERE. That is in reference to a few in MY class who seem to think money grows on trees, NOT the entire population of student nurses in this country/world. I am well aware there are plenty of people who get nothing from no one to help with school.

    And i never jumped on YOU or anyone else for that matter on this thread. I gave my opinion on MY school life, and why I'M feeling that way, which is NOT to mean that anyone else is WRONG. Jeez!!! Enough said. Moving on.
  5. by   JnJTyson
    Well...just as my opinion, it felt that you were attacking me personally. It seemed that everyone in your class was like that, and that I was to be assumed the same way as well.

    But I stand by my opinions, and as you should too. My intention wasn't to "attack" back. It was to post my reply to yours.

    ::virtual handshake::

    Good luck in school!
    4 days to go!! WOOHOO

    Jules
  6. by   Jen2
    Marieeee

    I didn't think that your post was offensive. I think it may have been misunderstood. I am in the same situation as you, and don't qualify for a pell grant because "I make too much money." Like you I feel very strongly about how some of the people in my class spend money like water, but it's not in reference to anyone on this board, because I don't know them on a personal basis. Because I have such a strong opinion on this, I may have a tendacy to appear irritated or rude at times, but it's not a personal attack, just a very strong opinion. I think it's wonderful if people have financial support from family, but for those of us who don't get that luxury it's tough. I just hope that all my struggles will make me a better nurse and appreciate it more.
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Originally posted by Jen2
    Marieeee

    I didn't think that your post was offensive. I think it may have been misunderstood. I am in the same situation as you, and don't qualify for a pell grant because "I make too much money." Like you I feel very strongly about how some of the people in my class spend money like water, but it's not in reference to anyone on this board, because I don't know them on a personal basis. Because I have such a strong opinion on this, I may have a tendacy to appear irritated or rude at times, but it's not a personal attack, just a very strong opinion. I think it's wonderful if people have financial support from family, but for those of us who don't get that luxury it's tough. I just hope that all my struggles will make me a better nurse and appreciate it more.
    Thank you, I feel the same way you do.

    I like how the reply from Pell grants are "you make too much money". I'd like to reply with "you'd never know it from my end".
  8. by   Jen2
    Yeah!! I want to see the cars they drive, the houses they live in, and then hand them $75.00 and tell them, "O.K. you have this $75.00 to last you until you get paid again in two weeks and you must use it for gas, food, and buy a pair of nursing shoes for clinicals." Then when they asked if they could borrow a little, I would tell them, "But whatever for, you already make too much money." That would be a complete dream come true.
  9. by   leslieRN2B
    There are several groups of people that hang around with each other at my school..but wouldn't call them clicks...they are all open to everyone and are willing to help with whatever is needed. I am in a group that all sit together. We have study groups and such, but always will include others. I think in nusring school you need to have a group of people that you can count on for whatever. We help each other out if one doesn't understand a concept..stuff like that.
  10. by   PSUNURS05
    I am very much a loner. I talk with a few people in my nursing class. I too am bothered by students who drink and complain so I chose not to be around them (and like I have anything in common with them...I am a few years older than the average student...I am 25 and most are 20)...
  11. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Originally posted by PSUNURS05
    I am very much a loner. I talk with a few people in my nursing class. I too am bothered by students who drink and complain so I chose not to be around them (and like I have anything in common with them...I am a few years older than the average student...I am 25 and most are 20)...
    Yep
  12. by   sagelola
    Well, I finally read this post, and would like to reply...

    Like many of you, I am the older, returning student with children and a husband. I KNOW what I want now, and I work hard for it. I am new going in to the nursing program, and I think I MIGHT know one other person (out of 55) who is going. I haven't been in any cliques, although most people in my classes know who I am. I have made a REALLY GOOD friend, but she is not going on to the university. I don't like to study in groups, either...too much distraction, and I do fine on my own. Besides, I don't have the TIME with 3 kids and a husband!

    I do hope to meet a few people, and become close...maybe not for study groups, who knows yet, but I will be with these people for the next 3 years, and it would be comforting to have a friend or two!! :kiss

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