Why are the divorce rates among nurses so high? - page 3

THere's been several surveys and studies done on professions with the highest divorce rates. Among bartenders, entertainers and telemarketers, the nursing profession was one of them. Why? And... Read More

  1. by   Vespertinas
    Quote from xoemmylouox
    I think this is pretty insightful. I don't tolerate a quarter of the bs my grandmother did.
    Oh! My grandmother. Bless her heart. Yes, that puts things in perspective.
  2. by   blackvans1234
    Men are the only ones that come into the ED with cut off fingers from reaching into the ''jammed'' snowblower...
    Maybe they need all that extra ''help''
  3. by   NurseOnAMotorcycle
    Actually, for every argument we have, there is a conscious decision: Is this worth throwing our marriage for? 99% of the time the answer will be no. (The 1%, of course, would be violence or infidelity.)

    Married 14 years. Too many shared memories to hold things against him for long.
  4. by   DoeRN
    Quote from beeker
    Because we develop a very low tolerance for putting up with crap.
    I agree!

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  5. by   Home run
    Quote from enchantmentdis
    I married during nursing school, while i was getting my BSN. .
    Same here. In the last 6 months of nursing school, I got married and had a baby. We dated before I even thought about school, and although he was supportive, I know it was hard to take a "backseat" to nursing. Unfortunately, the "light at the end of the nursing school tunnel" faded as we had to navigate the changes of parenthood. Next thing I knew, I was trying to balance the roles of new nurse, new wife, and new mom. It was exhausting. I couldn't keep up...so I cut corners with the one role I felt should understand, which was the new "wife" role. I would get home from work exhausted, then take care of the newborn, and that left ZERO energy for my marriage. We have had many near misses, but thankfully I have learned that the marriage needs just as much nurturing as the baby and my new career. It's still a tough balancing act and I'm still always tired, but it's worth the extra work to "have it all."

    Also, I agree, lots of nurses divorce because we don't take crap!
  6. by   Nurse_
    Divorce rates is roughly 29% of 3.1 million Registered Nurses and more because the researchers added other healthcare personnel. That's actually not bad. It's just simple statistics.

    There are roughly 300 Navy seals and according to some of their studies, their divorce rates are from 78-95%.

    As for divorce rates for nurses, people grow and people change. In nursing, we have been made tough and learned to accept the realism of life. Like when we have a terminal patient, we learned that swift and painless is better than prolonging the inevitable. I think that's how we view relationships as well. We try our best, do all we can but we also recognize when it's time to let go.
  7. by   netglow
    I've known a few nurses who have been divorced or going through it now. In college two RNs on my units were in the midst. And since graduating I know 3. The ones I know the details on and know the people involved seem to point to nursing and having nothing left when they get home. That's hard to deal with daily normal family irritations after you've been doing that all day at work too. Also, these women never had really worked before, were stay at home moms. They changed but so much later in life, just as any normal-aged young kid of 21 does once they've gone to college and then get their first real job. I think nursing changes everybody more than most jobs, and unless you have a really strong marriage, it's gotta be tough to weather that huge change once your life is so inflexible.
  8. by   lilaclover6984
    I agree with the previous posters who said "it's because we don't put up with crap"

    But also I think part of the reason we don't put up with crap is because we don't have to. Most nurses are financially secure enough to leave a bad marriage and make it on their own. We don't have to stay in a marriage that is making us unhappy just for financial reasons like some women. I have a close friend who is not a nurse and is miserable in her marriage. But she feels she can't leave because she couldn't support herself on her own. I am a divorced nurse. I had a horrid 2 year marriage to a cheating husband. I left and am doing just great on my own
  9. by   bds165
    You know, 100% of divorces started with marriage...
  10. by   NurseOnAMotorcycle
    Quote from bds165
    You know, 100% of divorces started with marriage...
  11. by   hiddencatRN
    Quote from bds165
    You know, 100% of divorces started with marriage...
    Well, and no one is talking about the disturbingly high percentage of marriages that end in death.
  12. by   BSNbeDONE
    When I was an LPN student, boyfriend left; ADN student, husband left; BSN student, second husband left. Either the men I dated/married were terribly afraid of nurses, (I assure you that I never brought a needle home), or terribly afraid of the thought of a successful woman. I think the latter. Now that the divorce is final, I won't even consider commitment until I'm at the top of MY ladder.
  13. by   OB-nurse2013
    Wow I dont normally reply in this section, since Im still a student, but Im 4 weeks from graduating and going through a divorce