i want you guys' opinion on something. i had a really bad day, and instead of explaining what happened, i am going to copy and paste my statement of what occurred that i plan to give to my don and i'd really like some advice. i changed some things for anonymity, which is why it may sound strange, and also it would be helpful for you all to know that we have ongoing problems with this nurse and i've gone to her several times about them.
on 7.7.04 it was brought to joe supervisor's attention that the quarterly labs on unit b were being filled out improperly by charge nurse and had to be corrected. there was an informal meeting held with myself, lpn #2, joe supervisor and unit manager present to discuss the above at around 10am of the same day.
on 7.8.04 charge nurse told me that she wanted to delegate the task of the special labs on unit b to me since she was having such a hard time with them. i told her that she was responsible for those labs. she then stated that we would speak about the situation at a later time. i then went to joe supervisor to tell him that she had asked me to do this and i had declined. i asked for a meeting to be set up between himself and the unit b nursing staff to clearly outline each staff members duties because many seem to be overlapping. about 20 minutes later, charge nurse came to me, visibly upset, asking why lpn #2 and i have been 'talking about her behind her back' and 'ganging up on her' and 'being mean to her' she told me that she knew we had a meeting about her on the previous day without her being present and that she was angry about it. she said joe supervisor had also spoken with her about the special labs and she said that she thought delegating the special labs to me was 'a compliment' because she likes my work. she asked 'how would you like it if someone was being mean to your daughter like this, wouldn't you want someone to go to her with a problem and not talk behind her back?' i told her that my family has nothing to do with what is going on. i told her that my intention was not to be malicious, but only to discuss problems occurring on the unit with my supervisor. she went on to say that she still believes that lpn #2 and i are being mean to her and she was extremely hurt. she then added that my being mean to her was going to give me 'bad karma' and stated 'it would be unfortunate if your daughter or husband or someone in your family got sick because of this'. at that point, i was very shocked and i told her once again that my family has nothing to do with this situation and that i thought the conversation was taking an extremely unprofessional and threatening turn on her part and that i didn't care to discuss it any longer. i feel that what she said to me about my family was threatening and unnecessary. for the rest of the day while i completed my duties, i was very upset and did not speak with charge nurse except for any necessary work related conversation.
at 2:30pm charge nurse called me in to the chart room where she had a write up for me. she said that it was a verbal consultation and that it will stay in my file for 6 months. she said she could have given me a written, but wanted to give me a chance like she wishes i had given her a chance. i feel that this write up was retaliation for my going to the supervisor with an issue since the write up really has no merit. i did, however, sign the write up without adding my own comments because i was upset and didn't want to get into another confrontation with charge nurse.
