Quote from IIIseeyaa
I did not want a response from the book, I wanted a response from the heart!
I think honesty counts for more than anything in this kind of forum. I mean, is this the kind of question you want to say has "wrong" answers? And sometimes honesty brings important truth.
Now as to the head's part in the effectual workings of the heart, I quit playing in church bands because the Bible says "play skilfully and with a loud noise." Well way too many church musicians ignore the first part and pay attention only to the second. Now if you are going to do something for someone you CARE about, whether God or a patient, aren't you going to do
right by them, not just feel
for them? And if not, isn't it just lip service?
Some further thoughts: all relationships are about caring enough to do the hard work not only to make the relationship happen, that is, pay off emotionally for the lover, but they are about the other, that is, caring enough to see what preparation is needed to ensure the wellbeing of the other, and to plan and do the hard work.
Going back to church bands, I have seen many who claimed wild love of God, yet couldn't be bothered to even glance over the sheet music once, let alone show up for practice, let alone practice at home.
In the nurse-patient relationship, some display similar shortcomings. Do they care enough to do no harm? This includes everything from routine handwashing to continuing study to making oneself a responsive part of the care team to forcing oneself to take a fresh look at the patient with every new piece of data.
What is caring? We can look at the opposite. We have all seen patients come in who were neglected. You might say that's passive abuse, not active. But your gut tells you abuse is abuse, doesn't it, when you see what shape patients are in on admission?
Now I understand an automatic aversion to bringing such apparently non-emotional things as nursing process into a discussion of caring. We all know those to whom being right all the time, or promoting their career, or something else and professionalism are one and the same. However even if they confuse these, surely we can see the difference.
I know an orthopedist who's getting on in years. He has a pact with others. If the group sees one of the others starting to slip in medical judgment or surgical skill, they are obligated to honestly confront the one who is slipping, and the other is obligated to retire. Now that's