Step away from the old nurse! - page 4
by Lindsey McGraw, BSN, RN | 16,289 Views | 44 Comments
Now reaching my 34th year in the nursing profession I am experiencing some humorous, interesting and distasteful situations where comments have been made that honestly offended me to the quick of my being. "Back in the day" as... Read More
- 1Oct 23, '11 by Esme12, BSN, RN Senior ModeratorQuote from bfreiI agree the Ma'am is a sign of respect.....but usually meant for your "elders".........WHEN DID I BECOME AND ELDER??????I address most adults with 'yes sir' or 'yes ma'am'. I find it is a sign of respect and have been addressed as ma'am myself. I do not feel that it is mocking or referring to a person as old. I currently live in in Pacific Northwest and although some regions in the USA are more common to use these terms I find that most people take it with a positive outcome.
I was more incesnsed because I swear it was just "yesterday" he was asking for my number. It's a tough pill to swallow when you're taken off the market due to age.....(wink)
- 3Oct 23, '11 by Kooky KorkyQuote from VickyRNnot sure I want to be 70 or 80 and still working. able to, yes; willing, no.We live in a youth-obsessed, youth-worshiping society. Our society looks down on older people and can be particularly cruel to women as they age (just look at the misogynist way some "older" women in politics are treated by the mainstream media). The only consolation is that the Boomer generation - of which I am part - is the largest demographic group in US history, nearly 80 million strong. We are fast entering our senior years and comprise one-quarter of the US population. With so many of us, it will be difficult for society to continue to disrespect and disregard older persons. We will end up redefining what it means to grow old and forge new positive attitudes towards aging (particularly towards aging women) in our society. In a decade or two, it will no longer seem strange to see seventy-year-olds and even eighty-year-olds still active in the work force.
- 0Oct 23, '11 by tshoresQuote from kidsWhen they occasionally call me "Mom" at work, they're referring to someone who helps them, watches over and guides them while at work; they're not disrespecting their real moms nor me nor are they being manipulative. They're not trying to get anything out of me or get out of something like kids do. Most of the time they call me by my name, but guess it depends on the relationships you have what you're comfortable with.To me, there is nothing respectful or loving about someone, other than my children, calling me mom or mama. If anything I find it highly disrespectful to their own mothers that they would diminish her title in such a way.
My children's friends learned very quickly that I would not tolerate their calling me mom and I learned almost as quickly that the kids who would do so were more often than not being manipulative. The same has proven true of coworkers.
- 1Oct 24, '11 by Esme12, BSN, RN Senior ModeratorQuote from tshores"Hey Mom" is alot different than "Hey Yo....Mama!"When they occasionally call me "Mom" at work, they're referring to someone who helps them, watches over and guides them while at work; they're not disrespecting their real moms nor me nor are they being manipulative. They're not trying to get anything out of me or get out of something like kids do. Most of the time they call me by my name, but guess it depends on the relationships you have what you're comfortable with.
As I tell my kids ALL the time....It's not necessarily the message but in the delivery of the message that counts....
- 1Oct 28, '11 by OCNRN63I am routinely dismayed at the lack of respect I see here for older nurses. Some youngsters even suggest that older nurses should just retire already, so younger nurses can have their jobs. It's sad to come here for support and find nurses of your age and older being dismissed as "old battle-axes" whose skills are outdated. I loved the poster who suggested that older nurses didn't use critical thinking.
- 1Oct 31, '11 by bagladyrn GuideI've actually noticed in the past few years that my OB patients seem to respond to me better now, especially when it comes to teaching. I believe that it is because at 57 I look like their grandmas.
As for being called Mama or Mom by younger people it really doesn't bother me. When raising my son all of his teenage friends just referred to me as "Mom", which since they were close in age and a very racially diverse group got me some very strange looks in stores and on the street!
- 0Nov 2, '11 by martylou42I am a very young looking 28 year old and I constantly get comments like "aren't you too young to be a nurse??" People aren't as quick to accept my wisdom either! I guess there are pros and cons regardless of which side of the fence you are on.
ps. I call you guys "veteran nurses" I think it makes you sound much more hard-core and ready battle your busy days!
- 2Nov 4, '11 by a_patteeI work LTC as a CNA, and I'm starting nursing school in January.
As I have worked in the healthcare field, I find myself seeking out the people who have been in the field longer than I have. (Been a CNA for 17 years) I love to "pick the brain" of a seasoned nurse. I love to hear their stories, and learn from their experience. One of my favorite nurses use to work for Doctors without Borders. I could sit and listen to her for hours. I love to ask her questions, and do wound rounds with her. I learned A LOT from her. I try to pick up all I can from everyone I work with, old or new. (although, as one of the "older" aides I do find myself shaking my head at the newbies-but I try to be gentle since I'll be the newbie soon.)
I am thankful for seasoned/veteran nurses. With out them, I believe a lot of knowledge would NEVER get passed down or learned. There are some things you just can't learn from a book.