Nurses all come from DYSFUNCTIONAL backgrounds??

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Ok I hope I get some responses on this..

I work in a local hospital and I work on a telemetry floor. Its a high stress floor with lots of action always going on. We can't keep a manager. Its just very stressful. So our company ( for profit hospital - chs) has hired this woman to manage our floor til the end of the year. She called us all into a meeting the other day and this is what she said...

" Do you realize that 70% of nurses come from dysfunctional backgrounds and 30% come from either sexually or physically abused backgrounds". Its no wonder "we" have trouble doing our jobs properly....."

Now first off..I don't know what that has to do with us. She has a floor full of Very competant nurses..but they're overwealmed. We only occasionally have nurses aides to help. They've all quit or gone to night shift to ease their stress. So the speach went on to say that weither or Not we had NA's we are to know that the responsiblity of the care of the patient falls on us. We have to make sure the water is passed, the rooms are tidyed, the bath and bed is done and all our nursing dutys fullfilled as well.

Now, I don't know about you...but thats a tall order. I have 6 patients to care for. I do my best to help them with bathing and the other things, but when push comes to shove, sometimes things have to be prioritized. I have to make passing my meds (properly and timely), signing off my charts orders, calling the MD's and fullfilling the treatments ect MY priority. Sometimes, baths have to be let go til the next day. This facility doesnt want to hire any more NA's. They don't see their role as very important obviously. BUT they do stress patient satisfaction as number one!!! I have sat in meetings and told them how to keep the ratings high..but they only answer with "we're looking at the situation and will come to a solution soon.." Bull crap!!! They don't want to hire any aides..thats how we see it.

So the other day a nurse..a very competant nurse was called into the office the other day and told not to come back to work..because a patient had complained to the administration that her pain medication was not given to her in a timely manner. This was a direct admit, meaning they came from a doctors office with NO orders at all. The nurse had to track down the MD and get orders for pain. This took one hour to accomplish. SOUNDS RESONABLE TO ME, HOW ABOUT YOU NURSES? She's gone. Period.

So we are all in a twist over all this. There is no way to do all they want us to do..if all it takes to get fired is a patient complaint. Nurses have no unions..no rights at all. The staff that attended the meeting are all fuming over the "articles" this manager quoted to us. I know for myself, I come from a very stable upbringing..and don't feel I fit into that profile. Most of my fellow classmates said the same thing. So do you think those comments were appropriate? We are going to go to the DON and complain about the situation....because its becoming intolerable.

Your thoughts???

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.
This is a great post.

Why would anyone put up with a nurse getting fired for not giving pain medication that she didn't have order for???? Why are you all not going to the mat for your co-worker?

No one is able to take advantage of you without your permission.

Ask for the journals with the "dysfunctional" articles.

And who defines "dysfuntional" anyway? No one has a perfect family. No one grows up without having some pain in their lives.

That is a really stupid thing to say - and no way to motivate anyone.

steph

Amen on all points.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Geriatric, Behavioral Health.
Very few individuals come from the "leave it to beaver" household. With that said, I believe that those who do come from having more "pain" in their background, can use that pain to strengthen themselves, to become a more caring, assertive and compassionate individual. Some of the best nurses that I have worked with AND have had as my nurse while hospitalized have been those nurses that have experienced difficulties, and have received help for those experiences, and have OVERCOME them. They are better able to "empathize" with a patient and have a fierce determination to make things better for the patient in any way they can.

Beautiful post.

Specializes in Public Health, DEI.

As for the dysfunctional background stat, I guess I could believe that, since the term is so loosely defined and if interpreted liberally, could appy to 70% of the general population. I know I came from a dysfunctional background, and I've known lots of my colleagues' backgrounds (via their own reports). The 30% figure is extremely doubtful to me. Sounds like something spun out of whole cloth.

The person that stated that these nurses, and staff are dysfunctional..... needs to take a look at herself. I know she isn't perfect.

WHAT THE H*** IS NORMAL, ANYWAYS..................

Define NORMAL in the dictionary... regarding people..hmmmmmmmm

Every single person on the face of this earth, has some story, some backround, something they could not control, happen to them----- at SOME point of their life.

We all just didn't go pack picnic baskets with our families on Sunday, and gallop thru fields of flowers all day...talking, laughing, and loving.

Yeah, sometimes. But not all.

Define someone, anyone, who is the lucky person who galloped thru flowers, has not encountered illness, death, the most polite personal relationships , without stress, disaster, or conflict, entering their lives............... You can't ........

It doesn't exsist. We all cope in different ways. Yeah, some better, than others, and the way we cope is the REAL factor....

but to say, "70% of all nurses are dysfuntional..." You'd better mean, 100% of all people are dysfunctional, NO ONE is perfect. DYSFUNCTIONING meaning= not functioning thru all situations in the "NORMAL/IDEAL" that someone ??? defined for all. I.E. I have to cry if my mom dies.

Putting it on another defintion.... cardiac arrhythmia means LACK of a rhythm. So everyone with Afib, PVCs, SVT, has ABSENCE of a rhythm?

She needs to define dysfunctional in a different term...........

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