My kids are sending me to the psyc. ward - page 5

THEY ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!!! (sorry.. having one of those days) maybe because my hubby is gone (week #1 out of 5 mos). maybe because they are only 2 and 5 yrs old. maybe because Im too... Read More

  1. by   J-RN student
    Originally posted by passing thru
    And it's curable. One good smack across the cheek cures
    that little attention grabber.

    Sounds like a smack in the face to me
  2. by   Spidey's mom
    Oh my gosh this is so funny . . . had a really long, exhausting and sad day (lost a patient). Picked up my toddler from my in-laws, waited an hour for my daughter to finish softball practice while playing "catch" with my son, went to the grocery store and as I was writing a check my son wanted down and gave an ear piercing scream (a la passing thru's comments) . . . . well, I packed him out to the car, put him in his carseat, drove home and fed him dinner. He was tired and hungry. And he didn't get slapped across the cheek.

    I just couldn't help thinking . . how weird is this? We were just talking about this on allnurses.

    I cannot imagine slapping that little blue-eyed, red headed, rosy cheeked darlin . . .

    Gotta go kiss him now.

  3. by   Diana in Sweden
    Stevielynn
    your home sounds wonderfull
    :kiss
  4. by   Diana in Sweden
  5. by   MaryBethChick03
    Wow, I'm new here and I just can't believe what I'm reading. Nurses advocating child abuse? Amazing. Truly, truly amazing.
    Nurse-in-boots, you have received some excellent advice and some not so good advice. You sound like a loving mommy struggling to do the right thing under stressful circumstances. :kiss
    This, too shall pass.
  6. by   nurse2002
    I understand what everyone is saying about discipline and why children might or might not behave etc. Giving them alternative things to do.etc.

    But really my main concern is the mom's mental health here.
    Really.

    Please set aside time for yourself. As mothers we just DONT do this. Me included. Im telling you, Go out to lunch or to a movie or both.

    I used to feel bad about going out and treating myself. (still do really.) But we have to every once in awhile. Please do this.
    If you take your kids to a 'mothers' day out program or such dont feel bad. Even if they scream bloody murder when you leave. Just GO! When you go to pick them up you with feel Sooooooooooo much better.

  7. by   nurse2002
    Originally posted by MaryBethChick03
    Wow, I'm new here and I just can't believe what I'm reading. Nurses advocating child abuse? Amazing. Truly, truly amazing.
    Nurse-in-boots, you have received some excellent advice and some not so good advice. You sound like a loving mommy struggling to do the right thing under stressful circumstances. :kiss
    This, too shall pass.

    I really dont believe anyone is advocating child abuse here. With all due respect. There is a diff between abuse and spanking. With my first child I did not believe in spanking. LOL. I do now. As a last resort. I think about all the time though.

    I remember once I was in the grocery and my then 8yo son told me to 'shut up'. I just popped him in the mouth. Not enough to hurt him or leave any mark, but enough to make him think twice about verbally abusing his own mother. (I think it embarrassed him more than anything. He hasnt told me to shut up since. A woman saw the whole thing and got all over me about it. Then another woman saw the whole thing and told the other one basically where to go. What a fiasco! I have not used this as a means of discipline since.

    I dont want to turn this into a debate about child abuse, but I dont think that is what anyone here is advocating. I think some are just voicing what we have all wanted to do every once in awhile.

    Sort of like when you have a real difficult patient and start thinking about some serious pillow therapy. But we would never do that either!
    Last edit by nurse2002 on May 2, '03
  8. by   nurse2002
    I have to also add that I think kids misbehave in public because they think they can get away with it. If you dont want to leave or spank them most places do have bathrooms.
  9. by   gwenith
    I agree with nurse2002 that child abuse had been mixed up with physcial discipline. There seems a common misconception that ANY physical discipline=child abuse and that child abuse is ONLY about physical discipline. Unfortunately there is so much emotion caught up in this issue that it clouds free debate.

    Do we need debate - YES! Let us get this issue out of the cupboard - throw out stereotypes and media myths and look at the research. But let us do it without accusation and allegations of abuse. Accept that for some people any form of physical discipline is an anathema while for others is it a time honored and tested method of teaching behavioural modification.
  10. by   Furball
    Even though I condone shooting idiots (see post # 12 in the "Texas alligator torture" thread) I don't agree with hitting your kids.
  11. by   Diana in Sweden
    I just don't get how I could possibly teach my children to respect others by hurting them ..
    I would not accept anyone hurting me to "teach me a lesson" why would I do that to the people I love the most ...
    just my way of doing things..

    I do understand that not all parents that spank abuse their children.. abuse is multifaceted and can be totally non contact
  12. by   nurse2002
    Originally posted by Diana in Sweden
    I just don't get how I could possibly teach my children to respect others by hurting them ..
    I would not accept anyone hurting me to "teach me a lesson" why would I do that to the people I love the most ...
    just my way of doing things..

    I do understand that not all parents that spank abuse their children.. abuse is multifaceted and can be totally non contact
    Example of discipline.

    Your child, however young, Keeps running into the street or trying to. The child being very stubborn doesnt want to listen. And you keep telling the child what could happen to him if he ran in the street. Even time out doesnt work.

    What would be more effective:

    Saying "Tommy , now dont do that anymore. That big MAK truck could hurt you."

    OR , a serious spanking.

    I vote for the spanking. I think the spanking would hurt a lot less than a MAC truck.

    Bet more likely than not that child would not run out in the street or whatever again, or at the very least think seriously before incurring another infraction of the rules.
  13. by   Snakum
    J-RN ... sorry mate, I musta missed that.

    Minh
    (It's been a LOOOOONG week.)

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