My kids are sending me to the psyc. ward

cwazycwissyRN, RN · Apr 29, 2003

Back in the old days, I took a 4, two 3year olds and a two year old to the movies. As I walked in, I wondered why, knew I had lost my mind. The little angels did not budge throughout the whole movie, eyes glued to the screen. Thank God for ET. Miracles do happen.

Don't ya love it when you take them shopping and they hide in the clothing racks

cwazycwissyRN, RN · Apr 29, 2003

Back in the old days, I took a 4, two 3year olds and a two year old to the movies. As I walked in, I wondered why, knew I had lost my mind. The little angels did not budge throughout the whole movie, eyes glued to the screen. Thank God for ET. Miracles do happen.

Don't ya love it when you take them shopping and they hide in the clothing racks

Mint Julip · Apr 29, 2003

Oh boy can I relate. I have two little darlings, 14 and 4. They constantly bicker between themselves. He yells and she screeches. My son doesn't blatantly talk back, but he makes comments under his breath. That really burns my tail. My daughter's screech could shatter glass and when your inside a mall that screech is amplified 3x. She's also famous for hiding in the circular clothing racks. Took the kids shopping one night and my son took her to the toy dept. Somehow she got away from him and we searched for her for almost 20 minutes. I was so frightened that when we did find her instead of being angry I just burst into tears. I have never been so afraid in my life. When my husband is away on business for sometimes weeks at a time I have to be mom, dad and nurse so I know how frustrating it can be. Hang in there honey...

Mint Julip · Apr 29, 2003

Oh boy can I relate. I have two little darlings, 14 and 4. They constantly bicker between themselves. He yells and she screeches. My son doesn't blatantly talk back, but he makes comments under his breath. That really burns my tail. My daughter's screech could shatter glass and when your inside a mall that screech is amplified 3x. She's also famous for hiding in the circular clothing racks. Took the kids shopping one night and my son took her to the toy dept. Somehow she got away from him and we searched for her for almost 20 minutes. I was so frightened that when we did find her instead of being angry I just burst into tears. I have never been so afraid in my life. When my husband is away on business for sometimes weeks at a time I have to be mom, dad and nurse so I know how frustrating it can be. Hang in there honey...

nurse-in-boots · Apr 29, 2003

Thank you guys soooo much for the words of encouragement. I was starting to think that mine were the only ones that acted like that. I have calmed down, and am ready to start another round tonight. Dad is in the army too, and is away for 5 more months. I think the girls know that dad is gone, so they are testing their limits with me. I plan on letting them know that my limits shouldnt be tested. I have maintained my cool, and will not let them see me sweat.

nurse-in-boots · Apr 29, 2003

Thank you guys soooo much for the words of encouragement. I was starting to think that mine were the only ones that acted like that. I have calmed down, and am ready to start another round tonight. Dad is in the army too, and is away for 5 more months. I think the girls know that dad is gone, so they are testing their limits with me. I plan on letting them know that my limits shouldnt be tested. I have maintained my cool, and will not let them see me sweat.

Scavenger'sWife, RN · Apr 29, 2003

Dontcha jus' love it....

Believe me, there will be a time when you will remember your kids at this age and will wish for the days again...

Mine are 25 and almost 23. I would love to have them at 3 and 5 again... But you have received some great advice. Especially the one that suggested what I used to do: Order the food but when they act up too much for the old nerves to handle, doggie-bag what you have left and go home. Try again when you have the courage. Only by repeating and repeating the adventures will they learn how to behave. Stick to places that are "kid-friendly" for now, like McDonald's or Pizza Hut, etc. Your children are still so very young. They need a lot more time and plenty of patience to develop those public skills. You are brave and doing the right thing in taking them out! They do not learn social skills by staying home until they are 18! :chuckle

Blessings to you & family at this time with Hubby in the service.

Try to find some "alone time" and/or "time with the girls" to keep your tolerance level with the kids in check.

Love the little devils and before you know it, they will be mature kids that everyone says, " Your kids are sooooo well-behaved!"

(It does happen! That is what happened to me!)

Scavenger'sWife, RN · Apr 29, 2003

Dontcha jus' love it....

Believe me, there will be a time when you will remember your kids at this age and will wish for the days again...

Mine are 25 and almost 23. I would love to have them at 3 and 5 again... But you have received some great advice. Especially the one that suggested what I used to do: Order the food but when they act up too much for the old nerves to handle, doggie-bag what you have left and go home. Try again when you have the courage. Only by repeating and repeating the adventures will they learn how to behave. Stick to places that are "kid-friendly" for now, like McDonald's or Pizza Hut, etc. Your children are still so very young. They need a lot more time and plenty of patience to develop those public skills. You are brave and doing the right thing in taking them out! They do not learn social skills by staying home until they are 18! :chuckle

Blessings to you & family at this time with Hubby in the service.

Try to find some "alone time" and/or "time with the girls" to keep your tolerance level with the kids in check.

Love the little devils and before you know it, they will be mature kids that everyone says, " Your kids are sooooo well-behaved!"

(It does happen! That is what happened to me!)

debRNo1 · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by regnursein99
Believe me, there will be a time when you will remember your kids at this age and will wish for the days again...

I remember those days of me acting like a lunatic and threatening to never go out in public with them again.

Mine are 19 and 13 now and I long for us to have some "family time" together even if they fought the entire time.

"She" at 19 is too busy with "her" life (boyfriend) and new found freedom (a CAR!) and "he" at 13 is embarrased to go anywhere with me but he will go out with dad.

Its kinda sad and I do miss it !!??

Enjoy them NOW they will be grown before you know it.

deb

debRNo1 · Apr 30, 2003

Originally posted by regnursein99
Believe me, there will be a time when you will remember your kids at this age and will wish for the days again...

I remember those days of me acting like a lunatic and threatening to never go out in public with them again.

Mine are 19 and 13 now and I long for us to have some "family time" together even if they fought the entire time.

"She" at 19 is too busy with "her" life (boyfriend) and new found freedom (a CAR!) and "he" at 13 is embarrased to go anywhere with me but he will go out with dad.

Its kinda sad and I do miss it !!??

Enjoy them NOW they will be grown before you know it.

deb

passing thru · Apr 30, 2003

I will play the "devil's advocate" here and put myself in the place of the adults who endured the shenanigans.

My opinion is, if your kids are too young or too __________, to behave in restaurants, order your food to go/ or JUST LEAVE !

If your kids screech, cry, yell, ...leave ! Have some respect for the diners who were looking forward to a nice salad and pizza dinner...after a hard day at work. Maybe they splurged their "eating out " money for the whole month on this one pizza meal, and what do they get??

It's my pet peeve...parents looking frustrated and embarrassed and helpless while their kids scream and cry, run all over the place, and ruin the other

peoples dining experience. Simply pick them up and go home !

As one mom said to me, ""But, I hate to have to take the pizza home; they make such a mess, and THEN I'LL HAVE TO CLEAN IT UP !!""

For the 4 year old who screeches eardrum-rupturing decibels in the grocery store or mall...................it isn't cute.

And it's curable. One good smack across the cheek cures

that little attention grabber.

I know. I raised four and did not tolerate screeching in public places. Your four year old is pulling that act at home too. Re: the mall....a 4 year old can remember what she did and can be punished later at home.

It's not that difficult to put a scrreeching halt to it....if you want to.

It relative. My neighbor has one eight year old, 2 six year olds, 2 four year olds, and 2 two year olds. Yep, one single birth and 3 consecutive sets of twins. Her husband died of a malignant brain tumor about 6 months ago. No screeching or acting out in public with this bunch, no attention-grabbing behaviors.

lucianne · Apr 30, 2003

I'd much rather listen to a 4 year old's ear shattering shrieks in a grocery store than see her mother smack her across the face.

There are many ways to control children's behavior including leaving a situation when necessary and make sure you don't set yourself up for problems by shopping when your child is tired or hungry. However, there are times and situations where parents can't always do what is best. Sometimes there's no one to leave the child with or the shopping must be done during the child's usual nap time because mom has to go to work. Maybe the child is autistic and something has agitated them. Instead of being judgemental, I try to help the mom by distracting the child or letting mom ahead of me in line.

luci