Male Nurses. - page 6

SO as a Male looking to become a Nurse one day... Is what they say true? Can a Male Nurse really find better jobs with better pay much easier than most Women Nurses? Are the amount of Men in... Read More

  1. by   JefferyRN
    Michael, congratulations on your decision to become a Registered Nurse. Whether male or female, we need people of quality and integrity to further advance our profession. I will caution you, however, if you're becoming a nurse just to make money, it is likely that you will not last. You have to have passion for nursing in order to be successful. Don't let money drive you, let your passion. Always take time to remember WHY you decided to become a nurse. Congratulations, again, and good luck in school.
  2. by   RN_MIKE
    I must say that as a male nurse being fairly new to the field, I have noticed that many of the female nurses are very friendly. Males are a hot commodity in nursing. Not that women get sick of each other, but they all want to befriend the male nurse because why you ask???? Why not? Its the nature of the beast. Its different conversation, different views, a different sense of humor, and some harmless flirting from both sides. For the most part male nurses have a different quality about them that most women find attractive. The ability to nuture human life openly and honestly and without shame. Of course, we must be competent in what we do or none of that means anything. But the truth of the matter is, everything else being the same......males have the edge so thats one point for the good guys..... Take it easy ladies and fellas. Do I make sense??? Maybe in my mind only. I guess its just something I feel, it may be specific to my environment and me as an individual.
  3. by   FutureRNMichael
    RN_Mike - Funny signature!! :chuckle

    I enjoy reading all of your views esp. the male nurses. Though it is great to hear all sides!!

    The main reason I would like to become a Nurse is because I do have no problems showing compassion,kindness or being caring to others. In fact, it is something I get extreme satisfaction from. I never knew this about myself until I started working in a assisted living facility caring for seniors but I can tell now that is has always been there. As some of you guys seem to say, that is a key componet to being a Nurse and male at the same time.

    Regards, Michael
  4. by   lrbuck
    As a future male nurse, I have been told by several nurses that being I am a man, my future in nursing will be limitless. Since a man is a minority in the field of nursing, a male nurse can get practically whatever he wants jobwise,receive faster promotions, and receive higher pay. All of these things sound great, but is that WHY I should want to go into nursing as opposed to any other medical field?

    At 37 yrs old, I wonder if I have waited too late in my career decision. I DO think that I would do well in nursing school because I am much more focused than I was in my 20s, but since I have been in the workforce for many years now, I now have bills and other obligations that are hindering me from going to school full time. I wish I could find a way to go to school full time and pay my bills without having to work, but that doesn't seem likely anytime soon. Anyone have any suggestions???????

    For other males who enjoy this site, there is a great site for males with a lot of info on being a male in the nursing field. It is www.malenursemagazine.com, so you guys check it out. There is also a great article in the May issue of AJN magazine about the recruitment of males for the field, as well as issues that concern other males.

    As stated above by several nurses, the issue isn't whether or not you are male or female. It's whether or not you can do the job. I agree with that completely.

    "Caring Knows No Gender"- from AJN magazine May 2003
    Last edit by lrbuck on May 31, '03
  5. by   RN_MIKE
    I would just like to say that............... "I AM A MALE NURSE"
  6. by   straba
    Out of 50 students in my BSN program there's only four of us guys. I was just happy not to be the only one!
  7. by   RN_MIKE
    I believe there were 60 students in my nursing class. I was 1 out of 6 guys. I enjoyed every bit of nursing school. I don't think I could've had a better time in any other major.
  8. by   Tweety
    Originally posted by RN_MIKE
    I believe there were 60 students in my nursing class. I was 1 out of 6 guys. I enjoyed every bit of nursing school. I don't think I could've had a better time in any other major.
    Wish I could say I loved nursing school. It was a tremendous challenge.

    We had about 60 students as well, with two males. I reached out to him in friendship a couple of times and was met with a cold shoulder. It's a shame, we could have bonded and been good friends, but no. Don't know why he was like that, but he is str8 and I'm gay, perhaps he was homophobic. Did the males in your class bond, or just mix with the rest of the class, or both.
  9. by   Spidey's mom
    Tweety . . . .probably just a case of people not "clicking".

    How could anyone not like you though?

    I was gonna "hit the hay" a few posts ago . . . my daughter's softball game went into overtime and we got home late, no dinner so we all scrambled . . . and I have to get up at 1:45 a.m so really, I've got to get this sleeping child off my chest and get to bed. I do love it when my toddler falls asleep like this though.

    . . still trying to get that song out of my head . . . "burning down the house". . . .

    Thanks for making me smile. . . :kiss steph
  10. by   Tweety
    Originally posted by stevielynn
    Tweety . . . .probably just a case of people not "clicking".

    How could anyone not like you though?

    I was gonna "hit the hay" a few posts ago . . . my daughter's softball game went into overtime and we got home late, no dinner so we all scrambled . . . and I have to get up at 1:45 a.m so really, I've got to get this sleeping child off my chest and get to bed. I do love it when my toddler falls asleep like this though.

    . . still trying to get that song out of my head . . . "burning down the house". . . .

    Thanks for making me smile. . . :kiss steph
    True enough, I could have had bad breath or something. :chuckle

    Go to bed now!
  11. by   Token Male
    I am not a Male Nurse; I am a Registered Nurse who happens to be male. My wife, thankfully, happens to be a Registered Nurse who is female.
    I see the old furphy about males in nursing all being Gay is still about; that's great but don't tell my kids.
    The original point was about better pay and promotion; I am no longer the only (Token) male in my department, the new boss is a man and he did not get the job because of his gender - the interview panel thought he was the best Nurse for the job. One factor that does make promotion more certain is that men do not take maternity leave so are often around when opportunities come up. It depends if you ladies wish to care for your own offspring or have some-one else do this while you work. My wife chose to raise our two kids ; others do not.
    In Oz, at least, most responsible organisations promote on merit not sex.
  12. by   nowplayingEDRN
    I found in the civilian world that male RNs were a novelty of sorts, however in the military hospital, that is not the case. But now that I have worked 2 different worlds, so to speak, I definitely see where the male RNs in the civilian society had to work harder to gain the respect of others. It was like they had to prove themselves. Now, military wise....all are equal and if you do good, you do good....no bones about it...male or female. The different thing that I see working military is that the civilians are not always treated with the respect due any good professional, maybe it's because we are not in the "in group" so to speak. But I am trailing off here...back to topic.....I have worked with several RNs that happened to be male and I have only come across 3 that have been a disgrace to the profession and 1 that needed to take a hiatus because of burn out. I don't care what your gender is.....all I ask is that you be professional, show compassion and do your job to the very best of your ability and always look for opportunities to improve the quality of your care.

    Christie

    PS: I had 3 men in my nursing class...and we all had a grand time with them, Tweety......I would say t hat you either forgot to brush your teeth that day or the fella just did not appreciate your fine sense of humor :chuckle
  13. by   mark_LD_RN
    EXCELLENT POST DAYRAY!!!!!

    SMILINGBLUEYES-- as usual i have to agree with your posts they are excellent as always

    back to the topic at hand, as a male you can be assured of no preferential treatment, i know a lot of nurses may feel this way,but it is not true at all. I think it is just another escuse they use for why they may not have advanced, it does not have to be true it is just their opinion.

    I can tell you I work with a couple of nurses that insist the only reason patients remember me and not the other nurses is because I am male. well let me tell you I find that very offending, because it demeans an my nursing skils,ability,kindness and compassion. and for what? Just so they can feel better about theirselves! why do nurses find ways to belittle others and their accomplishments instead of looking at theirselves? I can assure you My patients remember me for the care I provide,which is done with kindness ,compassion and to the best of my ability no matter what! they do not seem to realize that i will stay at a patients bedside even if it means i will have to stay late to finish paperwork, or the fact that i will sit with a patient after i am off the clock if that what it takes to make them feel better. none of this has to do with gender it has all to do with me providing care from my heart ,I believe my patients deserve to be treated as i Would want my wife or kids treated and this is how i measure the care i provide. If I do not provide care for my patients atleast as good as I would for my family then I feel as though I failed as a nurse.

    I to have experienced the same things dayray has, I have had everyone of my patients interviewed about me, All of my charts auditted for a few months, even each one of my coworkers were questioned about me and the care i provide. But through it all no one could find a bad thing to say. no matter how hard they tried to find it. I have been denied jobs and even interviews. no matter what my qualifications or references were, i was not even allowed to interview for certain jobs, and was told flat out that "a male will not work here not now not ever" and that was just 2 1/ 2yrs ago.

    thankfully I have a great job now, an excellent nurse manager who is very supportive of me. even or DON and CEO were i am at now stand behind me. you would not think that in theses times gender would be an issue, but sadly it is.

    and gender will continue to be an issue as long as people want to hang on to preconcieved ideas and ignore the truth!

    gender does not make a good judge of a nurse, it is what is in the persons heart that determines it.

    If i could only SHOW you how sick I am of hearing males can not be nurses, all male nurses or gay, OR WOMEN WILL NOT ALLOW YOU TO CARE FOR THEM. IT ALL MAKES ME VERY ILL! over the years I have had maybe 4 patients refuse my care and one was a male who thought i was gay because i am a nurse [ just for the record I am not gay, and think a persons preference should be left out at home]. But I can tell you this I have patients who request me, Or will only allow me to be their nurse when they deliver. I think I have disproven most of the male nurse myths in the hospitals I have worked at.


    men have to be much more vigilant obout things in nursing, what and how they say things are often taken the wrong way. I have personally been held to a higher standard than my coworkers at the majority of places I have worked. how ever unfair this may have been.


    oh and did I mention how much I HATE the term MALE nurse!!! I am a nurse that just happens to be male. I am NOT a MALE nurse!!

    we need to get over the gender issues in this country especially in nursing.

    it is ok for males to provide care for females, it is no different than females providing care to males)

    now lets all just try to be open minded and get along

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