Originally posted by Doc:
We have all been there, whether as a student, a new grad, a person entering a new field of nursing or someone who is going back to the profession after a long break, as you are. I strongly recommend you check these two websites out. They deal with the concept of "horizontal violence" in nursing, which explains why this sort of thing is so pervasive in nursing. It was also very therapeutic, as it validated my feelings and made me realise that so many people are going through the same thing. Her are the two websites:
And here's another one on what you can do about it: http://www.successunlimited.co.uk/nurses.htm
Take heart and try your hardest not to let it get to you. Find people who have been through this that you can "unload" to, and do something relaxing after every shift, be it taking a bath with aromatherapy oils, cross-stitching, tai-chi, yoga, fishing, meditation...whatever suits your style.
It has a name- BULLYING!!! "What is bullying? Bullying is persistent unwelcome,behavior, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also excludion, isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings imposed, and much more. In the workplace, bullying usually focuses on distorted or fabricated allegations of underperformance. Source-- "Online Bullying:What is it?"
This is very helpful, Doc! Thank You so much for bringing it to our attention. Like people who suffer from conditions that are consistently misdiagnosed or not diagnosed, the suffering is eased when the disease is named. It is then treatable.
Unfortunately, this disease is an epidemic in nursing, and needs to be addressed immediately. The nursing profession is suffering and losing nurses because of the reprehensible behavior toward new, inexperienced, or "different" nurses (usually those with integrity and whose performance may divert attention away from the bully's inadequate performance or feelings of guilt d/t subperformance)
These websites are extremely valuable. I have printed off nearly 40 pages of information to share with some colleagues who are now the targets in the facility where I am working. It is soo dysfunctional. All nurses who read this should check out these profiles on the horizontal abuser and see if YOU or a manager fit the profile, or are one of the abused. As a former housewife and waitress and getting my degree in my early forties, this type of behavior nearly destroyed my career, my marriage and my family because I was so despondent. Thanks Doc , I am now armed and dangerous ( or at least confident)! I am now planning on my meeting with my boss, who is a "pair bully."
"I believe bullying is the single most important social issue of today." www.successunlimited.co.uk/bully/bully.htm