LITERALLY EATING THE "HELL" OUT OF YOUR YOUNGS

[angelnurse]

Have anyone ever figured out why nurses gossip so dam much? I have been out of the field for a while. When I returned, I noticed my skills were limited. So I had to go into orientation as a new nurse. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to know when someone is talking about you. My preceptor sends me down the hall to to check on a patient. When I unexpectly come out of the room, they hurry up and break from their little gossipy huttle. It really burns me up because I am very quite and stay to myself. And if I had something to say to someone I like to get very "UP, CLOSE, and PERSONAL." That way they won't get the message backwards. I hate that you said and I said mess. They are really making me dislike my career choice. My patients loves me.

[syranurse]

Oh where should I start. I was picked up by their tounges and thrown across the wall everyday. I lost 20lbs, was always sick, and cried everyday. Being an African-American made it worse I believe...and this was in Syracuse. Eventually, I came to work and did not say anything to anyone...and that bothered them too. They complained that I was not very "easy" to work with etc. After a while, they just did not know how to take me. Well after about six months, I quietly searched for new job..in another state. By my tenth month, I handed in a letter of resignation and was outta there. I now live in Atlanta where I am around people who are much nicer and couldn't ask for a better work environment. It's very hard to be a new grad and a minority today. With the shortage...nurses just don't have the patience but it's no excuse to ill-treat the very nurses who will be taking care of them in the next 20 years or less. I wish all the new grads luck. And remember you don't have to stay in a work environmentthat's unhealthy. There's ajob for you somewhere out there.

[angelnurse]

Hi guys. I QUITTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!! And it feels so good. Syracnurse, I recently endured your past pain. Trust me. I do not talk about other people behind thier back. Although I stay to myself, I like to talk my problems out with others face to face. That way they'll get facts and not misinterpeted gossip. Some people I know you can't do that with, so I just stay my distance. Like in my past job. After reading doc's post about bullying, I realize I was a victim. I came to work to learn. And that was very hard to do while this person was talking about her material things and how much she paid for them.( also talking about me). Anyways, I have a new job. extremely happy. And believe me guys, I really really do appreciate your supportive words during this diffcult time.

I hope I don't step on anyone toes by saying this, but I was reading the MNM post. Don't you all think it would be a good ideal to clean up our own house before we try to clean up the whole field. I mean try organizing a gossip-free, nonbackstabbing- more new grad support- less blaming- etc... work environment and then go out and take on the rest of the world as a family.

[This message has been edited by angelnurse (edited March 22, 2001).]