Just need to whine

robynrn2b · Nov 2, 2003

How long is this going to last? Hopefully it will not be for long, you can complete your requirements and move on. Unfortunately, you made a lapse in judgement and now you are paying the price. But you are hanging in there and for that I commend you. Keep looking. We have hired a few people in our LTC facility who were on probation, so it is not impossible. Perhaps you can speak with someone when you put in your application to explain your story. If you can get a live person to talk to it might help. Or possibly include a typed letter with explanation. It couldn't hurt??

kastas, BSN, RN · Nov 2, 2003

OMG, Rondafan! I am so sorry. We all make mistakes. I don't have any great words of wisdom for you, but hang in there. It can only get better. Doesn't sound like it can get any worse! You can do it! (((((HUGS)))))

rondafan · Nov 2, 2003

This board order will last for 2 1/2 years from the time I get a job. Whats so bad is my Home Health agency was willing to comply with board order, and even wrote to them on my behalf. No Luck. Here's the kicker .....if I DID have an addiction problem and was accepted into TPAPN they would've let me keep my job with stipulations. Waaaaaa

kastas, BSN, RN · Nov 3, 2003

That doesn't seem quite right. Does it?

Todd SPN · Nov 3, 2003

It is apparent you have hit rock bottom. Maybe it is time to accept put some blame on yourself and figure out how you are going to rectify some of this. I don't mean to be mean, and I am not unsympathic, but this started a year and one half ago and it sounds like you have made zero progress. Good luck to you and the family.

Brownms46 · Nov 3, 2003

I have sent you a PM, and I hope it helps! What struck me about your post, is that no where did you mention as to how your lawyer assisted you in responding to the board. So that makes me think that you didn't have an attorney. Am I wrong in thinking this???

Brownms46 · Nov 3, 2003

Ummm Todd I wouldn't be so quick to jump on this poster, as there but for the Grace of God could go you! Not saying that you could've done the same thing, but there are a whole lot of nurses, who are dealing with different problems with the BON, for many different reasons.

I have never had a problem, but as a nurse of 23yrs, I have learned to count my blessings, because there but for the Grace of God could go I! Everyone makes a mistake, and anyone of us could do something we wished we hadn't!

From what I read, this poster did accept responsibility in this matter!

Tweety, BSN, RN · Nov 3, 2003

I know that you are just venting, so I'm not going to offer much advice or judgement.

I will say that no matter how much you fuss and fight and whine, the bottom line is you are going to have to do what the board says, and deal with their restrictions and recommendations. And follow them to the letter. The longer you wait the more they are going think you in denial, the more your anxiety is going to increase.

I would take any kind of job you would get. Is there no possible way you could work 3 12-hour shifts? It's only 3 days a week, can friends or family help with the kids? Seems a shame to pass up opportunities at this point.

Good luck.

Todd SPN · Nov 3, 2003

Originally posted by Brownms46
Ummm Todd I wouldn't be so quick to jump on this poster

Brownie,

I knew I was gonna get flamed. But, she did state she was willing to have criticisim. I didn't reply the way I did to be an A- hole. I'm sensing something else here beside a plethora of no fault rotten luck. I could be right, I could be wrong, but perhaps it needs to be looked at by the poster. She asked, I responded. I tried not to be unkind as I do feel bad for all she has gone through.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Nov 3, 2003

Originally posted by Todd SPN
Brownie,
I knew I was gonna get flamed. But, she did state she was willing to have criticisim. I didn't reply the way I did to be an A- hole. I'm sensing something else here beside a plethora of no fault rotten luck. I could be right, I could be wrong, but perhaps it needs to be looked at by the poster. She asked, I responded. I tried not to be unkind as I do feel bad for all she has gone through.

I agree Todd that a lot of time has passed since the incidence and the OP has gotten no where. I think the OP should bite the bullet and toe the line and get on with it.

You weren't saying that she wasn't taking responsibility for her actions, you were pointing out that a lot of time has passed and it's time to piss or get off the pot. I agree with you here.

Brownms46 · Nov 3, 2003

Originally posted by Todd SPN
Brownie,
I knew I was gonna get flamed. But, she did state she was willing to have criticisim. I didn't reply the way I did to be an A- hole. I'm sensing something else here beside a plethora of no fault rotten luck. I could be right, I could be wrong, but perhaps it needs to be looked at by the poster. She asked, I responded. I tried not to be unkind as I do feel bad for all she has gone through.

Todd I would NEVER think YOU were being an A-hole! NO WAY! Just thought it was just a little harsh, but then again that could just the way "I" read it. Believe me I didn't mean this to be a flame at all, just a tap on the shoulder:).

First we're talking about some pretty life changing events going on here! One - loses job, and now must find another one! Two - Finds another jobs, loves the job, and that is taken away from her! Three Husband leaves and now she is a single parent! Four - now can't go for a job that may bring an satisfaction, but must take anything anyone is willing to allow her to have! Five - Now has no money to fulfill the sipulations of the board! SIX - Now must find a place to live!

Come on...give the woman a breaks you guys:o!!! I think any number of those things happening to me, and I would be in such a depression I might not have even been rational enough to even ask for help, let alone make such an honest post as this person did!

In my mind I think she is holding up pretty darn well considering all that has take place!