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  1. [size=large] i need help.
    i am an rn, licensed in ky and in.
    i am going through a messy divorce with a selfish man who has virtually bankrupted me and my two children, 8 and 6.

    i want desperately to get away from here.
    our divorce was nearly final and my husband had never even hired an attorney - my attorney advised me to agree to file our income tax return together and split the refund.

    well as soon as he got his half of the refund, he filed for a hearing to reduce his child support payments! good advice, huh?

    all i can see ahead of me is years and years of being tormented, attorney's fees, threats, and legal wrangling. the man has no life; that's why he loves to meddle in mine.

    i want to get out of here. if i leave ky i may have a problem getting child support but it would be worth it to be away from that s.o.b.

    i have no family, though, so anywhere i go i will have to depend on daycare.

    my question: in ky or in: where are some good towns with good places to work for rns?
    i prefer ltc but i would work hospital.

    someone please help/advise!

    i cannot sleep at night!

    my credit is shot and i'm running out of options!
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  3. by   itsme
    I dont have any advice, just wanted to tell you that I hope all goes well with you and your kids. Sometimes the best thing is to move and start over. Check out the schools for the kids and how the town/ neighborhood is as far as raising kids. Maybe try some long weekends to drive to various places and see what they have to offer? Good luck and I hope you are able to start your new and improved life!! Oh, and be sure to take time for yourself!!
  4. by   Murt
    Move to Sweden,
    seriously, if your a single parent its the best place in the world. Great schools & daycare facilities that cost nothing.
    The language is not a problem and nursing work is great here too,

    If youve no family ties and a gobshite for an x-man hit em where it hurts and move far away.
    Bit drastic perhaps but he who dares,,,
  5. by   soundsLikesirens
    Not to be dense, but what do you mean by the language not being a problem? I only speak English. Would you be so kind as to PM me with details?
  6. by   Murt
    im irish and i learned the language easily enough.
    there a lots of dr's etc from abroad here who speak english, Swedes in general are good at english.
    There are nurses here from all over the world who speak english for the first few yrs here.

    Would be a drastic move though, its just when you mentioned the daycare needs you have i thought id mention how great it is here.
  7. by   GPatty
    Some places in Indianapolis pay pretty good for RN's, I hear. You could live in a suburb...
    Good luck!
  8. by   lucianne
    I'm sorry, but don't count on being able to leave the area and certainly not the country with your children. Does your custody agreement say anything about having to stay in the area. If it does, and you leave with the children, you will be in more legal trouble than you want to deal with. Unfortunately, unless he totally loses interest in the children, you will be dealing with this man for at least 12 more years, if not longer. In my opinion, it would be best to figure out how to deal with him now rather than trying to escape him. If you moved away, what would stop him from following you?

    luci
  9. by   Diana in Sweden
    Originally posted by Murt
    Move to Sweden,
    seriously, if your a single parent its the best place in the world. Great schools & daycare facilities that cost nothing.
    The language is not a problem and nursing work is great here too,


    I beg your pardon but language is certainly a problem if you want to work as a nurse here.... Swedish is not an easy language to learn!!!..... yes we have great schools but day-care is not free..... and nurses wages are low here compared to the states, I believe....... I love Sweden but let's not exaggerate ok?
  10. by   zudy
    soundslikesirens, I am so sorry this is happening to you. It sounds so much like me 8 yrs ago. Make sure you have the best attorney who will fight for you. I know this is a tough time, but you can do this. Try not to dwell on the yrs you will have to deal with this man; take things one day at a time, and always do whats best for the children. I was always thankful that I had a career, and I was able to work. Take care of yourself, and spend as much time with your children as you can. Come here to vent,there is always someone to listen. Pm me if you like. You and your children are in my prayers.
  11. by   Diana in Sweden
    Originally posted by Murt
    im irish and i learned the language easily enough.
    there a lots of dr's etc from abroad here who speak english, Swedes in general are good at english.
    There are nurses here from all over the world who speak english for the first few yrs here.

    just where do you work anyway.... ?? as far as I know nurses have a very difficult time getting work here unless they pass their SFI languages tests...yes Swedes are generally skilled in English, that does not mean that hospitals will employ people who don't speak swedish..... didn't you have to pass an examination in swedish?.. I could of course be wrong .. it is has been known to happen
    I cannot see nurses working in my hospital without Swedish... we have some docs that have limited swedish but they have a rough time of it....
  12. by   Disablednurse
    Soundslikesirens, first of all, I want you to know that I have you and your children in my thoughts and prayers. Now, get on your computer and get a map and start looking for things on the internet about jobs and schools by searching town websites in these two states. The computer can give you a lot of information.
  13. by   BadBird
    {{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}} I am so sorry for your situation, I wish I knew how to help you but I am not familiar with your state. Good luck.
  14. by   beenaround
    work currently in northern ind. many options to look at LTC, hopitals big and small, home care, visits and shifts in homecare pay i good too.

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