Until you guys are married, then yes you are in just another relationship, no matter how serious it is, they do sometimes fall apart and sometimes they are able to overcome difficult factors. I will give you an example..In my last relationship, we dated about a year and a half, everything was great, and around this time is when I started applying for Nursing school, about 2 months later I heard back from a local college and did not make it in. I also heard back from a school that was about an hour and a half one way, and I had made it in. We had a very thourogh talk about it, and the strains it would cause and weighed our options and decided I should go ahead and take the opportunity. A few months later we started talking about our future and what we wanted in life, (he has 2 kids of his own, and I don't have any), around this time after giving it alot of thought I decided that in addition to his kids later on I want a couple of my own ( I didn't know whether or not I wanted any previously)...well it turned out that he didn't want any more, and although our relationship was great, we decided that it would be a little unrealistic to stay together, so we broke up.....so that is why I say base it on "What you want Ultimately", because you never know...I hope you guys work out however, a friend once told me, always make sure you Hope for the best, and Prepare for the worst, also if you are close enough to his family and don't feel awkward asking, would it be possible for you to stay with his family, while you get settled into the area, and could possibly find a roomate and or a job?