I just can't do this anymore...
- 5Jan 14, '13 by ruthiemkI have come to realize that this is not the line of work for me. I dropped out of nursing school once because I didn't like it, but my family urged me to go back, so I did. I got my LVN and then continued on to get my RN. I failed the last semester of RN school, so I didn't quite make it.
I have worked in LTC, home heath, and now I work in a doctor's office. Here I am, hating it, dreading going to work every day, sometimes fighting back the tears as I drive to work. I am so utterly miserable! My job also does not offer me any health insurance, and I have some health and dental problems that I cannot address because of this. I work in the little lab of a clinic where all I do is venipunctures and injections and anything else that the other nurses don't have time/don't want to do.
I have looked for and applied for other non-nursing jobs that pay okay and offer the benefits that I need, but here is the problem: my husband is TICKED off. I have tried discussing it with him and he knows how miserable I am. But he gets a disability check that doesn't come close to paying all of the bills. He has told me that there is no way I am going to go get a non-nursing job, wasting my education and still having to pay back the student loans (that he made me take out in the first place). He says I am being selfish by seeking out a lower-paying job. Also, I think maybe he would be embarrassed to tell his family as well? I gently reminded him that he has quit jobs that he hated in the past, when we had no other income at the time...!
Anyway, I am not here to whine, so I apologize. But I would appreciated some advice. I don't know how much longer I can do this!!
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- 6Jan 14, '13 by BiffbradfordI've got no answers for you, but just to say you are not alone.
I'm quitting nursing soon after 15 years of stuffing body bags, getting little old ladies down from standing on the bed trying to kick me, or enduring folks going through ETOH withdrawl.
I did a search for "My job is killing me" and came up with this link. Seems to have a well thought out response: http://www.goodenoughmother.com/2012...is-killing-me/
- 0Jan 14, '13 by Born_2BRNCan you go back complete that last semester you failed? It's selfish of him forces you to stay and work in a job makes you miserable. If I were you I will try to complete that last semester. I failed a class (passed my lecture, failed clinical) while in nursing school. I didn't give up I went back after a seat opened. I've never looked back and now I have my BSN as well. I know in our kind line of work support system is very important. My husband didn't understand it at first how miserable I was in my first job until later. Now I only work 2 days a week and no desire to pick up extra shift. I like it that way.
- 10Jan 14, '13 by taossantafeI've certainly been in your position, primarily burn out. I knew that if I were to survive nursing, mentally and physically, I would have to back away for awhile and re-group. The pay in nursing is good and I needed to pay the bills, so I went per diem and returned to school for my life long passion of anthropology. For three years, I worked at clinics and hospice jobs to make ends meet and went to school at nite. Returning to anthropology/archaeology, I was able to have an outlet to resolve my burnout. In other words, I began to love nursing again. I also used my experience in nursing and applied it to my anthro/archaeology studies, primarily in the study of bones and paleopathology. Now I plan to pursue my masters in anthropology. Hope to someday teach nursing again or perhaps anthro. I have nursing colleagues that took cooking classes, accounting, worked as volunteers in museums and slowly moved into secondary jobs, all the while still being nurses; because in the long run, the pay is still better than most jobs. It helped me with the burn out phase. Ultimately, it is your happiness, health, and life, not your husband's.
- 5Jan 14, '13 by prmenrsThe link in Biff's post is pretty good, the gist of which is, ..."Whenever you have a problem, you really have two choices; either shut the hell up and fix it, or just shut the hell up.”
There's a lot more of decent advice in the piece, too, but that sticks w/me.
I can't believe someone who loves you as much as a husband hopefully should really wants you to be as miserable as you sound. Possibly, you two need to sit down w/a psychologist or minister and work out the problem.
I wish you the best, I hope you can find a better situation.