I HATE nursing! (long) - page 3
I really really really need some nurses' advice. So I've realized something about myself lately...I hate nursing. I think I always knew this in college, but I guess I thought things would get better... Read More
Mar 22, '05 by TheCommuter, BSN, RN Senior ModeratorQuote from RRNI apologize. I didn't intend to undermine any job. One of my instructors (a former dialysis nurse) said her job was simple. I was basing my statement on her words. :stoneEXCUSE ME... While I love dialysis it can and is not always an easy job.. Overseeing 24 patients and 6 PCT's is by no means easy.
Mar 22, '05 by TheCommuter, BSN, RN Senior ModeratorWhy do so many nurses seek employment away from the bedside? Why do many nurses throw their hands up and leave the profession altogether?
Quote from SmilingBluEyesWhy is it some say a job like dialysis is "easy"? I can't imagine dialysis being "easy" esp when you are working with chronically ill patients....it must be emotionally draining and exhausting at times. I doubt it is EASY! They say the same about OB, you know, we sit around and rock babies all through our shift.....riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.
There are NO 'easy" nursing jobs....but there are many away from the bedside and out of direct patient care. Are they "easy"? I doubt it.
Mar 22, '05 by PCRather than stay doing something you don't like - GET OUT!
Find something you do like - don't worry about "throwing away all that education" - it won't do you any good if you truly hate what you are doing!
Meanwhile, some suggestions -
1) Start going to school NOW in a field you think you would enjoy working at for the rest of your life. Don't wait, in spite of having to work at a job you hate for a while longer until you get the skills/degree you need for a new one. For 2 years you could go to school, then get out of a career you hate - or NOT return to school and in 2 years still be doing a job you hate, and be 2 years older...
2) There are a LOT of jobs out there for RNs that do not involve "traditional" hospital type nursing.
Mar 22, '05 by EDValerieRNtired nurse,
I have to say, from my own personal experience: please don't teach. I have had professors in nursing school that came from situations not unlike yours, and they didn't last. The pressure of nursing is at least doubled when you have six to ten unexperienced students working on your license. Possibly theory would be fine, as long as you promise not to run the students off with horror stories =).
Do you have a history of anxiety in other areas of your life? I'm wondering... if you don't like nursing, that's one thing. But if you are having anxiety in other areas as well, I'm afraid that you won't like the next position either, and the cycle will continue. Please seek treatment. My first semester of nursing school, I had two full-on panic attacks during clinicals. I nearly quit. Thanks to my nursing instructor's advice, I went to my MD and learned how to treat the anxiety with both pharm and non pharm measures. I did have anxiety in other areas as well.
I always smile when CPAs or HR people ask me why I'm so stressed, and why this job is so hard....
Be sure to find something you love. You only live once, and you shouldn't be miserable in the time you have on this earth. Don't worry about what you've wasted, or what you could have done. That isn't important now. What is important is to find where you belong, either in nursing or something totally different and new. Best wishes!
Mar 22, '05 by julieKQuote from EDValerieRNBoy, do I agree with you on this point!!! I think all nurses should have a "bring your family to work" day and set up little bleachers and let them watch you run around all day for 12 hours and then wonder why you're so cranky when you get home. MY MIL has the nerve to tell me that her job as a receptionist is "busy." It's all I can do to stay calm.tired nurse,
I always smile when CPAs or HR people ask me why I'm so stressed, and why this job is so hard....
Mar 22, '05 by rach_nc_03I'd never thought of this until last night at work- one of the women I work with in the neuro ICU worked for a number of years as a nurse on a cruise ship. Don't know if that appeals to you, or how difficult the positions might be to find, but it would certainly be different than what you're doing now!
also, i want to concur with the others who say you shouldn't continue doing something you hate- i did it for years in my last career because the money was so good. but i left work every night feeling like crap, and dreaded going in every morning. i was becoming a mean, bitter person, and i really disliked myself for it. go with your gut- whether it's a different area of nursing, or a different career altogether. i 'threw away' my BA in music/journalism and went back to school for nursing. there's absolutely no shame in starting a new career!
Mar 22, '05 by dlmrnI have been a nurse 14 yrs, in all settings, hospital, home care, utilization, insurance case mgmt. I currently do telemetry nursing. I feel bad that you are so miserable. There are a lot of anxiety producing elements for you: Hospital setting (Everybody's anxious and it's contagious), sick, sick patients, juggling technical skills, building a clinical foundation and finding the right care priorities for your patients are by no mean easy tasks. You sound like a really good, conscientious nurse and I would hate to see you walk away from it. We need you. I can really relate to the anxiety. I still felt very anxious in my second year and still do, at times. Until you come up with a plan may I suggest a few things that may make your current job easier. First and formost if your health is being affected, maybe you need a short medical leave to rest, recharge and regroup. If this is not an option, here are some suggestions: Buddy up with nurses you trust and ask them for help when you need it (It's been a very valuable lesson for me to learn how to ask for help from other nurses. I can be comfortable in the fact that I'm not expected to know every chapter of the nursing book and how every piece of equipment operates and all signs and syptoms of all pathologies. I'm only human and so are the people I work with. I am the first one to ask some really "stupid" questions whose answers increase my knowledge and reduce my anxiety. Try to clarify what specifically is causing the anxiety, make a list if you have to: New technical skills, contact with patients and families, contact with rude docs, or worse, disinterested ones, learning the systems structure of a hospital and who actually does what (took me a long time to learn who gets called when). When you are at work and you just can't take a certain pt. or family or lab draw or bm cleanup anymore, try and trade tasks with some other nurses you trust. (It really helps to have someone else do something that you are just totally sick of doing and that person usually feels the same way about some task they don't feel like doing). Find people at work to talk to privately about your feelings so they can help you relax, (by helping you feel supported in an extremely difficult occupation at a very stressful time in the health care industry (not enough staff, beds, money, linen or glucerna). You have the great option of working anywhere in health care, but, believe me, whether you're on the phone, or in the home or at the hospital, nursing can be stressful so I think the anxiety you are feeling is part of your professional development, as you are recognizing the complexities of human interaction and the general chaos of the health care system. I wish you the best of luck, hope anything I said helps.
Mar 22, '05 by Care&JoyHi! Have you ever thought about becoming a Certified Legal Nurse Consultant (CLNC) ? I've been looking into it myself lately! The pay is awesome too. Check out a website... www.LegalNurse.com w/ the Vickie Melazzo institute. They'll send you a neat packate telling you about it! Just a suggestion .
Mar 23, '05 by NurseCard, ADN, RN GuideA job like an infection control nurse usually requires either years and years of experience, or an MSN. However, my hospital does employ one young lady who is kinda like an assistant to the infection control nurse. She is only an LPN.
I wanted to comment on what EDValerie just said also... I too suffer from pretty nasty anxiety and in the past year I have gotten to the point of not being able to function, at all. Not in my home life, and certainly not in my job. I am much better now, partly because I began taking medication. :chuckle
I don't mean to scare you, but in my opinion I sense anxiety in your post that really is rather abnormal. I mean, you even acknowledge that the floor that you work on isn't even that bad and that you have lots of support. I think you even did acknowledge your severe anxiety. I would perhaps suggest talking to a doctor and possibly getting a referral to see a counselor. You may really have a problem that is going to have to be treated somehow. You may truly truly hate med surge, and that's OK. A lot of people do.
But like a previous poster said.... you may be someone who is going to be anxious and miserable no matter WHERE you are working... unless you seek treatment.
Mar 23, '05 by paydayYou may have an undiagnosed medical problem which is causing a lot of anxiety.
You may need a different area of nursing.
You may need another career. I know a nurse who worked six months, then went to school for an accounting degree. She's had a great career as a CPA and is very happy. I know a doctor with a law degree who never worked as a lawyer. She decided it wasn't for her but she still hangs the certificate in her office.
I wish you well in your search for contentment.
Mar 23, '05 by julieKQuote from rach_nc_03I think they require either ER or ICU experience.I'd never thought of this until last night at work- one of the women I work with in the neuro ICU worked for a number of years as a nurse on a cruise ship. Don't know if that appeals to you, or how difficult the positions might be to find, but it would certainly be different than what you're doing now!
Mar 23, '05 by dlchap78I have been a nurse for 7 months and work in ICU. I had many nurses try to steer me away from starting there but I was determined. Since starting I have suffered from anxiety, stress and overall feeling that I can't give good care. I really don't think that it would be beter anywhere else. I feel that 2-3 pts are difficult, let alone 5-6. One of my coworkers explained to me the other day that any kind of nurse can be stressed out no matter where you work. Usually the better nurse you are, r/t pt care and compassion, the more stressed and anxious you are starting out. I am not trying to give advice b/c you have been experiencing this longer than I have. I appreciate that I am not the only one that feels stressed and that there are other nurses that give good advice. So thanks to everyone that replies to these messages. And I hope that you find your way. I am starting new stress management techniques and also getting things in line to go to grad school.
Mar 23, '05 by julie978Public health: check out the salary first, but epidemiology, health inspector (like with Jahco or thru the health dept for ALF or nursing homes etc), or tattoo parlor inspector. Lots of jobs in the regulation of health care...you help patients, but not working directly with them....