Dont you hate it when.....

cheska_rn, ASN, RN · Dec 6, 2009

your boss says she needs to meet with you "face to face" next week about some "issues" that "need rectifying", but wont give you specifics?
Now Im going to obsess about this all weekend. Argggh.

Oh wow... that SUCKS!!! Bosses should NEVER do that -- that's just wrong!!! :down:

I know it will be near impossible, but try not to worry. :icon_hug:

rayk1021 · Dec 6, 2009

Try not to stress too much over it. It can't be too bad if they told you they wanted to talk about it next week. It was definately in poor taste for your manager to do it this way though. Best of luck!!

**canoehead, BSN, RN** · Dec 6, 2009

Ohhhhh, poisonous!

Sparrowhawk · Dec 6, 2009

hate that when *anybody* does that..not just bosses. -_-

G'luck.

Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN · Dec 6, 2009

hate that when *anybody* does that..not just bosses. -_-
G'luck.

I agree: why not tell you then and there what these "issues" are or just wait until Monday to even bring it up, instead of mentioning it in passing which puts you through agony all weekend...

Good luck!

KatieNoelLPN · Dec 6, 2009

That is poor management skills. There is no need for her to do that other than she wants to make you anxious. It's manipulative and wrong.

llg, PhD, RN · Dec 6, 2009

I have never let people do that to me. I ask them immediately for a brief synopsis of what the issue is. If they say they don't have time at that moment, I insist that they give me at least an inkling so that I can be prepared. "I'll walk with you to your next meeting. You can tell me on the way. I'll obsess about it and it will be a distraction for me until I have at least a clue as to what is going on? Am I am trouble? etc."

They get the message that I won't let them alone until they either relieve my anxiety about it or tell me the issue so that I can prepare for our meeting. They know me well enough to know that I will not let them alone until they give me a clue. They also know that I will want to come to the official meeting well-prepared. If they don't give me the opportunity to prepare ... the first meeting will be a waste and there will have to be a 2nd meeting, causing them to have to spend more time than they want to spend. So, it's better for them if they clue me in so that we only require one meeting to resolve it.

Most people don't do that sort of thing to me more than once. Once they learn that I will insist on being prepared for the meeting, they don't tell me until/unless they are willing to answer my questions.

emnicams · Dec 6, 2009

That is just cruel!

RN1982 · Dec 6, 2009

You know what I hate, when patients with money throw around and brag that they got money and complain that they had to come to an inner city Level 1 trauma after their car accident because said inner city hospital's smaller community hospital which happens to be located in an uppity part of town, does not take trauma patients. So patient's daughter, even after hearing the reasons why her mother should stay at inner city Level 1 Trauma hospital, still wanted her mommy to go to the uppity non-inner city hospital because mommy has her own private suite with her name on it(she really doesn't have her OWN suite, but she donated big bucks to get a plaque with her name on it thats placed outside one of the patient rooms, big whoopty doo). So daughter of patient stood outside crying because mommy had to stay in the nasty inner city hospital, you know the one with all the resources because uppity hospital didn't have the resources. It's really sad when aestetics are more important than the care that your loved one receives.

I hate people sometimes.

**canoehead, BSN, RN** · Dec 6, 2009

A few years ago I got off a night shift, drove all the way home, 45 min, and got a call from the head of human resources who insisted I come to a meeting with her and my manager immediately. she wouldn't tell me what it was about except that it had to do with whether I could continue employment at the hospital. So I turned around and went back, worrying all the way.

She had a copy of my visa (I had been employed there 2 months already) and said I had to get their hospital's name on the visa, not just the main hospital I worked for. I had been in the USA for several years and done per diem at other hospitals in town and knew they didn't require that, and the border patrol only noted the one on my card although they were told about the other. I told her that and she insisted that the hospital lawyers were sure. She said I was discharged from employment as of that day, so they would be in compliance with federal law, but if I could present a visa with their hospital on it by the end of the day they would rehire me.

I drove the 6 hour round trip, told the border guard my issue, he said "You don't need a new visa for that." I still paid for the revised visa, came back to the hospital, and gave her all the paperwork, went home and crashed. I told her what the border guard said and she didn't budge- she was CERTAIN that the FBI were about to bust in and take us all to jail if I continued working there.

Totally unnecessary drama, and unsafe for me to be driving, especially in the winter, but I had no choice. I still don't know why she couldn't have waited until the next day for the meeting instead of having me drive all day after a night shift.

Orca, ADN, ASN, RN · Dec 7, 2009

When I need to discuss something like that with a subordinate, I just call them in and discuss it immediately. Most of the time what they would imagine when fretting about it over a day or more is far worse than the actual issue. I also don't announce when I am going to give annual evaluations - I just do it. I have found that the less time an employee has to to worry about these things, the better it is.