Deathbed visions - page 5
Have you taken care of any patients who've had any? The first time I had a patient who was apparently having one was a lady who kept looking straight ahead at the wall & having conversations with... Read More
Jan 13, '07my dad was in end stage chf and my mother could not bring herself to sign a dnr
one day they had to do a code on him and when he was able to talk he told mom about a vision of the most beautiful place he had ever seen and how angry he was at the icu staff for bringing him away fro there
that day she signed the dnr and he passed away the next afternoon
i hope that he found his way back to that beautiful place
Jan 13, '07I've worked in nursing homes for the past 14 years and have never seen anyone experience what i would call a true deathbed vision, as the few that did talk to dead relatives did so before they were even sick, due to Alzheimer's, etc. But i have seen 2 relatives have deathbed visions. My great grandma started talking to her death mother at her moment of death, and my grandpa saw a light up in the corner of the hospital room that no one else could see, for about an hour as he slipped away. Both of them died of cancer, an both were 100% in their right minds.
Jan 13, '07I have seen this a few times,one was a man that had been admitted that day for rehab,VSS,no problems all shift,he was completely oriented,laying in bed and not able to move very much.Near the end of my shift I was walki;ng by his room and saw he had his legs over the bedrail,I went in and got him straightened up,when I asked him what he was doing he saidd"I'm trying to catch up with them"I asked him who and he said "the angels in the hallway"I told the oncoming nurse and sure enough he died about 4 hours later.
Another time one of my pts told me her son had been in to visit her while I was at lunch,I said that I was sorry I hadn't gotten to meet him and she looked at me like I was crazy and said well you couldn't see him anyway he's dead! I asked her what he said and she told me he told her that she couldn't come with him yet.She got better and went home.
Jan 13, '07This has been an awesome post, I have enjoyed all the replies! What I have witnessed in my years of healthcare. At the nursing home I noticed this experience: When the residents were nearing death, we would usually observe them starring out the window towards the sun, or towards any type of light. In their dreams before they would become comatose they would dream of walking with their relatives who have passed away. I have had several patients talk to dead relatives. My great-grandmother did this before she died, she was speaking with my father. My grandmother did the same, she told my grandfather she was going home and she died 48 hours later. She had sclaraderma, my great-grandmother had CHF. Another thing I have observed is the glassy eye look when someone is about to pass. I will say pallative/hospice patients are my favorite to take care of. I find it the most rewarding, death can be as beautiful as a the birth of a child. "Birth is a beginning and death is a destination....." Kudos to all you hospice nurses out there!!!!!! :spin:
Jan 13, '07]I've seen a lot of the behaviors stateed here, but nothing hit me so much as my own father's death 2 years ago . He had Lung CA, was pretty much in a coma, hadn't spoken for over a day. He did keep reaching his hand up. A couple of hours before he died, he said (as clear as could be) "Well, OK God" a little bit later he said "Well why not?"
] I want to know the OTHER half of that conversation!
]He also kept reaching his hand like he was petting one of his cats. Bo (18 pounds) would NOT get off the bed for the couple of days before dad died.
Jan 14, '07About 7 years ago my mother was dying of cancer. During her last 3 days she saw 3-5 angels surrounding her room staying close to the ceiling. She spoke of them to my sister and I several times. Talked about how beautiful they were. Two weeks before she died she had an out of body experience and when she came back to us she could not remember who my sister was, wondered if she had been sick and asked if she was dying. We answered all of her questions honestly. She then asked to speak to her hospice nurse alone. She told the nurse of being in a void and how peaceful it was. She eventually remembered my sister and passed away peacefully. She is the reason I went to nursing school at age 44. I want to be to other people what her nurse was to her. Thanks to everyone who replied to this post, it is a wonderful read.
Jan 14, '07Wonderful Post!! My grandfather passed away at 92 exactly 1 yr ago today. I think it's amazing that I found this post today, anyway, he had many of the same experiences mentioned above. He kept talking about all the visitors. Now he did have a few friends and family always in and out but he saw his mother and father, and a few good friends who went way before he did. We mostly went along with it, but my Grandmother got a little spooked when he kept saying there was a little girl hiding behing their TV (He was at home, and had Hospice coming, but was still cohearant) she said there was no one there, but he insisted. A few days later my 2 children and I stopped in to visit, and when he saw my 4 y/o daughter, he said "Oh there she is, there is that beautiful girl that was behind the TV." He continued to ask my daughter why she was there, and she just said, "I wanted to see you." and walked out. He just kind of giggled (which was odd because he had been grouchy, and in a lot of pain). I think he died a week later. When I asked my daughter what she thought of what Grandpa said, she seemed to have the wisdom of a 40 y/o and said "oh he was just having some fun." I liked that thought.
Jan 14, '07Quote from Love Coronadoperhaps she WAS there behind the TV.....astral projection.....Wonderful Post!! My grandfather passed away at 92 exactly 1 yr ago today. I think it's amazing that I found this post today, anyway, he had many of the same experiences mentioned above. He kept talking about all the visitors. Now he did have a few friends and family always in and out but he saw his mother and father, and a few good friends who went way before he did. We mostly went along with it, but my Grandmother got a little spooked when he kept saying there was a little girl hiding behing their TV (He was at home, and had Hospice coming, but was still cohearant) she said there was no one there, but he insisted. A few days later my 2 children and I stopped in to visit, and when he saw my 4 y/o daughter, he said "Oh there she is, there is that beautiful girl that was behind the TV." He continued to ask my daughter why she was there, and she just said, "I wanted to see you." and walked out. He just kind of giggled (which was odd because he had been grouchy, and in a lot of pain). I think he died a week later. When I asked my daughter what she thought of what Grandpa said, she seemed to have the wisdom of a 40 y/o and said "oh he was just having some fun." I liked that thought.
Jan 14, '07Quote from morteMy daughter is advanced for her age, but I don't think her mind can carry her 100 miles away.perhaps she WAS there behind the TV.....astral projection.....
Jan 14, '07Hmmm ok I just had an experience recently and wasn't sure what it was. On the weekend I take care of a 92 yo man. He can barely get around, uses a walker in the house. Let me first relate that a month or two ago this man suddenly started making passes at his caregivers and exposing himself. It was very uncomfortable. One woman quit because she said he was "attacking" her. When she tried to sit on the toilet he walked in. Very unsettling! (only one bathroom in the house)
Ok now on to my dream. I recently had a dream. I dreamt I was standing in his living room and I looked and he was outside in his driveway walking around quite easily. I knew he was dead and was afraid that he was lost and confused about where he was and would not be able to get to the other side. He looked at me and smiled and I quickly ran outside to get him and bring him back into the house. But when I got to his driveway he wasn't there. He had disappeared. Then I was in my bedroom in my bed as if I were awake and had just awakened from this dream. On the ceiling was a black thing moving back and forth and it was him. I said, "Mr ______ you are dead, you need to go now. The black thing stayed on the ceiling but he "projected"? himself down on top of me and I felt a tingling all over my body as I felt his hands reach around me. I wasn't scared. I said it three times. Mr ____ you have died and you need to go now. You are dead now and you need to go. He left and I woke up. I wanted to call the agency to see if he had died but didn't. That night I went to sleep and dreamed again that Mr _____ died. I dreamt I was again at his house and his bed was empty. He had died so he wasn't there. Then I was in my house and running thru the house and all the beds were empty. I kept yelling to my husband to call the agency to see if Mr _____ had died. Even tho my children were not in their beds I didn't feel a panic that it was them. It was related to this man.
So it's been over a week and the man is still alive so I"m not sure what the dreams mean?
Jan 14, '07I have not seen any of these deathbed visions in pt yet but I am new...bt I have heard of them, several occurences with people reaching out their arms when they die and was told that my aunt did this when she died. She had just turned 40 and died of colon cancer and was completely coherent when she died. Her family husband and children were with her and the pastor from her church and the pastor sang her favorite hymn while she passed.
One of my instructors said that she had experiences where people would see a small dog on their bed before they passed away.
My own experience was during my pregnancy I had a horribly vivid nighmare where I was standing in the corner of a room and in the middle of the room was some "thing" that had a baby by the ankles and was swinging the baby and the baby's head kept hitting the wall and I was trying to stop it because the baby's head was getting crushed but there was nothing I could do. Shortly after that I had an ultrasound done and was told that my baby was anencephalic. (neural tube defect where the skull does not close). A few nights after I delivered and was at home trying to sleep on my couch I rolled over and saw two children al little boy and a little girl standing by the desk the my great grandmother had given me, they were staring at me, they were very calm and peaceful it almost felt like they were sad for me. I closed my eyes and tried to focus thinking that I was hallucinating and they disappeared. That was my second pregnancy where I lost the baby. A boy in the second pregnancy ( which I knew from the day I got pregnant) and although I did not know the sex of the first I always felt that I was pregnant with a girl.
In my teens my cousin who was a little younger than me commited suicide. When my aunt called my house to tell us what had happened, I knew as soon as the phone rang, I got that bolt of lightning feeling and even though there was no hint that he was planning this I just knew it before they told me. ( I wasn't the one who answered the call)
After my uncle's funeral at the gathering at my house all the lights in the room went out for a second even thought they were on seperate fuses and no other lights in the house went out and then I had a dream about him where he wanted me to let his kids now that he was watching over them that he was literally within a few feet of them and would always be with him but that he couldn't reach out to them because if he did he would have finish his journey and give up being able to watch over them so closely. And when his wie died 15 years later ( aunt with colon cancer ) I was walking through my yard doing some gardening and found a picture of her daughter (my cousin) laying in the yard. It was a little baby picture that was attatched to a little gold charm. I had been living in my house for a couple of years and hadn't moved anything or been doing any reorganizing and couldn't remember the last time I actually saw that picture, and had not had any family over that someone could have been carrying it and dropped it, it just seemed to appear out of nowhere. I told her daughter about it and she got chills, I figure it was just a way to pass on the message that she is also ok and looking over their kids and figure it came through me because I am more open to those kinds of things and her kids were a little more fearful of that kind of stuff. Or maybe I am just crazy hmmmmm....I have more stories like this but maybe I should move them to the ghost story thread.....but some of the stuff on that thread gives me the heebie jeebies go figure!
Jan 14, '07I'm not a nurse or even NS yet, hope to be soon. But I have seen some of these things with family members.
My father was "brain dead", but he was still breathing on his own. He never went to church, but had a strong belief in God. He passed the moment the Priest finished the last rights. It was a very amazing experience.
My husband's grandmother died at Hospice and she would grab at the air all the time. She would also talk in her sleep a lot.
It is just reassuring to me that we are not alone when we die.