but i dont want to be a bytch - page 2

so i pass the audition and am finally accepted on our unit. battle won but not the war. now i find myself having to deal with some of the assistants. i dont want to continually tell them what... Read More

  1. by   thisnurse
    i used to own a business. i had more than a few jobs in managment. trust me when i tell you that these are the kind of people that you HAVE TO BE A BYTCH TO.
    i am going to have to push them to the wall. its the only way they will ever respect me. thats the kind of people they are.

    these few assistants have screamed at me when i have ASKED them to do something....
    notice the quotes here:

    "hey when you get a minute would you mind changing a bed?"
    "NO!"

    "is that room ready for our admission?"
    "how do i know, i dont clean rooms"

    "would you please take my patient to xray?"
    "no, that's your job"

    so you can see these are the kind of people you HAVE to bytch at or write up. ill chose bytching at and writing up as the last resort.
    and these arent people having a bad day, this is how they ALWAYS are. if i were the only nurse having this problem with the same assistants i would rethink my approach. im not.

    i was sitting at the desk charting one night and one of the worst ones was sitting on the other side. her nurse come up to her and the following conversation takes place...

    RN: i want to tell you about the patient in 27

    ass: DONT TELL ME I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT

    RN: but you need to know that....

    ass:I TOLD YOU THAT I DONT WANT TO KNOW, I DONT CARE, DONT TELL ME.

    RN: look, the patient in 27....

    ass:I TOLD YOU I DONT CARE, DONT TELL ME ABOUT HIM, I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT AND I DONT CARE.

    the nurse continued to talk over the assistant and told her about the patient anyway.


    what a bunch of crap. no way am i ever going to let ANYONE talk to me like that and get away with it. if i do not set a standard right now they will be walking all over me, just like they do the other nurses. its far more important to me to be an effective manager that provides quality care than to be accepted by that clique of slugs.
  2. by   jrmcdoug2
    I'm sick of nursing all together. I'm tired of the call bells, I'm tired of the baby-mama-drama(i work Mother/Baby), and i'm sick of the "just because you are the RN it doesn't mean you can tell me what to do mess". Whatever.

    I'm about to quit and become a research nurse.
  3. by   Teshiee
    I can really understand what you are going through. When I had to be a charge nurse and have NA's working with me. I came off to the point and serious. I never gave them the impression I was better because I will wipe rear ends in feces in a minute. I am not too far from where I was to do basic care on my clients. I even assist my NA's I don't believe in working someone to death because I am not going to.

    Unfortunately you have people that like to try you and see where you are. I had to write up one nurse because she was being straight ignorant. She left a resident in urine til it reaked in the whole unit. I asked her politely numerous times to change the resident and please do it before you go on break. She outright disobeyed me and I wrote her up. If the work was too much I would have been more than happy to asssist her any way I can. But don't disrespect me and my position. The ultimate responsibility falls on my license not theirs! So knowing that already I don't care about bad feelings the patient, client or resident is our priority.
  4. by   Teshiee
    Originally posted by jrmcdoug2
    I'm sick of nursing all together. I'm tired of the call bells, I'm tired of the baby-mama-drama(i work Mother/Baby), and i'm sick of the "just because you are the RN it doesn't mean you can tell me what to do mess". Whatever.

    I'm about to quit and become a research nurse.


    "Ignorance is a skill one should never master."
    "Ignorance is a skill one should never master."
  5. by   Teshiee
    Originally posted by Teshiee
    I can really understand what you are going through. When I had to be a charge nurse and have NA's working with me. I came off to the point and serious. I never gave them the impression I was better because I will wipe rear ends in feces in a minute. I am not too far from where I was to do basic care on my clients. I even assist my NA's I don't believe in working someone to death because I am not going to.

    Unfortunately you have people that like to try you and see where you are. I had to write up one nurse because she was being straight ignorant. She left a resident in urine til it reaked in the whole unit. I asked her politely numerous times to change the resident and please do it before you go on break. She outright disobeyed me and I wrote her up. If the work was too much I would have been more than happy to asssist her any way I can. But don't disrespect me and my position. The ultimate responsibility falls on my license not theirs! So knowing that already I don't care about bad feelings the patient, client or resident is our priority.
    "Ignorance is a skill one must never master."
  6. by   purplemania
    I had this conflict recently. I kept asking her "Are you REFUSING to do what I ask?" After a while she realized I was documenting for possible write-ups (never wrote her up but will if she goes back to old ways). Things got a little better. She also is in nursing school.
  7. by   jrmcdoug2
    tshe,

    If the ignorance comment was for me.......let me just say this,

    I'm smart enough to know when something is not for me. Bedside nursing is one of them. That's all there is to it.
  8. by   thisnurse
    i was wondering what that ignorance comment was all about. guess i have it mastered...lol


    i was charting the other night and i heard one of the assistants ask another one to help her. the second assistant asked her who her nurse was. she told her and she said...no i wont help you.

    and i told the nurse what happened. i am trying like crazy to get my peers to start putting the hammer down on some of these assistants who refuse to work. maybe if enough of us complain they will be forced to do their jobs. even a half azzed job is better than what they are doing now. its the only way a change is going to come. we run around like idiots while they sit at the desk and chat. the new thing now is doing each others hair and makeup at the desk.
  9. by   Teshiee
    OH GOSH! Let me be the first to appologize I was trying to place a quote after my comment and I goofed. No way are you or anyone on this thread is ignorant. I am so sorry! It was a general statement no intention of offending anyone. When I realized what I have done I knew someone would take it that I was implying they were ignorant.



    Please forgive! Anyone who doesn't like something has a right to choose whatever they want to make their career life easier. Is there anyway I can have it deleted?
  10. by   Teshiee
    I am sorry I made an error. I was trying to make a general quote after my comments and somehow I made a boo boo. It was not meant for anyone. I am not oppose to anyone who is unhappy with their surroundings. I wish you well with your research nursing. What area of research are you interested in? Again I am sorry for that. Sincerely Teshiee
  11. by   pebbles
    Do you ever get the feeling that some people (assistants and nurses and doctors alike, sometimes) forget that the reason they are here is for the patients?

    Some of this inter-personal squabbling that goes on in the name of doing and/or avoiding work just makes me want to shake people! What do patients think when they overhear all this from the hall or from the doorway of their room? They understand if a nurse is busy doing other important things, but I don't think they are supportive of being told "It's not my job, so you have to wait", or worse...

    I find that "asking for help" instead of giving orders is helpful, but that's also the structure of my unit. The aides are more willing to do things for my patients when I am busy if they know that I pitch in to help THEM out when I'm not busy. "It's not my job" goes both ways, and it's a shame either way. There are other nurses who don't get the support from the assistants because they won't do bedpan duty when it's busier on the ward for aides than nurses...
  12. by   RNIAM
    Pebbles
    Thank you for being an awesome nurse. One who doesn't forget the basic principles of her proffesion. this is, giving basic patient care, comfort is the key to recovery. Our supervisor says it best. People recover with or without us.Meds and time make anyone better. The love and caring we show patients is what makes them feel better, so they can get better.I am a patient Care tech. I take pride in what I do. I am not lazy,nor are the other tech's I work with. I am sorry their are people in this world that don't do thier fair share. I wish those people would realize that who they are hurting by this infantile behavior, are the pateints they care for.I walk on to a floor and see my patients, all thirtytwo of them, that is the whole floor.I don't see my assignment of 15. I go to work,as soon as I am done I go to the other side to see if they are finished. If they're not,then i help. Call me crazy but that is what I am getting paid to do. I applaud the hard working nurses that jump up to answer a light,and don't feel it beneath them to put or take a patient off the bedpan. They see what is needed to be done and do it without complaint. They are the ones that hold their heads high and walk around with a feeling of pride.I, one day
    will become a nurse. I will be a nurse like I just descibed. I won't waste my 8 or 12 hours complainning about how bad the nursing shortage is (I leave that up to the others to figure out) I will go to and work. I will smile,joke and laugh my way through life. I will find positive things to look at and be proud of. I will not allow negative people to destroy the good in my heart.Nursing is not for everyone, and I wish those that destroy the good in nursing could find a new vocation.
    Thank you for being the excellent nurses I know some of you are.
  13. by   RNIAM
    opps,sorry for the typos. I thought I had them all...lol

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