After reading negative thread, want to give up nursing dream! - page 3

After reading post after post after POST about how so many of you would not recommend nursing to your kids, I'm about to give up. I decided to go back to nursing school after having my two kids,... Read More

  1. by   lllliv
    i'm not venting. i'm being honest.
    i just wish i had had someone tell me all of these (negative) things before i went to school.

    do some research on other medical fields and see how happy they are. maybe you would be happier with something else...or maybe not. if you really want to be a nurse then go for it. it is up to you.

    pt, ot, st, etc... all loved their jobs where i worked. they don't get dumped on like nursing.

    good luck whatever your decision is.
  2. by   jollyjenny
    Quote from TazziRN
    95% of the responses to one thread may have been negative, but that is not 95% of all nurses, not even of all the nurses here on this site. That's an unfair assumption to make.
    Okay, I didn't say 95% of ALL nurses. I didn't make that assumption. I thought I made it clear when I referred to the thread I mentioned. Sorry if it sounded like I was generalizing.

    WOW!
  3. by   TazziRN
    It's not fair to the rest of us to let 95% of the responses from one thread represent all of us.
  4. by   lllliv
    she said 95% of the people that responded to that thread. she is not making any assumption.
    Last edit by lllliv on Mar 21, '07
  5. by   ZASHAGALKA
    I've heard this complaint several times on this site over the years. I would sum it up as follows: y'all are ruining my dreams by introducing reality to it.

    The solution is NOT for us to convert to the standards of your dreams so that nursing will continue to be your idealized fantasy.

    The solution is to modify your dreams so that they are in line with the reality of nursing so that nursing can become something that, if maybe not the fantastical ideal, is at least a working and satisfying reality.

    Nobody here can give that to you and nobody here can take that away from you with our posts, even if some or most of those posts are professionals venting to each other.

    I just get the idea that you somehow want us to apologize for nursing or for our own discussions on the topic. Somehow, nursing won't be 'right' unless you hear from us an echo of that ideal calling in your mind's eye. In the end, what you want is for your one idealized perspective of nursing to be the dominant perspective reflected from this site. In reality, this site hosts a wide variety of nursing discussions from a large body of members with widely differing nursing experience and experiences. You are projecting your perpective onto all of us and are complaining that something doesn't add up. That might be so, but you have not walked a mile in any of ours shoes. If that discourages you, unfortunately, so be it. We have nothing to apologize about.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  6. by   TazziRN
    Quote from lllliv
    she said 95% of the people that responded to that thread. she is not making any assumption.
    No, she didn't, not originally. She did correct it but this is what we were responding to:

    BUT-the thread titled, "Would you recommend nursing to your daughter?," is the one that scared me because it was NOT about venting, but simply about all of the people who hate their jobs enough to not recommend that their loved ones enter the field. 95% of all the posters responded in this manner. Too many people hate it.
    "95% of all the posters" does not include the phrase "that posted in this thread".
  7. by   ZASHAGALKA
    As far as the 'would you want your child to be a nurse' thread, that is out of context to reality.

    For example, I would NOT want, as I have strongly indicated to him, for my 17 yr old son to go straight into the military after high school. I did that when I was his age and so do not want him to do the same. Does that mean that I'm anti-military? Heavens no! I'm glad I did it, and the experience was rewarding.

    The POINT is that if my children want to go into the military, I would rather they go to college first and go into the military as officers. I've worked my tail off so that they could have a BETTER life than me.

    Probably, many nurses feel the same way about their children. I just don't see it as a 'put down' of nursing for nurses to want their children to have better lives. That is how the American Dream has flourished over the years, handed off to each successive generation.

    Nursing IS a difficult job, and even those of us the love it most have thought from time to time, "There HAS to be a better way to earn a living." To me, it's a no-brainer that THAT thought process dominates the minds of nurses for what they want for their children. I would think that to be true of practically any profession.

    I just don't think that it's a popular American sentiment to think: I want MY child to have the exact same station in life as me. Normally, we aspire for more for our children. Rightly so.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
    Last edit by ZASHAGALKA on Mar 21, '07
  8. by   MedSurgeNewbie
    Hey whatever you decide be true to you, I can remember in school certain classes we all dreaded because they were supposed to be terrible, I loved them! Never let someone else write your history- find your niche in life weather it be nursing or underwater basket weaving and go for it! I have had three “careers” in my life and I would never go back to anything but nursing even thought it’s a major pay cut – good luck, enjoy the journey its not forever -
  9. by   jollyjenny
    Quote from ZASHAGALKA
    I've heard this complaint several times on this site over the years. I would sum it up as follows: y'all are ruining my dreams by introducing reality to it.

    The solution is NOT for us to convert to the standards of your dreams so that nursing will continue to be your idealized fantasy.

    The solution is to modify your dreams so that they are in line with the reality of nursing so that nursing can become something that, if maybe not the fantastical ideal, is at least a working and satisfying reality.

    Nobody here can give that to you and nobody here can take that away from you with our posts, even if some or most of those posts are professionals venting to each other.

    I just get the idea that you somehow want us to apologize for nursing or for our own discussions on the topic. Somehow, nursing won't be 'right' unless you hear from us an echo of that ideal calling in your mind's eye. In the end, what you want is for your one idealized perspective of nursing to be the dominant perspective reflected from this site. In reality, this site hosts a wide variety of nursing discussions from a large body of members with widely differing nursing experience and experiences. You are projecting your perpective onto all of us and are complaining that something doesn't add up. That might be so, but you have not walked a mile in any of ours shoes. If that discourages you, unfortunately, so be it. We have nothing to apologize about.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
    I never said I wanted an apology. Please don't put words in my mouth.
  10. by   BULLYDAWGRN
    Well if you decide not to try to become a nurse by the results of some silly computer thread, if something that abstract has made the decision for you, well then maybe you should think about going into something else. I mean geezzz, get into a real world hospital or some care center and hug on the coat tail of a real nurse for a few days. Otherwords "get amongst them" as we say in the south. Let what you see make up your mind, not this computer playground. And no, I would'nt want my 5yr old daughter to be a nurse, reasons? Some personal and some reasons you see typed on the threads you see everyday on this site...
  11. by   leslie :-D
    professionally speaking, there is much to gripe about.
    that is why there is the current nsg crisis; much going on with minimal resources to turn it around.
    yet, despite its' frustrations, i have never been so personally satisfied and that is why i choose to remain a nurse.
    thank God we have this bb where others can vent.
    Lord knows we don't have the support on the job.
    but i have a hunch that many feel as i do: that no matter how maddening the job can be, the personal rewards are far more satisfying than the professional hindrances that makes one pull our hairs out.
    one's attitude will make or break the staying power of our profession.
    best wishes to you.

    leslie
  12. by   jemommyRN
    I really think that you should stick it out. The good thing about nursing is that there are SO MANY different options with nursing. you don't have to work in an area (or hospital) where it is understaffed or overcrowded. You can be a DON, teach, LNC, CRNA, etc. You can travel, and look at all of the different specialties you can go into. Please don't limit yourself to others personal experiences. One of the reasons that solidified my nursing decision was the fact that I had to leave Louisiana and start anew in a different state during Hurricane Katrina. If I had been a nurse, I could have gotten a job within days to support my family through that rough patch. But, instead, it was very hard for me to find work with the degree that I already have. I'm saying that to say this.....everyone has their own reasons for going into the field, make yours specific to you and take others' experiences for what it is "just their experiences".
  13. by   Bicycleboy
    It seems that there is so much you can do as a nurse, if one part is terrible go and do something else. I see nursing as my ticket to reach my full potential, there are so many different directions one can go as a nurse, and almost all of them are up.

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