I know that working where I do, I have to expect I will lose patients from time to time. Guess I didn't think it would be so soon in my career. The other night, I took care of 2 older ladies, one who had been an RN for 40 years (she also went to my church and was very active in my smaller community). Both of them did not make it and from 4am to 7am, I did my job with tears streaming down my face. At one point, the one lady's daughter called from Ohio and I put the phone to her dying mother's ear so she could say what she needed to say. I don't know if I'm cut out for the ICU, even though all the interaction with the family made me feel "needed". I am going to the RN's memorial service on Wednesday.
It was hard enough to deal with psychological and emotional impact of having to deal with ONE dying patient and their family, but then I had to do it with BOTH of my patient's that night. Besides caring for my dying grandmothers, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Since that morning, I have no energy, don't want to get out of bed, and am basically miserable. I've wondered if maybe I should see if my hospital offers some sort of grief counseling or at least go in and talk to the ICU supervisor, who's always got her door open. The family said they really appreciated having their mother cared for by a nurse who showed emotion, which reassured me somewhat. I was able to still do my job, which included titrating up to about 700mcgs of Neo, 30 of Levophed, and max her out on Vasopressin, giving liter after liter fluid bolus and only getting a pressure of about 50/32. Yes, I was tearing up while doing all of it, but I still did what was expected of me. I also managed to put on a brave face, pull the family out of the room, and explain the situation to them. At the time, the patient was a full code and I wanted to the family to understand that CPR wasn't really going to benefit their loved one. They listened to me and then quietly said, "let her go". I was able to get through that part of it without any tears and look somewhat professional. But I can't stop thinking that I didn't handle things well and I'm doubting myself.
I don't even know what I expect to gain by writing all of this here.....it's just been a hard week at work.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Melanie:crying2: