Man, I wanted to say *exactly* what you all have been saying about 2 or 3 weeks ago, so I'm glad someone got this thread going.
I too, have been having a hard time adjusting. I really thought my preceptor thought I was hopeless. A couple weeks ago I spent my days off crying and whining and doubting if I'd ever be able to measure up. I was even thinking I should be practicing the phrase, "Do you want fries with that?" or even "Paper or plastic, Ma'am?".
Things have finally gotten aired out (it wasn't a fun experience)
My preceptor is very frugal with compliments and very big on pointing out potential areas of liablility. She is also a very *strong* personality. The nurses on my unit are all really exceptional nurses and that tends to be even more intimidating for me, as a new grad. I finally realized this and explained to my preceptor and the nurse coordinator on the unit. They were both very supportive and things have been going a lot better since then.
My preceptor still isn't overly generous with positive feedback and probably still thinks I'm a bit wimpy (we are talking about one STRONG willed woman here!)
But we seem to be getting along well and she has become like one of those teachers in school that everyone hates because they are so tough and in retrospect,
we are so glad we had, because we learned so much from them. She really makes me want to work extra hard to earn her respect. She really pushes me to stand up for myself, to voice my opinons, to be secure in my knowledge and skill, proud of my profession and to not take any BS from anyone.
I may not always agree with her, but I think that one day, thanks to her teaching, I will be a much better nurse for it.
Some days are exciting and exhillerating and some are gut-wrenching and frustrating. But I guess that is par for the course as a new nurse, from what I'm hearing here. One day WE will be the experienced nurses. So keep hangin' in there new grads and we'll get there one day at a time!!!
Best of Luck to You All!!!