Malaysia: "Please, help my son! He is dying!"

Every nurse has a patient that shapes the nurse they will become. This experience in the Emergency Department shaped my career. Nurses Announcements Archive Article

"Please, help my son! He is dying!" - a middle aged man screamed as he entered the emergency room.

I looked up and saw one little boy age of nine in his arm with so much blood on his body. The blood is whooshing from the boy's body ... at this point, I'm not sure where it's coming from. Oh, God!

I guided the father to the resuscitation room or red zone. Alerted the doctor and got help from ward's staff. Gave patient oxygen and set up all the cardiac monitor and blood pressure cuff. While doing everything I realize that there was a huge, deep, and open trauma on his back at the scapula region. I can see through it.

I instructed the hospital assistant to help me press the wound to stop the bleeding. As I helped the doctor in assisting him in intubation. At this point, I thought only a miracle can stop the bleeding. A few minutes felt like hours - "Where is the other staff?"

"Please I need help! I need someone to set the IV cannula! This boy is losing so much blood!"

After successful intubation, I gave chest compression while the father was helping in giving manual ventilation through bag ventilation mask - with a lot of tears in his eyes while the doctor is trying to get a vein for IV. An RN arrived, she stepped back after seeing so much blood. "Sorry, I can't stand to see all the blood." I was shocked when the words came out from her mouth.

"Oh, My God! Help me please. Get me someone else!"

Being a new RN grad and working in this small center makes me have to work on myself really hard with a little experience. On that day, I'm working afternoon shift with two hospital assistant and one medical officer and it's on a holiday! I'm putting all my knowledge and what I learn through the three years of nursing school and clinical.

The center that hired me is small but have a BIG sign of EMERGENCY 24 HOURS outside of the building with a bright light and you can saw it from 1000 meter far but the facilities and staffing is poor.

That condition put my career and other patient's life in danger.

I just graduated 8 months ago from nursing school and have only 6 months of working experience and they put me as in charge RN all by my own with one doctor and a hospital assistant who doesn't even know how to take blood pressure.

This boy could have been saved if proper management, fluid resuscitation, and controlling the bleeding by binding and compressing the wound. When the doctor gave instructions to stop the resuscitation I couldn't hold my tears.

Now, after four years in nursing, I never forget what happened on that day.

I still think about the RN who chose not to enter the resuscitation room cause of the bloody body. I remember blaming hospital management for their poor management and staffing. I even blamed myself for the lack of knowledge and experience I had. I learned from his father that his son was hit by a car while cycling in their resident area and that day was the boy's birthday.

Being a nurse and by choosing this career, we must be aware that we will be responsible for saving people. We need to accept that seeing blood is routine. Please don't sacrifice another person's life by choosing this career if you do not have the stomach for it.

For those newly graduated RN, you will be facing 1001 kind of cases and incident through your career. Some will make you feel inadequate. Never give up. It's just another way for you to learn - to become a great nurse. Go on and never stop learning!

I quit from the hospital and looking for a new job at well organized center. Now, I'm in the middle of taking my Advance Emergency Medical Trauma Care certification and I never forget the incident that happens on that day. From that day, I promised myself to become the best nurse that I can be. A nurse who can handle any emergency conditions and save lives.

You should be proud of yourself! You worked diligently on a very bad situation that rarely has a good outcome in the best of circumstances. I worked in a large inner city hospital trauma/emergency dept with all the resources and personnel at your fingertips and I also for a short time worked in a small community hospital emergency room. Cases like this belong in a trauma center and the sooner the better... unfortunately this father thought the closest emergency room is where he needs to be... as you described, resources are limited. I do question why after 6 months as a new nurse you were placed in that situation... that is not fair to you. As I said, be proud of your response to try to do what you could... the nurse "who couldn't handle all the blood" --- I ask why is she anywhere near any size emergency dept??? She needs to go work for some insurance company and get out of the way!

wow.

The world needs more nurses like you. Sorry the other nurse wasn't helpful in time of real need. Thank you for caring.

i know. that RN needs to change career

I know, why would she decide to become a nurse if she can't handle that? I could see if she wanted to work in an environment with little patient care where blood was unlikely, or a desk job, but in an emergency room? Shouldn't being able to be around blood be a job requirement in the ER?

It's not only a sad story, but it is also scarey to think that someday you may need medica attention and a health care worker will just abandon you like that.

Thank you all.. :)

I'm glad that my experience inspired you all

but for you all information..the RN that afraid of blood is not worked at emergency department.She is working at medical n surgical ward.She came down because I alert the ward nurses to help me at emergency as I don't have enough hand.BUT still,I'm shocked she said that to me in that kind of situation...

wow this definitely is a very unforgettable experience

yeap.I will never forget it..

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Bravo for doing the Advanced Trauma care certification.

You'll never know, perhaps all the training in the world might still not have saved that boy, but then, every bit of learning that we do just might give us that edge that saves a life.

American nurses really cannot understand the differences between what is available in other countries unless they spend time overseas. If Maylasia is like Thailand, where I've lived, few that run ambulances really have any adequate training and depending on where you live, there simply may be no trauma center.

Here in America the nurse that wouldn't help would likely face "abandonment" charges and at a minimum would likely have her license revoked by the Board of Nursing. In Thailand, that would not be the case, and it may not be in Maylasia.

Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work.

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Thank you all.. :)

I'm glad that my experience inspired you all

but for you all information..the RN that afraid of blood is not worked at emergency department.She is working at medical n surgical ward.She came down because I alert the ward nurses to help me at emergency as I don't have enough hand.BUT still,I'm shocked she said that to me in that kind of situation...

I don't care if she worked in the hospital gift shop. She is no nurse, she is a disgrace. You, however, are the real deal. You make me proud.

This is very inspirational story as a new grad nurse. I vow to learn as much as I can and be mentally prepared to handle any situation. My heart breaks hearing that the nurse couldn't "handle" blood. Are you serious, was she fired after this incident??!

Kudos to you for finding another hospital and expanding your education.:up:

This is very inspirational story as a new grad nurse. I vow to learn as much as I can and be mentally prepared to handle any situation. My heart breaks hearing that the nurse couldn't "handle" blood. Are you serious, was she fired after this incident??!

Kudos to you for finding another hospital and expanding your education.:up:

Nope.she not fired because i did not report to the management.She not helping me inside the resus room but i consider she helping me to manage the chaos outside..:)

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Thank you for sharing your story. It was amazing. My unit takes trauma patients and everyday is a challenge dealing with the trauma patients.

Specializes in PCU.

You are an amazing inspiration to those of us who love nursing and believe that we are doing the job others cannot or will not do, because it needs to be done. Kudos and God bless your continuing education and excellence.

I admire your concerns regarding the event that took place with that patient but the worst thing that I read from your post was that "I quit from the hospital and looking for new job at well organized center" , this shows that you already gave up on the poor patients who comes to that center asking for help. If nothing changes with the way the center and it staff handles its cases, maybe it would have started from you and made a big difference and have set a good example to all nurses.