Quote from happyloser
I dont think family should be present during a code. It creates too many complications and makes the staff really nervous especially when the said family member(s) cannot be controlled. The other day we had a lady who coded while the family members were in the room and they started yelling and cursing at us and would get in the way of the code team. So I would have to say no.
I'm sorry you've had this experience. Family presence is meant to be a case-by-case situation, with the proper support in place for the family and not just a carte blanche to remain in the room no matter what.
Imagine this for me..
Your child/parent/spouse/sibling collapses while having dinner at your house. 911 is called and you begin CPR. EMS arrives and assumes care of your loved one. You watch them...compressions, defibrillation, intubation. It's time to transport and they offer you to front passenger seat in the ambulance. Resuscitation continues and you can hear their efforts from the back. You arrive at the ED and follow the stretcher in through the automatic sliding doors. Into Room 2 goes EMS & your loved one...then someone blocks your path, points to the wating room, and closes the door in your face...
While this is just one of my family presence experiences, it's the one that sticks out in my memory. How dare we keep someone out...were we protecting them from the horrors of resuscitation? Hell, they'd already seen (and participated in) it in their own dining room.
This particular family member, an adult son, followed the stretcher into the room. He stood at the foot of the gurnery, holding onto his father's feet, fulfilling the hasty promise to his mom about "staying with Dad" because she couldn't bear to be in the room.
We heard him quietly say "C'mon Dad" a couple times, then his words turned to "It's okay Dad. Mom's okay". Our doctor moved to the foot of the bed, explaining everything that was being done and how his dad wasn't responding to any of the efforts. It was almost a collaborative decision to call the code.
The man accompanied the doc to the family room to break the news. She was reassured that all efforts had been exhausted, and both were thankful that someone was allowed to be with the man during that time. A comment was made that they couldn't bear the thought of him "dying alone".
I urge you to keep an open mind on this topic.