I agree with the last post. It is all in how the person perceives it, not how its said. We have had this problem at our facility also. The problem is, some look at it as a power trip, while others look at it as a responsibility.
It got to the point where our nurse manager said, "I don't care who agres or doesn't agree with the charge person, what they say goes.....the end".
I had the same problems, and its so bizzare......because as a peer people have trouble accepting that one of their own is "in charge". I have always felt like when I'm in charge, every single patient, waiting room, in back, thru care wherever, is my responsibility. That is where I may have been deemed as, "nosey" or "why?" Now that I have moved up to the manager role, except for a few newbies, everybody treats me different? I don't do anything different than I did before. i think its a case of, the charge person is just an "imitation manager"? Thats the only thing I can come up with. Unfortunatly many have no idea about charge responsibilities. We are a 17 bed ER, soon to 21, with a 7 bed peds unit. We see up to 155 pts a day, and the shift can be busy with packed halls, patients complaining, doctors complaining, staff complaining, etc etc. You are left to handle complaints, catch up on the forgotten (mildly to not really injured patients), and cover lunches, etc etc.
It's amazing how turning the reigns over to someone else, on a jam packed night of chaos changes the way they think and feel. it's not for everybody....no doubt.