iloveer

I am frequently assigned the charge nurse position in my ED. I also take patients. I like this responsibility and feel that I am capable of solving the problems that arise. However, one problem I have is with manangement skills--this is the first time I have had to "manage people." Several of the nurses I work with take offense if I ask them any question about the status of their patient, or ask them to do something. It's like they don't want to be accountable or something. I feel like they do not acknowledge my role as charge. I have a good relationship with the nurses, however, I have been told that I can "be intimidating" at times. I am confident, but I also ask questions when I don't know something. I am not "bossy," perhaps I'm wimpy. I may be stuck in the female role of "I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, I want everyone to like me." I have approached my director about this subject, and her advice is "if they don't like it or they don't like you- they'll get over it, don't worry about it." So, basically my director is not a resource for me. Also, many of our nurses get away with tardies, sloppy work, and sloppy charting. And with the nursing shortage--especially bad at my hospital--alot of people have the attitude that they won't get fired--and they're right! I would appreciate any suggestions. Thank-you!