3 1/2 y/o daughter won't potty......please give advice.

[J Lynn]

Has anyone have any "clever" ways that they got their daughter (or son) to potty train. I've tried everything I could think of. She starts school at the end of Aug and must be potty trained. She doesn't seem to understand what she has to do and I know if I get her to pee just once, she may start.

Thank you in advance for ANY advice.

[Danelle]

I think the trick is that you have to find what works for your kid. Every child is different and you just have to keep trying different things until you find magic thing what works for them. My daughter is no exception.(she turns 3 in November) She is very bright but VERY stubborn. I used to ask her if she would go potty, she would say, "no, just change me."(pediatrician thought that was hilarious) She was well aware of how to contraol her bodily functions, because when we were on outings, she always used the potty. We even went out of town for 3 days and she used the potty all weekend, no accidents. She just would not at home or school. I guess it was because she was in her comfort zone. We tried all of the videos, treats, bribes, rewards, praises, begging, and throwing away the pull-ups. What finally worked was what all of the psychologists and pediatricians tell you not to do, and I know this was probably not the best approach so please don't flame me. One day I was so frustrated because she would not go potty, so I looked at her and said "Fine, but if you tee-tee in you panties you are going to time-out. She looked at me and said just as calmly as could be said "but I don't want to go to time out." So I said "Well, then don't tee-tee in you panties" She stood there for a minute and then looked up at me and said " I have to go potty." And the rest is history. She has not worn a pull-up or had a single accident since, not even at night.

[simona]

My daugther is 2 1/2 and uses the potty for 6 months for pee-pee with small accidents but refuses to sit on the potty for poo-poo, every time she needs to poo she asks for a nappy, and 2 min later, after the job is done she takes her panties. I tried everything, if I refuse to give her the nappy she won't go. When we go outside she is distracted and goes in her pants, this is why I always give her pull-ups outside. Last month she poo outside only, I'm very frustated and worried.