Working with fellow female nursing staff

[abbaking]

Hello all. I have been a male Registered Nurse in the Med/Surg setting for about 6 years now, and lately I have noticed alot of negativity with my fellow female nursing professionals. Sometimes my charge nurse snaps at me for no apparent reason or is just passive-aggressive which really irritates me. Rather than just tell me her problem(s) with me, this particular individual speaks under her breath or makes condescending remarks. I have done my best to ignore this woman, but in this setting I report to her. I have been very professional with her and have told her recently to kindly refrain from making inappropriate remarks about my professionalism and my manner of providing care. She has since given me added grief. What can i do with Nurse Racheted?

[adam90803]

Running to management works maybe 10% of the time studies show.

Stop being the professional nice guy who ignores and confront the person each and every time she speaks under her breath and makes condescending remarks.

"Excuse me I didn't hear what you just said. When you talk under your breath it makes me feel..............." "You may not have meant it this way, but let me tell you how your remark just sounded. It sounded condescending, can we talk about this?".

Try to get to what the real issue is. She may not like men, she may not like you for some particular reason. There might be something you don't see that you need to work on.

Be relentless and confront each and every time, no matter how busy and tedious it becomes. Try this for a week or so. "We talked about this before, but it keeps happening, can we talk about why this is so? Would you like to have a meeting without your supervisor on how we can address this issue, because I'm becoming very frustrated that we can't seem to resolve it?"

Having the person present when you involve management is better than going behind her back.

awesome. thanks.

[CITCAT]

as a woman who stumbled in this site probably old enough to be your mother i must say this as a nurse i understand even as a female it happens whoknows maybe nurse racthet is premenu or menopause? this could be reason for her behavour working with woman is not easy believe me i have ran into some real well never mind and they woner why males dont go into nursing shame on them we need male nurses who is going take care my butt when get old the old gals need you all hang in there kidd i would take tweetys advisement well nurse rachet ticks you just look aat her as some pitiful frmale nurse in your mind

[cooblu]

don't be affraid of losing the job, when the "managers" feel they need to get rid of you anything becomes an issue. but i would prepare by doing a little job shopping, and start keeping a journal of your incounters with the said charge nurse. when things come to an impasse then take your case of hostile workplace to an attourney. the other replies are valid means too. my advice is to have some hard evidence when this thing blows up you don't want to be sitting there looking like a dummy.

[pawashrn]

if you feel you are being singled out.

1) don't talk to others about it. This may be judged as starting rumors and can be used against you.

2) get a notebook and keep track of the incidences, her remarks, your remarks. this can be used as evidence, otherwise it is her word against yours, remember dates and times

3) Silence can be interpreted as rudeness, everyone knows when they are purposely being ignored.

4) Invite her to lunch and let her know what the subject is. talking it out. outside the work enviroment can clear the air, it maybe just a misunderstanding or does she see great potential in you and is trying the best way she knows how to get you to reach it. Some times people mean well, but just don't know the best path

Give her a chance and if it fails or your thoughts are true. Transfer to a different unit