Where do I NCLEX-Re-Begin...

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In Jesus Name I am Down,

The devil is way to busy this year, and when it comes to this NCLEX-RN exam I am upset and exhausted from all of the studying for it, then to finally take it and not get the results I desired hurts more then I can bare. No matter how much I pray-&-pray the pain wont go away. Its like being hit by a truck. This is hard, and I put a lot of energy into it, and I know I have to put more energy into seeing my way through it to succeed, but I cant help but to feel a certain type of way about it all.

So what now, Questions, Questions, Questions of the same again? Many late nights and early days of none stop research and reading. Mountains of test taking strategies. Lets not forget the money that has to be spent to retest. My brain is in over drive with life, and in high power mode of hurt with how my dreams just came to a dramatic halt. You really dont plan to fail or to be set-back when you have a family, and life going on that wont stop just because your dreams hit a major hurdle.

I thank God for the 2 friends that I made on this site whom are motivating, encouraging, and helping me through this process. I am relatively new to the site, and I dont mind motivating others, and I will pray about the needs, but it comes a time when we as people have to examine ourselves.

I know the nursing world is a business, but it also a profession and dreams to many. This profession will make and break you if you are not careful. Lord knows i am not happy with being broken, but I cant give up even with my Mojo being really bruised. The pain of going back in cuts deep, because to be vulnerable in front of the testing screen again, and not knowing your fate really puts me into a place of unease. I need the Lord to handle this, because I know I cant, but sometimes venting about it helps the flesh to be okay.

Jesus take the wheel.

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I think (personally) a lot of graduates place too much stock on this exam. That increases the stress level. I know plans are being made based on nclex success. But what if you don't pass? Life goes on!

That being said, I'm a true Believer as well. I failed my first attempt at the nclex-pn in 1985...the lights didn't go off, food was still on the table, the world did not cease to exist. You better believe I was disappointed, though. But life went on, and I failed a few more exams over the years...the last being 4 years ago during my pursuit of the BSN. Nobody cared but me. I got over it and moved on to plan B.

if you tackle things with no back-up plan, you're going to fall flat on your face even after you pass. Search for the threads on this forum that talks about "got my RN-now what", or "got my first nursing job-now what", or 'made an error-now what'. It doesn't end with passing or failing the nclex. It's the now-whats that never end.

Focus! Develop your plan B based on the candidate performance report...simple. God helps those who help themselves. Good luck!

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Hello,

I would say stress would be the optimal word for taking one the biggest exams of your life, such as the NCLEX-RN. Its a start to your own personnel practice and new beginning of what you've studied and worked so hard to become. I really dont live my life in the "Get Over It" factor, as implied in your statement, because everyone needs a time to grieve through their issues, and figure out what moves needs to be made to fix their problems to make their own situation better for their lives.

Everyone's situation is very unique and different for themselves, and how it is handle it is very crucial to their recovery process. With being a medical mind, therapeutic communication is everything, especially with nursing. The ability to care about ones emotional state of being is why we are, who and what we are. I would never tell a addict just stop smoking, if I know their battling is a losing situation alone, because it doesn't help much, and I would never tell the suicidal individual "Oh dont worry, you will get over it soon," because that's not helpful either.

What I do know is that Nursing is my Plan A,B-&-C, and getting myself fine tuned to get back into the study swing of things is difficult right now, but it will get done. And as a firm believer in Christ, the cliche' "God helps those who helps themselves," is a mockery of His word, Because God helps those who prayers for His help and seeks His face and the kingdom of His righteousness, then is when He adds those desires of your heart to your life. So I will keep praying for the change that is soon coming my way, with my faith that He will provide.

Thank you for posting your thoughts and story though.

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We all have different paths in life that we take where the unexpected sometimes happens. From reading your post its seems you put a lot of time and effort into this. You have a right to go through your emotions of how you feel. Stay focused and strong and you will make it through this.

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Amen I am, and will do what I need and have to do according to God's plan to be successful. This has been a up an down struggle, and the greatest sacrifice to my family just get to this place, and too much to bare at times, but I never let up. I will never let up on my dreams, and future for myself and family. No test is the stamp to my end, But the pain behind minor defeats after the greatest sacrifices can knock the wind out of you, especially when you are praying vigorously for great outcomes. It just hurts like hell.

No I dont want a pity party, I'm just trying to find my way back to my fight after the smoke, and damage has been done. That's the strength I'm praying for. Being intelligent is only half of the battle that was already won by me. I know I have to keep running this race until it is won, and Lord knows this delay hurts, but I'm still in the race and praying.

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Going to chime in - I haven't passed the NCLEX (yet... this journey is really going on forever and I lost my bag of trail mix!)

I've had a lot of obstacles in my life and there was a point way back where I figured I should just stop trying with life. I've gone through hell and back just to get in to school - I moved to a foreign country and nothing transferred, not even my high school grades, so I had to start over from scratch (and that's not even the half of it, but that's a story for another day).

When obstacles came up, I allowed myself time to cry it out but I didn't let the obstacles deter me. If I stopped I'd only be letting myself down - if I wasn't succeeding then there was a hole in my strategy and it was my job to find it and fix it.

I agree with what BSNbeDone says - they're not discounting your feelings, but reminding you that it's not the end of the world. This thought gives me hope. If I keep hitting obstacles, the world will keep spinning and I'll have time to find a new strategy and try again.

There's a few threads on here that have mentioned Uworld for the NCLEX if you haven't tried that. A lot of people have said it's awesome and worth the small-ish fee~

I also don't believe that the phrase "God helps those who helps themselves" is a mockery - I guess it just depends on your interpretation of it. I know you're feeling a bit raw and sensitive at the moment, but I don't think that BSNbeDone meant anything bad by it. To be honest I was going to say something similar - When I was in a dark place and struggling, it wasn't until I started stepping forward that things started going favorably. I could pray all I wanted, but unless I was proactive nothing was going to happen. A bachelors degree wasn't going to fall out of the sky and into my lap - but if I kept working hard and asking for strength, I knew I'd be able to continue.

Be the change you want to see, I guess?

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I thank you for your words, and thoughts, but I highly think the context and parameters behind my message/vent has you entangled in the understanding that moving forward by me wasn't going to happen, and in fact it is. Grief is the issue here, & I do disagree strongly with the "Get Over It," mentality, because everyone's path is seriously different. Healing is another avenue that is being addressed as well, which differs from person to person. Sry about your unsuccessful attempt, & hopfefully you regroup & make it through.

Bibically speaking, you will never find in scripture that God helps those who helps themselves. It's a man made cliche', that you are free to indulge in on if you like, but what you do find is too, "Lean not unto your own understand, & to trust in Him (The Lord God) & He will direct your path, and to keep faith." But I won't impose my faith onto you, because I have no clue what you believe. I don't want to go back-&-forth with you, or anyone about a post I made about myself either, but you are entitled to your opinion, & I thank you for it. Work is the avenue, but faith is the substance for the unseen things to happen.

My situation I know is my own that I am dealing with, & I am speaking from a heart whom has graduated through quite a few degrees (meaning more then 2, no boasting) & personally this (feat) affects me, & is affecting me much differently, then any other from me in a lifetime filled with ups & downs, and im sure for anyone who is trying to do things in a positive way, & be a assets to society.

Note: I don't disregard anyone's opinion, but if your theory doesn't work for my life, then that's, that. Thank you again for your story.

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Hello,

I would say stress would be the optimal word for taking one the biggest exams of your life, such as the NCLEX-RN. Its a start to your own personnel practice and new beginning of what you've studied and worked so hard to become. I really dont live my life in the "Get Over It" factor, as implied in your statement, because everyone needs a time to grieve through their issues, and figure out what moves needs to be made to fix their problems to make their own situation better for their lives.

Everyone's situation is very unique and different for themselves, and how it is handle it is very crucial to their recovery process. With being a medical mind, therapeutic communication is everything, especially with nursing. The ability to care about ones emotional state of being is why we are, who and what we are. I would never tell a addict just stop smoking, if I know their battling is a losing situation alone, because it doesn't help much, and I would never tell the suicidal individual "Oh dont worry, you will get over it soon," because that's not helpful either.

What I do know is that Nursing is my Plan A,B-&-C, and getting myself fine tuned to get back into the study swing of things is difficult right now, but it will get done. And as a firm believer in Christ, the cliche' "God helps those who helps themselves," is a mockery of His word, Because God helps those who prayers for His help and seeks His face and the kingdom of His righteousness, then is when He adds those desires of your heart to your life. So I will keep praying for the change that is soon coming my way, with my faith that He will provide.

Thank you for posting your thoughts and story though.

You completely missed my point. I didn't realize you were here looking for sympathy or any 'there-theres'. So, on that note, good luck toy you.

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You completely missed my point. I didn't realize you were here looking for sympathy or any 'there-theres'. So, on that note, good luck toy you.

Lord Knows I am done with this. We can respectfully disagree, and move on, because after all, this message was about me, and my experience. I wasn't looking or asking for anything, and I have what I need.

Have a blessed day.

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