What to do??

lilyteen · Jan 20, 2008

Hopefully things will work out for you. Perhaps it is just that you both are so caught up in the stress of school, that just a day or two of some rest and relaxation might bring you both back to your senses. I am sure you already know this, but undergoing any life-changing events is not recommended while attending nursing school. A divorce or something of that magnitude is certainly a rough situation to be in when also pursuing a degree in college. Please stay strong and know that there are many of us out here, just like you, struggling. Hope you can find some solace and comfort on these boards, because we all can feel your pain and frustration. I just found out 2 weeks ago that my mother has end-stage lung cancer. It has metastasized to her brain, her lymph nodes, adrenal glands. She is also suffering from superior vena cava syndrome, due to enlarged tumors in her chest. I am sitting her right now wondering how I am ever going to get through this ... just like you. Good luck in whatever happens, but look for the strength to forge ahead and you will get through whatever life sends your way.

Justforus · Jan 20, 2008

Thanks lilyteen for your kind words. Im so sorry to hear about your mom. I send my prayers. My problems seem so not worth mentioning when I hear that other people are going through things that are much more painful.

This isnt the first fight, things have been bad for abut a month or so, and yes I know you shouldnt go through life changing events while in school. But at the same time I wont be able to make it through school with so much negitivity around me.

**Hugs to you and your mom**

vivasmom · Jan 20, 2008

My heart goes out to both of you.

locolorenzo22, BSN, RN · Jan 20, 2008

Prayers and thoughts go out to both of you.....

It's hard when the people you look to for support decide that they can't be there for you anymore....it bites. You have to remember priorities...Family, friends, school, and work....Life will always be after us, but what does not destroy us makes us better.

and lily....sorry to hear about your mom...perhaps now is not the time for school...enjoy the time she has left with you...and know that your expierences with family make the basis for the kind of care you give others...you will always remember that one nice nurse....

NoviceRN10 · Jan 20, 2008

Is this your boyfriend or your husband that has decided to bail on you? If it's not your spouse, I'd be greatful that you don't have to worry about going through a divorce as you get yourself through nursing school. You don't need him! You might need him for childcare and support, but if he's negative about you bettering yourself and is immature enough to think you spending time in class and on studies is too much for him to handle, you are better off without him! Don't let him stop you from fulfilling your dream of becoming a nurse.

caliotter3 · Jan 20, 2008

To different degrees, many find that significant others are not willing to provide support. You have to learn to find the support elsewhere, or deal with your commitments without the support. Remember, this is an example of things to come. If he is not willing now, how will he react when other life circumstances require him to step up and be there for you and the children? Don't expend energy worrying about him or trying to fix the broken relationship. You have plenty on your plate with school and the children. Instead, try to find some time for yourself where you can rest and reenergize for each trying day. Our thoughts are with you.