What to do when on the hit list????

[brwneyegal]

Hello Everyone,

I just found out through the grape vine that I may be on the hit list of the "in crowd" click at work. Something about trying to make someone quit then trying to make me quit. I do not know how I should feel about this. I like my job. I work as a hospice nurse at a hospice center. The click are day shift nurses who think blankety blank blank. I really do not care about them. What I do care about are my patients and the girls I work with. We get along fine. What do you think?????? What should I do?????? I think I will keep on working my job until I find it unbearable to work here anymore then take my EXPERIENCE and go somewhere else!!!!!! What would you do??????

[Selke]

I disagree that it's a gender trait. I think such behavior is a product of an environment where there are little opportunities to advance, and where the problem population is not very sophisticated (perhaps lacking in advanced university education, experience in higher-level jobs outside nursing, etc.)

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As I see it, in nursing, the stuff seems especially petty as most of the folks doing it lack education and just sound like ignorant, whiney crybabies. Gender doesn't matter.

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[JBudd, MSN]

It doesn't always take a "clique" to go after you, sometimes it is just one instigator who stirs everyone else up.

I've been at this hospital many years, yet when one traveler decided she hated me, I got burned. She gossiped about me to people on other shifts, kept going on and on about how I never helped out, etc. When my boss called me in for "counseling", she said if it were just that traveler she'd have ignored the complaints "pouring in", but when regular staff started complaining, she had to take notice.

Now, if you're having trouble with a patient, and I (as charge) ask several times how you are doing and you say fine, deny the need for help, then a day shifter decides she has to stay over and help you because "I wouldn't" :angryfire , but noone tells me she is in there .... I get counseled for not helping! because the day shifter wrote me up after you told her to.

Just an example of how things can get twisted around.

Funny how after her contract was up all the complaints dried up and went away. I'm still here. And getting good work reviews.

Don't just quit. don't get worked up about it (easier said than done, I lost some sleep over the above garbage). Like the others have said, keep notes if you do start noticing anything odd, so that you have some defense at hand when you get slammed between the eyes with unfounded complaints or twisted stories. If you are union, be sure to take a rep with you to any "counseling" sessions. If not, try to take someone with you anyway.

But if you haven't noticed anything yourself, I'd take a good look at why this CNA is trying to stir things up. Is it a real warning or does she like to seem like she is "in the know" about everything?

Good luck in whatever happens. Hospice nurses deserve A LOT of respect. :)