Wednesday September 21 2022

Tweety, BSN, RN · Sep 21, 2022

Good morning.

Joe, hope you have a quiet day.

I made my car reservations to drive the couple of hours from the airport to my parents even though my sister said she'd drive up and pick me up. Flights and car rentals sure have taken a hit by inflation.

I almost accidentally bought some apples for 5.99 a pound because they had them in the wrong bin. I noticed at checkout and had her remove them from my order. $5.99 a pound...for organic apples. Who buys these?

Times like these as my finances dwindle with varying expenses like a broken refrigerator, needing to fly home more frequently, a visit to the dog vet for $900, the financial markets dwindling my retirement funds, my hope for my own future doesn't look as bright and my confidence dwindles. Everyone says "don't worry, things will come back, you'll be okay", but I'm a realist and a negative person to boot. LOL

I need to mow the grass from all the rain. It's still hot and muggy.

Have a great day.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Sep 21, 2022

Joe, I'm glad your dad got his apartment worked out. And congrats on your work anniversary.

Tweety, hope your mom is doing better. She should feel better after getting all that fluid off. I'm glad your sister is there and is able to help. I moved back to Oklahoma when I saw that the time was coming for my parents. Not everyone can or would want to do that. My parents certainly didn't expect anyone to do it. They had listed me as the healthcare decision maker, in part because they thought I'd be less emotional than my sister. Even so, after my mother's pancreatic cancer diagnosis when she was in the hospital and not eating, I thought she'd be OK with a dobhoff feeding tube for a short time just so she could get some nutrition. But she refused.

Stars, the Al-Anon group will be proud of you for realizing that this is HIS problem. You can be supportive without making it your problem.

dianah, key lime cake with cream cheese frosting sounds good. I like limes and I like cake and I like cream cheese ? Once when we went to Florida I tried a key lime cheesecake recipe that was OK. Not so good that I wanted to make it again.

I'm feeling much better today, only have the occasional cough and scratchy throat. Will even try singing at choir practice. Finally made it through all the accumulated emails but many of them are flagged for follow-up. Too many.

The EDO ends tomorrow for stepson. Will he stay or will he go? Our niece was able to talk with his therapist at the facility and we've shared as much information as we can. Our attorney had some miscommunication with my husband and thought we were on hold until the holidays (!) but now understands there is urgency. Meanwhile, it would be a big help if we had someone in Indiana willing to be a co-guardian. Stepdaughter initially said yes but is having second thoughts after being asked to get information together and stuff signed and notarized quickly. This family can be incredibly frustrating. If our niece volunteers, that's great, but I wouldn't ask. She has a job and a teenager and a significant other who also has teenagers.

nursej22, MSN, RN · Sep 22, 2022

Do we ever stop worrying about family? Kids, parents, siblings, partners? I guess that means we have heart, but wow, it’s seems so much.

I drove to Seattle to get a 12 lead ekg this morning, and I guess it was okay. I have to go tomorrow and Friday. Dd is going with me tomorrow and we’re going to make a day of it. Museum, shopping, or what ever comes up. I also ordered new eye glasses.

Take care of yourselves, all.

No Stars In My Eyes · Sep 22, 2022

Hey y'all~

Joe, The thunderstorms you had went North of us; we've been rainless for a little while and may not get any til maybe the weekend. But the temps will drop out of the 90's down to the 70's! Oooowheeee, that'll be nice!

Yeah, Tweety, I'm with you on the financial suck from the checkbooks. I paid of one chunk of my credit-card, but not nearly enough to reduce the balance as much as I'd have liked. I am going to have to go through the statement and see what I can eliminate. I also am kind of in a funk about the future, which is not the way to live in the "the now". But as y'all are suitably informed, you'll understand why.

Hubby fussing about going to that B-word doctor at his regular doctor's practice on Friday. I asked if he knew her and he said no; so how do you know she's a B-word? He informed me that ALL female Dr's were.!!! Then he said he wasn't going to go to the gut doctor next week, because "There ain't nothin' wrong with my gut." If it was me, I'd rather know that for sure, and the way they find that out is by doing labs or tests to rule out something badly serious. He repeated there wasn't anything wrong with his stomach. I asked if he was going to quit drinking so he'd know for sure if it's the vodka or something else. He said he didn't plan to give up drinking yet. I asked him if he planned to just continue on the way he was going and hope to die quickly? He said no. But I have told myself it would be a good idea to go to the funeral home his family uses, and just find out of how the sequence of things might go, were he to croak. Things I'll need to know, one of these days. So, you see I am negative and realistic, too.

Ado, I don't know what EDO stands for, but I get the gist. I sure hope things will start working out better for your stepson. And that the guardianship issue is resolved. Difficult times indeed.

j22, I have to make an appointment to have my eyes examined and I DEFINITELY need a new prescription for the lenses. I don't even use the FAR distance of the lens at top, I peer over the top of the glasses which are slid down the nose. I can see everything much more clearly and sharply without the "help" of that lens! Then I have the middle-distance portion of the lens and that is the part of the glasses I am now reading through. Then the section which I am supposed to read through does a bunch of unhelpful blurring. And finally, I see circles of rainbows around the moon, headlights and street-lights, and we all know what that's a symptom of! But that's the least of my worries.

I can proudly say I did not get a "het-up" as they say here in the South, when I was talking earlier with my hubby. I'm not going to argue or try to convince him of A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G. I will, however, be going to the doctor with him Friday. I'm hoping he will agree to the Gut-Dr's appt next week; wondering if I should shoot an e-mail to his primary doc, who is most decidedly NOT a B-word woman doctor! Last time I was at the appt w/ him, that Dr said, "Now, I'm not mad with you, but I do want you to know you are killing yourself, the way you are going now." I figure if anybody could give it straight to my husband that way, he might maybe ought to be able to convince hubby to go see the Gastro-Enterologist next week. If he would just go ahead and go through all this then there MIGHT be a little time for us to actually have a vacation....and dare I say it? Have some FUN!

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Sep 22, 2022

Here's to hoping for the best! I mean that more sincerely than it comes across, I think. I've had a fairly negative attitude today and I'm trying to be more hopeful. EDO: emergency detention order? The 72-hour psych hold to determine if the patient is a threat to self or others. If the doctor decides he needs to be committed against his will, he stays. Otherwise he is free to stay inpatient or to go. He has never chosen to stay when given a choice. I guess he told our niece today that he would be going home on Saturday. She plans to check with the therapist about that. We learned today that his car insurance lapsed due to nonpayment. And they wouldn't allow Hubs to catch up the payments and keep the insurance.