Wednesday March 8 2023

Tweety, BSN, RN · Mar 8, 2023

Good morning!

Insomnia bugged me on top of my girl dogs snoring. She's the only dog I've ever heard snore. Around 2AM I finally decided on half a sleeping pill and at 3AM I turned on the light and started to read. Next thing I know it's 5:45 and the light is still on.

I've done some house cleaning chores since I did none of them yesterday. Will cook and meal prep. I need to do a bit better about having something to eat at home when I run out of time like yesterday's Chinese food run. It was good though.

In talking with best friend about traveling he nixed a trip to Italy I was interested in and we decided on perhaps an alternative and then nixed the date I wanted to go because he would have to pay for a cat sitter and his snowbird cat sitter would be down in November, but the flights were cheaper in January. This man has hundreds of thousands of dollars at his disposal but won't pay for a cat sitter. But I guess a frugal lifestyle put him in that financial position and is hard to let go of.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Mar 8, 2023

I would *like* to have a "place for everything and everything in its place" but that's just not how I roll. I joke about being "organizationally impaired" but really do think there's some ADHD or something going on that creates more of a challenge. Then there's the fact that a few weeks ago I actually put the eggs away in the cupboard, but that's beside the point. ?

Feeling down today because we got an email from the attorney in Indiana last night, asking for another $500 as he tries to find a public guardian for stepson since stepdaughter chooses to resign. He also mentioned that someone might want to get stepson's car out of impound where it's probably accumulating large fees. I still feel some obligation, especially since I pushed to *have* a guardian, and could withdraw some money from my retirement account. Now that I'm over 59.5, there's no penalty, just taxes. I'd almost have to just go to Indiana and insist he go with me to get the car, and then ... what? I don't have enough $$ to pay all his bills. I could make sure he has filed for disability. I only have about 70 hours of PTO and I have plans for those. I have beaucoup hours of sick time. I know my boss would be willing to let me go deal with it. Hubs could go but then I'd be stuck at home taking care of his mother. Hubs will not want to even send the $500 much less do anything else. Positive thoughts, prayers, good wishes, etc. welcome as we figure out what to do. If anything. Where does it end? And when it will it all start back up again?

No Stars In My Eyes · Mar 9, 2023

Gosh, Ado, what a mess re: your stepson! I have added you to the prayer list, oh, and him, too. Hope it miraculously all falls into place. I know what it's like to be in a rough spot w/ stepkids. Mine is 48 and a real P.I.A. Yeh, and my MiL, too. These 'relatives' by marriage.....smh.

More errands today, did not do any room cleaning.

Nannie poured her entire glass of cranapple down her front side when she went to take her pills just before supper. She got the pills into her mouth, and tilted the glass to drink from it, but it was about 2-3 inches away from her lips! I just threw a large towel over her front side and decided she could eat her supper that way. I changed her after supper. When I got her up to change her, she didn't even remember spilling her juice all over herself.

When I went to CVS to get Nannie's 'disposables', I had a 25% off total of purchase coupon AND a Coupon for $10 "free bucks". I got some other things, and ended up SAVING $45! Pretty good deal, I'd say.

Don't know what's going on for tomorrow, except trash day is Friday, so I usually get it all together on Thursday night and put it out. (We don't have bears, so putting it out the night before is permitted here. Up in Asheville you were supposed to have it out at 7 AM, but not before, because of the bears.

Welp. I'm going upstairs to read and nibble a little snacky stuff. See yez'all tomorrow!

(I wish I had a dog to sleep with me, even if it did snore)?

Editorial Team / Admin · Mar 9, 2023

Ado, I feel for you, with the stepson situation. I really do. Prayers for you.

Best description of my housekeeping is: "There appears to have been a struggle."

Still wading through events and things that need doing and thinking about, r/t my sister's death on Friday. I am 500 miles away, and had no idea of her wishes or what is where. I am in touch with a couple of her friends from near her place. I have made all the mortuary arrangements. If she made some already, there is no way I could know. I have done what I felt I needed to do, to move things along. Still of concern is the fact that landlord will not allow any "third party" to enter her place to go through things. S/he is bound by the CA guidelines of landlord responsibilities. It's a mess. I JUST today got her SS#, through a roundabout way (friend who had paperwork from when she took sis to a hospital a month ago, found the paperwork, which had her SS#). That's kind of the way things are going. Ppl are asking if they can have her ashes. Ppl are asking if there are any services planned. Ppl are asking if there will be an obituary (newspaper obituary will run $160 for one day, to $260 for three days). So, I need to write that and arrange (and pay for) that. I. Am. Tired.

Thanks for letting me vent. Am sad, too. But that goes with the territory.

Thanks, too, for posting about your goings-on. I feel a part of things, though I am not physically present.

Have a good evening.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Mar 9, 2023

Ado, that is a tough situation. It never ends.

(((Dianah))). I gather your sister didn't have a spouse or children to help.

Reminds me that I should make my wishes more clear and make sure things are in order. I had a card of a funeral home in my wallet that stated where I wanted to go and I think it's all worn out that stated I wanted to be cremated, but that's it. But I think that deal is no longer valid. As my parents have aged, I've removed them from any burden and passed that on to my sister. She understands my living will. My sister and I commented that all three of us siblings are now single. My sister remains estranged from her daughter. I think first we're going to have to deal with our parents who have set aside some money for us to take care of things. Not a pleasant thought.